We have known each other for 4.5 years now, and we have always had a really active sex life. It's rare that we miss a day. He has always taken a long time to finish, which I never complain about because I love it lol. But for the past few months, he has been losing his hard-ons a lot. During sex sometimes it's too soft to really do much with but he tries anyway. Even when I give him oral, which is pretty often (every other time we bang or so) he can't keep a hard-on.
At first we didn't talk about it, but after a while he brought it up and felt bad about it. Lately he's been really hard on himself about it. He asked me what it could be, and I said it could be his odd job schedule or stress, but the possibility of him not being attracted to me any more has been on my mind.
He said it is probably too much porn. I'm not mad about this because I watch porn regularly, but it doesn't affect my ability to bang him. He also said this has happened before with other partners. I'm open-minded and will try anything, I'll let him do anything to me, but he rarely takes the chance and it's usually normal positions. I have tried suggesting other positions, but he can't keep a hard-on for it to work. We have watched porn while banging a few times in the past, and I wanted to suggest doing that again but he said he was going to stop watching it for a while. I've asked him about his fantasies, etc.
How can I best support him? I love him and want to get through this but I'm also a very sexual person with a high sex drive. I don't mind pleasing myself, but I miss the awesome, awesome sex we used to always have up until a few months ago.