Coolidge effect to the maximum..help!

[vinbaker]

Hi everyone
I've been living for quite some time what I believe to be an even more dangerous version of the coolidge effect.
let me explain: I am a 37-year-old European man, engaged to a girl with whom I will soon marry.
In recent years, for work, I lived in a country of South America where women, literally, jumped on me. I know it sounds like a horrible, masculine speech, but it's the truth of what happened to me. The feeling, for a good-looking and healthy European, was to be able to have any woman with incredible ease (a porn in real life).
So told it seems like a dream, but now, in my relationship, I'm having libido problems I've never had.
down there The way to find girls was easy, I often knew them on facebook, we sent each other photos, there was the whole phase of virtual excitement (which involved a lot of mental level) and then went to the sexual phase. Normally, however, simple things, masturbation and only sometimes a little oral sex (I am hypochondriac and I do not trust to have full sex with little-known women, not even with a condom).
This year, with my girlfriend here in Europe, I was still in that country of South America for work, and I'm ashamed to say it happened again. Photos, videos, all the absorbing mental part of virtual sex, and then masturbation and other things. Now back here I lost the libido for my beautiful girl. I struggle to make love with her and it's causing me a lot of anxiety.
I know I have no erection problems because I still keep phone numbers of some of those girls (i guess i have to stop cause that's part of the problem)  and if I talk to them about hot topics I immediately feel that life returns down there. For the rest nothing, no erections, no libido, nothing, absolutely.
I ask anyone who has had this serious problem how to deal with it, what do you advise me to do? Are there any supplements or substances that can help me or is it all in my head?
Please i'm desesperate! Thanks

[GuitarRox]

The best way to go back to normal is to neutralize things.  Giving up all of that activity, taking a full break from things sexual and graphic in nature.  This should normalize things.  How long it takes may be dependent on the person but what about shooting for a month to six weeks?  You are good to know that you have to do it and a good girlfriend is worth it.  The psychology behind how the activity makes you feel is not to be underestimated.  So, give it up and let's see if that doesn't do the trick.  Keep us up to date.

[vinbaker]

I will try and i will tell you, thanks

[GuitarRox]

You are going to have to make a choice.  These women didn't just 'jump on you'.  Sure, they made it easy but you decided to act on it by choice and still are by keeping the phone numbers.  I'd go cold turkey.  Self control man.  Get rid of the numbers.  Take some breathing space and put that behind you. It clearly is impacting you.  It's either that you have guilt that is causing a psychological issue which really does happen or the intense visual stimulation and physical stimulation of masturbation (which is more direct sometimes than sex with your girlfriend) has altered your brain (as porn is said to do) and you need to be done with it to go back to normal.  Either way, the only route I can see is for you to give up your previous sexual choices if it is impacting your real relationship.  Think you can do it?

[vinbaker]

great answer. I don't have choice, i have to do it for my girlfriend.

"the intense visual stimulation and physical stimulation of masturbation (which is more direct sometimes than sex with your girlfriend) has altered your brain" absolutely true. Do you have any suggestion how to go back to normal?