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17 Year old concerned with negative effects of porn
Hi, im new here, and wondered if any1 could give me advice on this problem.
I've been a porn user since about 12, and of internet since about 14. For the first few years of masterbation, i used my imagination a fair bit for arousal, although eventually began using porn pretty much every day up until recently. I never really considered it bad or an "addiction" of sorts, although it often prevented me from going to bed at a time i'd like to, and spent much time collecting it when introduced to p2p porn file sharing.
In the last year or so however, i've noticed that i often don't get spontaneous erections anymore, except from viewing and/or thinking about hardcore porn. for example, when spotting an attractive girl wearing "revealing" clothing, a few years ago i'm pretty sure i would have got an erection shortly after, but now i wouldn't. Also, my erections tend to be getting weaker and wudn't be sustained for as long as a few years ago. Even when viewing porn movies, it wud only last for about 20-30 secs without any hand interaction.
I am a virgin and have never gotten "intimate" with a girl. From the stories i've read in a popular thread in this forum on porn induced e.d, im concerned that i won't be able to "keep wood" when i have sex for the first time. To me, this is a nightmare, as i imagine my chances of such an opportunity will be very small.
What i'm not sure of is that this loss of spontaneous erections may be porn induced, or as a friend i discussed with this recently put it, the result of sexual maturity. Since i've never gotten intimate, i'm at a loss as to what it could be.
Also, as i think this problem has become apparent since i began using hardcore pornography more frequently than soft core, acquired both online and offline, i'm curious if there are less potent types of pornography, as i'm pretty much not using my imagination when masturbating any more. Maybe i could ditch the videos and settle for pictures, as there is some element of imagination required in order to climax?
I'm not sure if it is relavent to my question or not, i'm not into extreme porn, mostly big-breasted woman and *** shots are my thing, group stuff as far as multiple *** shots on a woman is concerned.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, i'm sorry to any1 who thinks post such as these are clogging up this message boards, but i feel my situation is somewhat unique for the reasons mentioned in this post.
I've been a porn user since about 12, and of internet since about 14. For the first few years of masterbation, i used my imagination a fair bit for arousal, although eventually began using porn pretty much every day up until recently. I never really considered it bad or an "addiction" of sorts, although it often prevented me from going to bed at a time i'd like to, and spent much time collecting it when introduced to p2p porn file sharing.
In the last year or so however, i've noticed that i often don't get spontaneous erections anymore, except from viewing and/or thinking about hardcore porn. for example, when spotting an attractive girl wearing "revealing" clothing, a few years ago i'm pretty sure i would have got an erection shortly after, but now i wouldn't. Also, my erections tend to be getting weaker and wudn't be sustained for as long as a few years ago. Even when viewing porn movies, it wud only last for about 20-30 secs without any hand interaction.
I am a virgin and have never gotten "intimate" with a girl. From the stories i've read in a popular thread in this forum on porn induced e.d, im concerned that i won't be able to "keep wood" when i have sex for the first time. To me, this is a nightmare, as i imagine my chances of such an opportunity will be very small.
What i'm not sure of is that this loss of spontaneous erections may be porn induced, or as a friend i discussed with this recently put it, the result of sexual maturity. Since i've never gotten intimate, i'm at a loss as to what it could be.
Also, as i think this problem has become apparent since i began using hardcore pornography more frequently than soft core, acquired both online and offline, i'm curious if there are less potent types of pornography, as i'm pretty much not using my imagination when masturbating any more. Maybe i could ditch the videos and settle for pictures, as there is some element of imagination required in order to climax?
I'm not sure if it is relavent to my question or not, i'm not into extreme porn, mostly big-breasted woman and *** shots are my thing, group stuff as far as multiple *** shots on a woman is concerned.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, i'm sorry to any1 who thinks post such as these are clogging up this message boards, but i feel my situation is somewhat unique for the reasons mentioned in this post.
Firstly, just wanted to say many thanks for taking the time to reply.
"Be easy on yourself, if it gets up, then it gets up and you can try for sex. If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time. If a woman is willing to be intimate with you, chances are she likes you and will be compassionate if any problems arise."
I think i got it into my head that the first time i'd do it would be in a one night stand kinda situation, where i'd have to perform "right here right now". Although i'd prefer a steady relationship with a girl who is likely to be compassionate to problems as you say, i thought i outta take any opportunity for experience really, and the fact that i thought it was more likely of me having shorter-term relationships. But thinking about, its not the way i'd like it to be, and is probably nothing that i should concern myself with.
Great suggestion: "If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time."
