Back in February I had sex with a women whom gave me many issues after the fact including a prostate problem (apparently). About a week or 2 after, I noticed a small painless red bump on my penis head. Before the covid pandemic, I got it looked at by 2 doctors who both said it was "nothing" but i really don't believe them (all negative for STDs). This mark continues to get irritated and red after sex with my current girlfriend or masterbation (I am uncircumcised). I have tried steroid cream which kind of seems to work while refraining from sex.. but once we engage in activity again, the area just seems like it needs to irritate again (maybe not giving it enough time?)
Secondly, similar but a bit different, I had fissure tears in my foreskin from awhile back that seem to behave the same way. It looks like it heals with time... but when I engage in activity, It likes to irritate itself again and again...
Is there a special cream out there or tactic i could use to combat this issue? It has taken a toll on my sex life for far too long and I don't want to make anything worse (no my doctor's office or urologist's office is not seeing anyone in person)
I appreciate the comments, anything will help at this point.
Thank you! fingers crossed!