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Loss of erection during intercourse
My boyfriend and I use to share an active sex life however over the past six months he has trouble having an erection or maintaining them when he has one. He is not on medication, his testosterone level is well within normal ranges, his doctor cannot find anything physically wrong with him and he is 26 years old. He has repeatedly said that it is not due to a lack of attraction but I recently found out that he looks at porn. Also, there have been problems with trust in our relationship since I found out he was lying to me about various issues. There has been no infidelity as far as I know. Is this normal or should I give up and believe that it is me that causes this problem.
This was in 2006 so i assume this issue was resolved or they broke up. But either way. If he has a porn addiction he should stop looking at porn completely and stop masturbating. He may have whats called PIED Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. Visit http://www.yourbrainonporn.com and http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com and read what happens to your brain when you watch porn.
Thats what my bf told me was happening to him. I hope that really is the case and im not unattractive to him anymore
I have the same question, before this happen we have a good sex, but lately, he is loosing his erection at the moment he will insert his penis to my vagina. I dont know what is wrong, i dont know if he's cheating on me, or if he is looking to porn, he always said that he is just tired, am i going to believe this or will i look for another reason? Please help
Yes, I am being totally honest here. I am having an affair and the last two times I was with my wife, I lost the erection even though I was close to coming. I normally take a while anyway and so this didn't help. I have tried harder with my wife recently due to the fact that lack of sex (of course) was one of the main reasons for the affair. I'm in a beautiful mess. I am going to have sex with my lover in a couple of days and I'm interested to see what happens but I have a feeling it will be fine because she it is so exciting to be with someone who is so sexual.
Hi there it seems the way you view sex is unhealthy. Yes, AIDS and HIV are possible, but wear a condom and protect yourself until you are in a good relationship and can go and get a medical check together to put your mind at ease. You won't get an erection if you are thinking about how dangerous and unhealthy sex is, because these are not arousing thoughts. You need to work on how you perceive sex and yes, play safe, but you also need to play.
The problem, in a word, is communication. You both need to know exactly what this lull in your sex life is the cause of. Sex problems are often the result of something else in the relationship as sex comes to represent how you feel about each other. Find the problem, open up to telling each other everything and ignore the lack of sex as it will solve itself. When it comes to solving your erection issue, just go through the same steps in the solution I outlined here but cater them to your unique situation and why you feel nervous during sex now. Take away the pressure and have fun again. hope this helps!
Awesome G that sounds like you are hitting it right on the head. I wish you all the best!
Sounds like the same issue I posted a solution to on this page so have a look and give it a go. It should really help you.
Hey there have you tried the advice I wrote out originally on this page? (The big chunk of text) because it relates directly to your situation and so I can promise you it will work, whether you are in a relationship or not.
Let me know.
Let me know.
you're welcome!
Hey there only just saw this post as I don't get the updates from people who comment on here. PLease email me on "randompictureguy at hotmail *******" (no spaces) or leave an email on my profile here and I will try to help! All the best
I read it and I am so glad it helped! Stay positive and have fun! :D
wow that happened to me 2x i felt numb and couldnt maintain an erection
Man, i don't know who you are but you just completely redesigned me way of thinking... im 20 too and i have the same problem... right down to the "putting a face on it for blame" to the "cold chills from bad experiences" your amazing man. idk if u will ever see this but if you could email me i would love to tell you thankyou and i am going to do everything you said!!!
babygirl, pls don't give up on him, am a man and it happen to me sometime when am untop of my girlfriend, suddenly my erection stopped not because am cheating cos i know am not but because am stressed out wif something maybe at work or home that i don't wanna bother her about.
yea am a guy, i get this sometimes. he is not cheating on u, he is basically stressed out wif something he don't wanna tell ya.
yes my dear, there are a lot of guy with this and many other issues, in fact, you should know reason why I am here too. be cause I do have a lot of problems, in my relationship with my wife... and I came to conclusion that, it is totally my fault, I always pretending, always trying to make her believe that I am a good man. and only me and myself known that I am a liar. For more than 20 year I had been cheating her, with all kind pornography, and many other girlfriends, don't let this to happens to you too! been dishonest through almost my whole life had brought to me many other difficulties, but the wort one is, the luck of respect out of my wife and my children. take this seriously, and act immediately, before it is too late, find couples counseling, because, this is noting about sickness of physical illness, that is all mentally disorder, and that is a normal situation now day with all of the false happiness, that we found out in the internet, the world is contaminated with all of that, men is being manipulated by false pleasure encounter in attractive women but I guaranty you; in my own experience, no one had competently satisfy me then my own wife, as right now we still suffering the constituencies of infidelity, but thanks to God, and his mercy full kindness, my wife and I had come to resolution and but noting would come to be fix with out philology help, suggest this to you and your boyfriend, but if for some reason your boyfriend doesn't want to, take your self, I'll guaranty, wont hurt you.
there is no real man unless we recognize we had fault in ways to satisfy a woman, specially in their hear feelings. men need to be more courage and diligently among their own women then trying to seek false pleasure in the wrong world.
there is no real man unless we recognize we had fault in ways to satisfy a woman, specially in their hear feelings. men need to be more courage and diligently among their own women then trying to seek false pleasure in the wrong world.
I read your post and I too am having the same problem ,my husband seems genuine and he loves satisfying me orally but he cant get an erection to try and have intercourse he only gets erect when I perform oral I dont know what to do
I'm 32 years old I have sexy before 10 years and cut sexy fore 10 years because I afraid HIV/AIDS and other sexual transmission disease. I watch porn sometimes and masturbation less than two times weekly. I have no girl friend till today but I find. When I get girl I can't make sexy because of erection problem. maybe if I make one time in one night which shame for me. "that is why one in one night is not sufficient ".I want to get girl friend to marry but how? if I satisfy girl by sexy how she marry me? it is impossible to get girl for me. So how I overcome this problem and to get girl friend and satisfy by sexy? please advise me!!
