Am married (nine years), however have not been intimate with my wife for about one year. I have herpes for over 10 years and she knows this, however, am now having a milky discharge when I have a bowel movement. Am not sure what this is, she says it's because we are not having sex and is waiting for me. She is very attractive and I know she is wondering whats up (not up)._I keep putting her off because I am not sure what this discharge is. It pretty much only happens when I have a bowel movement. I am too embarassed to go to a doctor, I don't think she's wanting to wait much longer. What could this be?