I need help! Been married nine years. I am EXTREMELY attracted to my wife. I LOVE having sex with her. Two months ago, she told me that she has noticed lately that I don't last as long in bed and that it bothered her. I was destroyed, but determined.
I went to see five doctors. Nothing abnormal. Blood was fine. Urine was fine. Testosterone was fine. They all agree this is psychological. They recommended some natural remedies - maca, ginkoloba, larginine, etc...
I have taken them all. I have also used Promescent.
We are also going to marriage therapy - we have many other issues outside the bedroom to address.
At first, some of the remedies worked... But things have gone waaaaay downhill since then.
Foreplay usually goes well. But when I try to enter her, I go limp. Thank goodness she has been patient and understanding. As of late, we have been having plenty of "high school sex." Oral, manual, kissing, touching, rubbing, etc...
It is very important to me that she climaxes. I will do what I must to satisfy her. But I shutter to think that her patience will wear thin. What the hell do I do?
Don't know what to tell you except that in therapy, you should address her tendency to want to hold the upper hand instead of holding a partner hand with you.