I suppose another advantage of losing my virginity in a steady relationship
"During the times when I had erection problems, I would simply "do other stuff" with her (such as oral stimulation)."
great suggestion also, don't know why i didn't think of that.
"What I discovered is that woman have a whole set of things that they will be worrying about when they get in bed with you"
I'd hope this to be true, but most likely it is!
Was wondering if you'd be able to answer a couple more questions:
1) I've decided im going to cut down big time on using porn, was thinking about 2 times a week. However, would you reccomend mabye leaving it altogether pretty muich, or would this a little extreme?
2) What impact would excercise have on improving my ability to "keep wood"? I've read a couple of places around here that frequent excercise returns "morning wood", which im experiencing a lack of atm lol. Was going to try and excercise for about an hour a day.
Again, thanks for your advice, it essentially helped me realise that i was worrying too much :D
"Be easy on yourself, if it gets up, then it gets up and you can try for sex. If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time. If a woman is willing to be intimate with you, chances are she likes you and will be compassionate if any problems arise."
I think i got it into my head that the first time i'd do it would be in a one night stand kinda situation, where i'd have to perform "right here right now". Although i'd prefer a steady relationship with a girl who is likely to be compassionate to problems as you say, i thought i outta take any opportunity for experience really, and the fact that i thought it was more likely of me having shorter-term relationships. But thinking about, its not the way i'd like it to be, and is probably nothing that i should concern myself with.
Great suggestion: "If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time."
I suppose another advantage of losing my virginity in a steady relationship
"During the times when I had erection problems, I would simply "do other stuff" with her (such as oral stimulation)."
great suggestion also, don't know why i didn't think of that.
"What I discovered is that woman have a whole set of things that they will be worrying about when they get in bed with you"
I'd hope this to be true, but most likely it is!
Was wondering if you'd be able to answer a couple more questions:
1) I've decided im going to cut down big time on using porn, was thinking about 2 times a week. However, would you reccomend mabye leaving it altogether pretty muich, or would this a little extreme?
2) What impact would excercise have on improving my ability to "keep wood"? I've read a couple of places around here that frequent excercise returns "morning wood", which im experiencing a lack of atm lol. Was going to try and excercise for about an hour a day.
Again, thanks for your advice, it essentially helped me realise that i was worrying too much :D
Hey Jamie,
Well man, I gotta say that this is a very common problem these days with all the easy access to porn via the internet. To cut to the chase, yes excessive masturbation to porn can lead to erection problems.
In your case, being a virgin, I wouldn't get too worried about it. Most people's first times are awkward anyway, just because its new and anytime we do something new we have to learn. Each experience will help things get easier and easier.
As for having an erection for when the times comes and you are getting intimate with a woman - I also wouldnt worry too much about this simply because you can choose to avoid sex if you dont have a strong erection.
During the times when I had erection problems, I would simply "do other stuff" with her (such as oral stimulation). Often times I would be able to have sex in the morning because having a nice long sleep, it is easier to get an erection.
Many times I would get stressed about problems that I didn't even have. For example, worrying about what a woman would think about my performance BEFORE I even had a date! First things first.
What I discovered is that woman have a whole set of things that they will be worrying about when they get in bed with you.
Be easy on yourself, if it gets up, then it gets up and you can try for sex. If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time. If a woman is willing to be intimate with you, chances are she likes you and will be compassionate if any problems arise.
Let me know if this helps or if you have further concerns,
Ryan
Well man, I gotta say that this is a very common problem these days with all the easy access to porn via the internet. To cut to the chase, yes excessive masturbation to porn can lead to erection problems.
In your case, being a virgin, I wouldn't get too worried about it. Most people's first times are awkward anyway, just because its new and anytime we do something new we have to learn. Each experience will help things get easier and easier.
As for having an erection for when the times comes and you are getting intimate with a woman - I also wouldnt worry too much about this simply because you can choose to avoid sex if you dont have a strong erection.
During the times when I had erection problems, I would simply "do other stuff" with her (such as oral stimulation). Often times I would be able to have sex in the morning because having a nice long sleep, it is easier to get an erection.
Many times I would get stressed about problems that I didn't even have. For example, worrying about what a woman would think about my performance BEFORE I even had a date! First things first.
What I discovered is that woman have a whole set of things that they will be worrying about when they get in bed with you.
Be easy on yourself, if it gets up, then it gets up and you can try for sex. If not, then just say you want to wait and do it another time. If a woman is willing to be intimate with you, chances are she likes you and will be compassionate if any problems arise.
Let me know if this helps or if you have further concerns,
Ryan
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