Hi,
I m a guy. I also have this problem. I thinks its just that he is no longer attracted to you. I feel the same about my girlfriend, though I love her more than anything else in the world. We have been childhood friends and she understands me. So I share my fantasies, like, watching porn together. We also had sex in the park at night, had sex in the car in the parking lot. And this way we have kept it alive. Though I fantasize a lot, I have no intention of cheating on her.
I m a guy. I also have this problem. I thinks its just that he is no longer attracted to you. I feel the same about my girlfriend, though I love her more than anything else in the world. We have been childhood friends and she understands me. So I share my fantasies, like, watching porn together. We also had sex in the park at night, had sex in the car in the parking lot. And this way we have kept it alive. Though I fantasize a lot, I have no intention of cheating on her.
you are right on point because if you come too early woman complain but then again trying to control your ejaculation instead of coming ends up taking away the feeling and the **** dies,then you are on the wrong..
Im a man and this happened to me 6yrs ago. Like the others have said, this probably is due to stress or anxiety. Men.. We are also 'big babies' and if we dont feel sexually secure then we are useless!! Maybe he has been staring at to many cocks on the big screen and doesnt feel adequate or maybe something thing is memtally bothering him. But most importantly as a man.... Make sure the clown aint cheatin' on u first!!! Bcuz if he is then disregard everything that Ive told u bcuz thats the problem! But dont blame yourself!!! One mans'scheme is another mans 'Dream'! ;)
Im a man and this happened to me 6yrs ago. Like the others have said, this probably is due to stress or anxiety. Men.. We are also 'big babies' and if we dont feel srxually secure then we are useless!! Maybe he has been staring at to many cocks on the big screen and doesnt feel adequate or maybe something thing is memtally bothering him. But most importantly as a man.... Make sure the clown aint cheatin' on u first!!! Bcuz if he is then disregard everything that Ive told u bcuz thats the problem! But dont blame yourself!!! One mans'scheme is another mans 'Dream'! ;)
Well now you posted your question about 7 years ago. However, I just found it. Chances are that you do not need the answer anymore because you probably are already divorced.
First off your guy has problems and needs your help.
The reason he looks at porn is because he is so worried about his manhood. He is afraid and does not understand why it does not work with the woman he loves. He thinks masturbating to other women will help him maintain an erection while he is with you.
He really believes that and that is why he is doing it again and again. But every time he is in bed with you he loses his erection. Because he is thinking of you would start nagging and griping if you knew that he just had 5 orgasms looking at hot sexy women on the internet.
A man's penis is like an arousal antenna of the woman. If the woman is not aroused then it is no wonder if the antenna does not want to stand.
Show him that his fantasies turn you on. Show him that you want to participate and give him the strongest orgasms he ever had. Watch the porn with him. Make sure you pay attention what the girls are saying. How they are talking. How they are moving. Remember the second your husband has an orgasm. What was it that the girl did and said during 10 seconds before and 1 minute after he pumped all his sperm out for her.
Be interested and learn and you will find out what turns your husband on.
Now you tell him that you want to do that for him that you want to help him to release his tension for you like he did for the girl on the screen.
Tell him that you want to be his sex object his sex toy and he should use your body solely for his pleasure.
Get him to tell you his deepest fantasies and praise him for them and then help him have those fantasies while he is touching you or while he is inside you......
If you do that over a length of time and you enjoy this process and you show him that you have the strongest orgasms while he is having his..... then you will see how turned on he will get to you.
How he will feel safe with you... knowing you are not going to nag and gripe.... and that you trust him... and he will have the strongest erections and orgasms inside you.
It is all up to you if you want to help him heal or not. It is amazing what power women have over men.
In return you are restoring his masculinity which is the most important thing for a man and he will adore you till the end of time.
IT'S ALL UP TO YOU!
First off your guy has problems and needs your help.
The reason he looks at porn is because he is so worried about his manhood. He is afraid and does not understand why it does not work with the woman he loves. He thinks masturbating to other women will help him maintain an erection while he is with you.
He really believes that and that is why he is doing it again and again. But every time he is in bed with you he loses his erection. Because he is thinking of you would start nagging and griping if you knew that he just had 5 orgasms looking at hot sexy women on the internet.
A man's penis is like an arousal antenna of the woman. If the woman is not aroused then it is no wonder if the antenna does not want to stand.
Show him that his fantasies turn you on. Show him that you want to participate and give him the strongest orgasms he ever had. Watch the porn with him. Make sure you pay attention what the girls are saying. How they are talking. How they are moving. Remember the second your husband has an orgasm. What was it that the girl did and said during 10 seconds before and 1 minute after he pumped all his sperm out for her.
Be interested and learn and you will find out what turns your husband on.
Now you tell him that you want to do that for him that you want to help him to release his tension for you like he did for the girl on the screen.
Tell him that you want to be his sex object his sex toy and he should use your body solely for his pleasure.
Get him to tell you his deepest fantasies and praise him for them and then help him have those fantasies while he is touching you or while he is inside you......
If you do that over a length of time and you enjoy this process and you show him that you have the strongest orgasms while he is having his..... then you will see how turned on he will get to you.
How he will feel safe with you... knowing you are not going to nag and gripe.... and that you trust him... and he will have the strongest erections and orgasms inside you.
It is all up to you if you want to help him heal or not. It is amazing what power women have over men.
In return you are restoring his masculinity which is the most important thing for a man and he will adore you till the end of time.
IT'S ALL UP TO YOU!
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