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Help on my masturbation and quick evacuation problems

Please am a 28years old and I have been masturbating since I was 15years and when I got older and started dating I noticed that I don't last long on bed I don't know what to do and I am about getting married please advice me on what to do please. But I have a medical condition that is cardiovascular disease please with this can you tell why I don't last long during sex and what I can do please
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Different things can help. One may sound kind of like not how you picture sex with your wife, but while having sex in the very start of it, begin thinking about other things. Yes, not too sexy but may give you longer time before ejaculation. There is also something called the pause squeeze technique. It strengthens your pelvic floor muscles so you'd have more control  This article tells you how to do it.  (copy and paste) https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premature-ejaculation/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20354905  I WILL say that the article suggests getting testosterone tested to be sure there isn't a problem there. So, you might want to consider that but doubt there is an issue. It just covers all your bases. Something else if you don't have issues 'getting' erections is to masturbate an hour before sex. Men often last longer when actually having sex when premature ejaculation is an issue. Your future wife will love that you are so excited by her but understand that you'd like to last for enough time that she an receive pleasure so just work on it.
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I don't know what you mean by "not long", but the average time for a man to "last" - from the start of intercourse to orgasm - is about 5 minutes. That's the average - that means some go faster, some longer. Some studies put this at 2-3 minutes. Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating before 60 seconds.

Women take longer - about 13 minutes, and most - about 80% don't orgasm from penetration alone.

So foreplay is important for a woman, and for you.

It's hard for me to be more specific for you. I don't know what your heart disease is, if you have any risks from vigorous activity, if you are on any medications, or if your "not long" is actually not long, or just some standard you think you should meet.

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What I mean by not long is that I ejaculate in less than 60 seconds
Try using a condom. Often the reduced sensation will prolong onset of orgasm.  You may need to try various types.  Many are designed to increase sensation so as to provide a more natural feel (like the "natural Lambs" type).  You are actually looking for the opposite, less sensation.  I'd think the less expensive older type latex would be where to start. (hopefully neither of you have a latex sensitivity. If so, there are other materials, generally they are less sensitive, except for the natural lambs which are more sensitive (and not good for STDs btw)

In normal sexual relationships, lasting longer can become an "acquired skill".  If the condom works, or even helps a bit at first, you may find after a period of time you won't need them at all, especially if you have a supportive partner.

Hope that helps, and congratulations on the nuptials.
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