Well I went through menopause for no apparent reason at 28 - before even my mum did! As I had already had my family I decided to let nature take its course. I read heaps and went back to uni to study health further to find out answers but there still isn't much info out there for women experiencing early menopause.
I'm not a big fan of hormones period because they do carry dangers as well. I think this is a situation where the benefits have to outweigh the risks. I recognize that the reason for the hormones is because they want you to shed the uterine lining as it can be the cause of uterine cancer if it's not properly shed over time. Perhaps, getting a second opinion would be worthy of a try because with your history, it may not be the wisest thing to do in taking the hormones. Perhaps, it may be that you want to ask about what would happen if you don't take BCP? What are the risks associated with that?
I'm currently in the process of waiting to see a gynecologist as well due to a build up endometrium (I'm 53) that isn't shedding (16 mm) so, I figure that I will have a uterine biopsy as well. Can you tell me what that felt like? Was it painful? Did it last long?