Disinterest in Sex, possible ED

[jesselee450]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have a good relationship, open communication, etc. He is romantic, kisses me a lot, touches me sensually, etc. But his libido is low. He's 22. We are both eachother's first serious relationship. His sexual past consists of a lot of one night stands, from what he's told me. But that's not ALOT, I think maybe 4 partners, all with protection. I have a high sex drive, and would be happy with 4 times a week or even more. But he is happy with much less. I initiate sex about 95% of the time. It has always been this way. He rejects me a lot, although he says it's not me. When we do have sex, he sometimes loses his erection. Even when he doesn't, it's usually not a full erection (if there is such a thing..). He also ends up having to take breaks sometimes. Sometimes it's because he's winded (he's a smoker, doesn't exercise, but he has a healthy weight). Sometimes it's due to the loss of his erection. I don't think he's disinterested in me, because he often remarks on how sexy I am or fondles me out of the blue. But these often don't lead to an erection. I sometimes touch him, and I go all for it, but nothing. I think that a lot of the time he just doesn't want to and so he tries to block it mentally. He doesn't masturbate a lot either. Maybe a few times a month. Something I thought was weird too was that he doesn't have any pre-ejaculate. I've read that's not something is always abnormal though. Right now we have sex maybe twice a week at most, but sometimes I just get tired of trying and it can be more like once a week. We've gone a good week and a half though before. He will then usually initiate it by that time. We also primarily have sex late at night, or early morning. His erections are strongest in the morning. I've tried to initiate during the day but he's rarely interested. He's told me that sex just isn't a priority for him and he has no problem going without it.

But he's only 21! I don't understand it. I have often thought maybe he has some undiagnosed condition, but I don't know. He hasn't been checked for STDs. He doesn't have insurance to do so. I thought maybe he has low testosterone? I always thought that having facial hair had to do with tesosterone though, which he has a full beard and no problems growing it. He has body hair as well, growing in and it seems to be normal for his age. Slight chest hair, neck, back, etc. Not overly hairy.

Besides his low sex drive, he also has a very low apetite. He used to weigh more and was slightly overweight before I met him. He told me his apetite disappeared though and he lost a good 30 lbs. He's gained some since we've been together, mostly because I encourage him to eat (and try to encourage meals rather than his normal 'snacking'). But he still never wants breakfast, and he eats maybe one meal a day with small snacks in the evening (nothing healthy or that would really fill him up though).

I thought of Heptatitis C, because he has a home tattoo that a friend gave him. It's a pretty bad one - not the design but he has scar tissue that is raised from some of it. The ink is blown out some too. I've tried to get him to get tested but he hasn't. He kind of shuts down when I try to talk to him about these things, and I've backed off considerably. Sometimes he's more open, he's told me he's afraid that maybe I'm right and there is something wrong.

[kar3aly]

simply ... unfortunately ,,unmatched sex drives..thats all

[NOHARD]

Hi Jersse, For starter he needs to stop smoking, I know not easy, but did after 43 years, now between cigs for the last 17 years, he needs to exercise, but then we all do, walking and swimming are the best two he can do, but you need to get him off fast and junk foods, to much salt and sugars, to much sugar can lead to high testosterone, which is as bad as having low testosterone.
But till he gets some blood work done see what his readings are like, have a good health check up.
Look if he is afraid, get him to PM me, that way its not open and he can say what he likes, but please get him checked out, he needs it.
Good Luck