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Boyfriend suffering from ED, need advice on how to support him?

We have known each other for 4.5 years now, and we have always had a really active sex life. It's rare that we miss a day. He has always taken a long time to finish, which I never complain about because I love it lol. But for the past few months, he has been losing his hard-ons a lot. During sex sometimes it's too soft to really do much with but he tries anyway. Even when I give him oral, which is pretty often (every other time we bang or so) he can't keep a hard-on.

At first we didn't talk about it, but after a while he brought it up and felt bad about it. Lately he's been really hard on himself about it. He asked me what it could be, and I said it could be his odd job schedule or stress, but the possibility of him not being attracted to me any more has been on my mind.

He said it is probably too much porn. I'm not mad about this because I watch porn regularly, but it doesn't affect my ability to bang him. He also said this has happened before with other partners. I'm open-minded and will try anything, I'll let him do anything to me, but he rarely takes the chance and it's usually normal positions. I have tried suggesting other positions, but he can't keep a hard-on for it to work. We have watched porn while banging a few times in the past, and I wanted to suggest doing that again but he said he was going to stop watching it for a while. I've asked him about his fantasies, etc.

How can I best support him? I love him and want to get through this but I'm also a very sexual person with a high sex drive. I don't mind pleasing myself, but I miss the awesome, awesome sex we used to always have up until a few months ago.
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139792 tn?1498585650
Stop sexual activity for some time.And do few exercises or some techniques as under. Google the word or phrase. Take general health care.
male deer exercise
female deer exercise,
kegel exercises for both.
breathing to orgasm,There types-simultaneous, alternate, circular breathing.
Root chakrs, navel chakra, and throat chakra yogic locks.Difficult but good exercise.
Anal breathing exercise
Learn and practice whichever exercises you like.
139792 tn?1498585650
Stop sexual activity for some time.And do few exercises or some techniques as under. Google the word or phrase. Take general health care.
male deer exercise
female deer exercise,
kegel exercises for both.
breathing to orgasm,There types-simultaneous, alternate, circular breathing.
Root chakrs, navel chakra, and throat chakra yogic locks.Difficult but good exercise.
Anal breathing exercise
Learn and practice whichever exercises you like.
Avatar universal
when he mentions porn, and tries to pass it off as nothing. it should be a red flag.
Porn and masturbation are known to cause ED issues, just look at the other posts on this site. I have porn/mb induced ed.
he most likely watches porn and masturbates frequently, Once you get into an addiction, your body will only respond to being stimulated by porn and "beating" your meat. you should bring up the porn iss and masturbation, and ask how much times he do it per day and per week and how many years. Looks like he has porn/mb issue long before he met you.

its best not to use porn as a crutch to get hard, because that only aggravates the ed.
he needs to stop watching and masturbating for a few months, no fantasizing about sex either. the root of the problem, eventhough he admits that he watches porn, he doesnt see the porn as an issue.
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