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What do you think of Lying?
I wonder how many people think lying is good or bad, and why? Is lying truly necessary to achieve something?
You guys are more than welcome to support your answers based on religion, personal experiences or politics.
You guys are more than welcome to support your answers based on religion, personal experiences or politics.
Everybody lies but some people lie more than others. I honestly have no reason to lie to people. I think many people lie because they are afraid. If I did lie, it would be with the best intentions. (if someone asked if they looked fat in an outfit... I may just suggest another type of outfit for their body style and not lie if I could help it).
And how could "faking an orgasm" be of personal gain, or how could it make you look better, or how could faking it protect you?
I think we're all talking about very different things here.
April, in your case, lying isn't acceptable. Your daughter should be honest with you. I agree on that.
Teko, yes, we do have to teach our children to tell the truth, absolutely. And I love your thoughts about lying.
But is lying always a bad thing? Why?
Plateletgal,
Believe it or not, nobody "grows out of it" simply, because lying isn't a kid's thing. Everybody lies. It may not be a good thing all the time, but when a lie becomes necessary, and in a lot of cases, it does become necessary (not necessarily to protect yourself or make yourself look good) then why see it as something bad? Should we all lie all the time? Of course not. But life isn’t easy at all, and many of us may very well be faced with an extreme case in which we’d have to lie.
If you got laid off right now, and your family depends on your work, would you not lie if you had to on a job interview by saying you’d be thrilled to join the company even if you despise it with your heart and soul? Wait, I know, yes, you would.
Dr. Gail’s statement may be right but such report does not consider numerous aspects of life human beings are faced with on a daily basis.
My question :’What do you think of lying’ is open for not just one case or situation but to a more general atmosphere. I did not ask “what do you think of bad lies, or what do you think of white lies. And I did it precisely because I wanted to read your comments (and thank you so much for posting) on both an unnecessary lie or a necessary one. Hmm…let me see, if I were to base myself on one specific scenario, I’d say my dad is your typical liar and that always interfered with my relationship with him. I hate to see him lie so much.
But let’s just remember that there are also cases in which you have to lie, not to protect yourself but to protect your kid or mother, maybe to save them from starvation. That was the case of one of my co-workers. Now, anyone, tell me, did he do a bad thing because he lied to the boss during the interview by saying he knew Microsoft Office very well, knew how to communicate with people and had office experience JUST to get that job to feed his family? He had been laid off. He knows nothing related to word or excel. He stutters when talking to people on the phone because he gets nervous. He doesn’t this scared to be involved in new projects because he fears he will mess up and so he ends up not helping anyone. But he is getting paid and his 2 kids are getting fed. At the end of he day, isn’t that what matter in this case?
Please…..if you do not agree with me I can understand….but I doubt anyone would act in a different manner if put on that situation; because in the end, family is first.
I think we're all talking about very different things here.
April, in your case, lying isn't acceptable. Your daughter should be honest with you. I agree on that.
Teko, yes, we do have to teach our children to tell the truth, absolutely. And I love your thoughts about lying.
But is lying always a bad thing? Why?
Plateletgal,
Believe it or not, nobody "grows out of it" simply, because lying isn't a kid's thing. Everybody lies. It may not be a good thing all the time, but when a lie becomes necessary, and in a lot of cases, it does become necessary (not necessarily to protect yourself or make yourself look good) then why see it as something bad? Should we all lie all the time? Of course not. But life isn’t easy at all, and many of us may very well be faced with an extreme case in which we’d have to lie.
If you got laid off right now, and your family depends on your work, would you not lie if you had to on a job interview by saying you’d be thrilled to join the company even if you despise it with your heart and soul? Wait, I know, yes, you would.
Dr. Gail’s statement may be right but such report does not consider numerous aspects of life human beings are faced with on a daily basis.
My question :’What do you think of lying’ is open for not just one case or situation but to a more general atmosphere. I did not ask “what do you think of bad lies, or what do you think of white lies. And I did it precisely because I wanted to read your comments (and thank you so much for posting) on both an unnecessary lie or a necessary one. Hmm…let me see, if I were to base myself on one specific scenario, I’d say my dad is your typical liar and that always interfered with my relationship with him. I hate to see him lie so much.
But let’s just remember that there are also cases in which you have to lie, not to protect yourself but to protect your kid or mother, maybe to save them from starvation. That was the case of one of my co-workers. Now, anyone, tell me, did he do a bad thing because he lied to the boss during the interview by saying he knew Microsoft Office very well, knew how to communicate with people and had office experience JUST to get that job to feed his family? He had been laid off. He knows nothing related to word or excel. He stutters when talking to people on the phone because he gets nervous. He doesn’t this scared to be involved in new projects because he fears he will mess up and so he ends up not helping anyone. But he is getting paid and his 2 kids are getting fed. At the end of he day, isn’t that what matter in this case?
Please…..if you do not agree with me I can understand….but I doubt anyone would act in a different manner if put on that situation; because in the end, family is first.
I agree with your post. I know as children we all lie. But, like you said, hopefully as adults we've grown out of it.
It probably just depends on everyone own personal definition of lying...If the check-out lady at the grocery store ask how I am, no, I'm probably not going to tell her I'm awful if it's been a bad day(kids screaming, PMS, etc.). But, I guess I don't consider that a lie. I'll probably just tell her I've had better days and move on.
It probably just depends on everyone own personal definition of lying...If the check-out lady at the grocery store ask how I am, no, I'm probably not going to tell her I'm awful if it's been a bad day(kids screaming, PMS, etc.). But, I guess I don't consider that a lie. I'll probably just tell her I've had better days and move on.
I disagree that lying is a human trait. The reasons why people lie (according to Dr. Gail Saltz) is:
. to protect themselves
. to make themselves look good (my thoughts... many of these people have low self-esteem and/or are envious of their co-workers, friends, etc.)
. for personal gain (these people often have personality disorders... like Casey Anthony)
I'm sure we all have lied when we were children, but I would hope that most of us have grown out of it.
. to protect themselves
. to make themselves look good (my thoughts... many of these people have low self-esteem and/or are envious of their co-workers, friends, etc.)
. for personal gain (these people often have personality disorders... like Casey Anthony)
I'm sure we all have lied when we were children, but I would hope that most of us have grown out of it.
Ok, Sara I’ll keep you from being the only one telling about lies.
I will lie when I am told something that hurts me deeply, I will often say “I understand”, or “it’s ok no problem”. What the heck it is only me getting hurt right, why let others see my pain. I may also talk to someone on a superficial level even when I have disdain for someone because of something they said or did to me or a friend, as long as it wasn’t physical or had to do with hurting a child, and yet others wonder why I would ever talk to them again. I guess that is sort of living a lie, right?
I will lie when I am told something that hurts me deeply, I will often say “I understand”, or “it’s ok no problem”. What the heck it is only me getting hurt right, why let others see my pain. I may also talk to someone on a superficial level even when I have disdain for someone because of something they said or did to me or a friend, as long as it wasn’t physical or had to do with hurting a child, and yet others wonder why I would ever talk to them again. I guess that is sort of living a lie, right?
Well here i come again fessin up to a lie!!!! I used to go out on occasion with this one guy and he wasnt real great in the sack so i would fake the big "O" just to have it over quicker!!!!! Like teko said no way would i do it now!!!!! Why am i the only fessin up to lies here!!!!! LOL
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