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Circumcision

I'm close to my brother, he's 14 and i'm 19. We share things and talk alot but recently he has been asking questions about his circumcised penis.

1) He tells me that he cannot masterbate without the use of lubricants. Lubricants being, disgusting though it may seem, his own mucus. This is the only way he can ejectalte. He tells me he cannot ejectalate without lubricants, he's often tried but become un-erect and pleasure is low. He wonders if his circumcision has anything to do with it?

2) As a new teenager he wants to do all sorts of stuff with girls, but is afraid as he thinks they will deem his penis 'mutated' or 'weird'. He's shy about confessing his circumcision to girls. In Britain it's not the 'done' thing, i've heard in America it's accepted and popular. Do British teenage girls of 14-16 possibly 14-18 see circumcised penises as something mutilated?

3) My brother is growing increasingly concerned about sex. he wonders if he cannot ejectalate whilst masterbating then he will not be able to ejectalate whilst having sex. Is this statement true or will he be able too?

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I hope you can answer some ,if not all, of my questions.
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well i am 15 and circumsized and i have no prob masturbating without lube, so maybe this is just how you was circumsized, and also most girls around my age prefer uncircumsized cause they prob know nothing about circumcision, other than "oh its a jewish act" so there is the ignorance. Also i had a problem with fear of what others would think up to a point where i just thought i dont care what ppl think really. so u shouldnt really b worried much about other peoples opinions :)
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There's nothing wrong with masturbating with lubricants- it feels better that way! Girls are naturally lubricated so when he has sex he'll be able to ejaculate just like when he's masturbating. And girls don't care if you're circumcised or not- it feels the same.
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funny, was looking this up. im 21 and circumsied, was para as **** for years. especially with girls,teenage years. even with  my mates, know one i know is. wasnt until until a few year ago i showed them, got the **** took out me for a wk the whole jew ****, but the bottom line is chicks love it. my mates know it too and realise. like i told them, a girl doesnt know how wank a circumsied guy so 9/10 of the time  u get a blow job. what would you rather have, my point shut my mates up.

so dont worry about it, its actually good to bee different.
im proud!!
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I live in australia and at a very young age came to find most boys in this country get circumcised at birth, that was back before about 1975, but like most countries the few one the battle and now my generation have about 50% with a foreskin and 50% without.
I grew up with a foreskin, but had 5 brothers with circumcised penises.
This as you can imagine is quite a problem in a hot dusty country like Australia, where i found i had to wash my penis to stop it smelling, but my brother's didn't have this problem.
Teasing is done in Australia/America mostly by the women, whom get satisfaction out of loudly stating the obvious of how they prefer a cut man, (they usually do this when you are the only man in a group of girls, their way of checking you out)
As you can see not being circumcise in some countries can be a psychologically and physically harmful for young boys.
my advise to you is to do something about it, don't listen to people saying you don't need it etc... etc..., the damage is done and you will only become more self conscience as time goes on.
I believe you should talk to your dad about it and then your mum, as well as showing them this message from me, if they don't help you then get them to send you to a good psychologist, and then you can explain your issues with him/her, they will then be forced to make your parents act in the right decision for you.
being circumcised has made me more confident, i don't have smegma (cheese) down there anymore, and find it much less worrying when i go to the urinals in the public toilets for a pee.
I also can go longer in the heat without having to wash my penis, this is of most benefit if you were to become a soldier.
My heart goes out to you, i know what it is like to be in your shoes, but the good fact is that circumcision is back in fashion, recently it has been proven that a circumcised penis is less likely to disease you to death.
In Australia circumcision will cost you about AU$1000 dollars, US$820, including hospital bed costs and anesthetist, in some cases if the patient is having it done due to a medical problem or a mental problem it then may be covered by medicare and then will be free.(covered by the lovely tax payers of this wonderful social democracy).
just to add, the younger you are when you are circumcised, then the better the chances are of the penis looking like it was done at birth, so do something about this now.
good luck, and once again don't listen to people saying a foreskin is better etc... etc..., they usually have foreskins and don't know just how free you feel without that little bit of skin, (what is all the fuss about)
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most women prefer uncircumcised.
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0838/is_1999_March/ai_54308894/pg_1
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60750.html
he could try foreskin restoration.
http://www.norm-uk.org/foreskin_restoration_devices.html
http://www.penisdoctor.com/foreskin.html
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just tell him to just hand lotion instead, thats what tons of guys do here in America.
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Okay what I dont understand is YOUR 19 YEARS OLD! How could youu not know anything about it!

Tell your lil brother hes masturbating wrong! hes basically got it in his head that he has to use lubricants to stroke it up and down without holding on to it. He doesnt neccesarily need lubricants to masturbate I know when masturbating he cant just slide it up and down without lubricants and that is what im assuming hes doing or trying to do. tell him to hold on to it and then move it up n down, adding lubricants at the tip to stroke the top will also add added pleasure..

There is nothing wrong with being circumcised. After all It is an Islamic ritual to be circumcised, to be clean, its not good to be not circumcised, so you must be Islamic or believe in that Fate to be circumcised, if you dont and you are then you know your ******!

ALL girls wants circumcised penises! Thats a FACT! there is not one girl out there that would prefer a dirty, ugly, and smelly un circumcised penis..Uh the thought of that made me puke!

Take care.
P.S. I hope you lose your virginity also.
cherio
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i am 13 and i think i suffer from phomosis. i'm not sure. phomosis. is when u cant get your foreskin over your bellend. i am worried about the size of penis. i am way to embaressed to tell my parents let alone go to the doctors. please any advice
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There is no problem at all with girls because he is circumcised, even in Britain. Many girls prefer a circumcised penis, many don't care and many can hardly tell the difference.

However he is young, rather too young to be indulging in sexual intercourse.

Orgasms using luve are wholly natural. Since you are such a good brother, go down to Boots and buy him a bottle of Durex lubricant!
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i think as an older brother and role model, you should discourage from becoming sexual right now. 14 is way too young to start this kind of sexual relationship. he should stick to masterbating for now. im hopeing you are well enough educated in sex so the info you pass on is correct. he is lucky to have you as a big brother.
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Gracious you and your brother have detailed conversations!!
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When I was your brother's age I could only ejaculate when I used lubricants as well. I also used my own saliva; there's nothing wrong with it at all. Eventually though you try out different things and he'll be able to make himself ejaculate without lubricants without any problem. There's nothing at all wrong with masturbation, what you do with your own body is up to you and you shouldn't let anyone tell you otherwise. If your brother enjoys it (and I'm sure he does) then he should do it as much as he wants without feeling guilty about it.

I live in Britain and most of the girls I have been with have said they preferred circumsized penises! It doesnt really matter that much anyway because you can't tell the difference between a circumsized or not circumcized penis when it's erect anyway. Also, at 14 I can't imagine whether girls would have seen many (if any) penises to compare so it really shouldn't be a concern there.

Tell your brother to stop worrying, circumsized penises are cleaner, look nicer, look bigger, and there's far less of a chance of you dripping on your shoe when you've been to the loo!

Hope that helps
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I just can't believe that there are 14 year olds having sex!
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I don't have a answer to your question, but I'm laughing.  I'm an American girl & would rather see a circumsized penis then one that is not.  Your right, most men do get circumsized here.  Tell him to come to America.  He'll have no trouble finding a girl!
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