It really sounds like you are having a difficult time. There is obviously something happening to cause these problems, but it is difficult to know what that is without an exam and more information. Although allergy has been ruled out by one doctor, it may be worth talking with an allergist and getting a second opinion. Swollen eyes, weight gain and hands that feel numb and like there are pins and needles could be due to fluid accumulation, and that has many causes from high blood pressure to kidney disease to metabolism problems and hormonal problems such as Cushing's syndrome. While mild hot flashes can be due to menopause, these other problems are likely not normally due to menopause. Given the situation, I can only suggest you seek another opinion and see an allergist or a very good internist. They should be able to come up with an answer. You should worry about this enough to find the answer.
Machelle M. Seibel, MD
oops sorry to disagree with a doctor.didnt see this was expert forum....so sorry....
It sounds to me like you are having allergic reaction to soomething perhaps. Try taking benadryl and see if that helps. Weight gain can be from menopause.Fluid retention also another menopause pitfall. Unfortunately many of your symptoms could be from allergy and or menopause or a host of other things. I would keep a journal of foods you are eating in case it is a food allergy also. I hope this helps, good luck......be sure and keep notes to take with you to the doctor, so you don't forget anything.