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my bf has no sex drive???
i have a question once again due to my boyfriend..... he is 23 and i was wondering is it normal fora man this young to not wanna be in the mood for sex? please some one ive me some advice cuz i think there is something wrong for him to be this young and not like sex!!!
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One of the signs or efects of depression is a lack of interest or enjoyment of things you used to enjoy.
If he gets the depression treated this might "magically" go away.
If he gets the depression treated this might "magically" go away.
ACTUALLY COME TO THINK OF IT YES HE HAS BEEN DEPRESSED FOR A FEW YEARS NOW I MEAN EVEN B4 ME HE...... AND SOMETIMES IT DOESNT SHOW THAT HE IS DEPRESSED AND OTHER TIMES U CAN REALLY SEE THAT HE IS AND U NOE I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THAT ONE AND YA THAT COULD VERY WELL BE IT!!! BUT HES ALWAYS TELLING ME DONT LIKE SEX HE WILL DO IT BUT ... AND HE EJOYS IT WHEN WE DO , DO IT U NOE AND BUT HE DOESNT LIKE THE WAY MOST GUYS HIS AGE WOULD IF U NOE WUT I MEAN? BUT YA THE DEPRESSION IS A GOOD ONE...... AND THAT IS PROBABLY THE MAIN REASON!
O HE DOESNT HAVE A PROBLEM GETTING IT UP HE JUST NOT INTO SEX ... BUTI MEAN FOR HIS AGE ITS A BIT STRANGE THAT HE DONT LIKE IT...... AND SRY TO HEAR ABOUT THAT I DONNO Y DOCTORS MAKEU PAY OUT SOO MUCH FOR SURGERY THEN MAKE U SUFFER THATS THE DUMEST THING A DOCTOR CAN DO WHEN AFTER ALL THEY R SUPPOSED TO MAKE U FEEL BETTER..... BUT THANK U FOR UR ADVICE :) HOPE IT WILL LOOK UP SOON!
It is abnormal for sure but if I was him I'd see your family doctor about some samples of Viagra or some of the others that help when the feeling just isn't there.
Sometimes it can take a dip because of circumstances around men go through at work and financial difficulties but they ALWAYS change soon and things come back to normal soon.
The next step is a specialist which I myself have seen when my sex drive suddenly came to a stop suddenly one day a few years ago. It never returned and the things this specialist suggested were things I had no interest in such as implants you pump up and such.
It was very tough for a while but at 57 and so many other things going wrong I don't give it much thought anymore.
BEFORE you see a Doctor though DO PLENTY OF RESEARCH ON HIM. I had an orthopedic surgeon do surgery on my knees 12\29\2004. I never walked again for 2 years before they finally in Titanium Implants in both knees that were supposed to last 20 years. Now it appears there were defective parts in those and I ended up on Permanent Social Security Medical Disability.
Had I done ANY research on this IDIOT doctor I wouldn't let him mow my yard. Turns out he's crippled more people in the Sate Of Alaska than any other doctor.
Good Luck!! My sex life was better at 50 than it was at 20 but losing it at a younger age would have MUCH tougher than now.
Don't worry, there IS someone out there with the answer.
I wish you both All The Best Life Has To Offer!!
Sometimes it can take a dip because of circumstances around men go through at work and financial difficulties but they ALWAYS change soon and things come back to normal soon.
The next step is a specialist which I myself have seen when my sex drive suddenly came to a stop suddenly one day a few years ago. It never returned and the things this specialist suggested were things I had no interest in such as implants you pump up and such.
It was very tough for a while but at 57 and so many other things going wrong I don't give it much thought anymore.
BEFORE you see a Doctor though DO PLENTY OF RESEARCH ON HIM. I had an orthopedic surgeon do surgery on my knees 12\29\2004. I never walked again for 2 years before they finally in Titanium Implants in both knees that were supposed to last 20 years. Now it appears there were defective parts in those and I ended up on Permanent Social Security Medical Disability.
Had I done ANY research on this IDIOT doctor I wouldn't let him mow my yard. Turns out he's crippled more people in the Sate Of Alaska than any other doctor.
Good Luck!! My sex life was better at 50 than it was at 20 but losing it at a younger age would have MUCH tougher than now.
Don't worry, there IS someone out there with the answer.
I wish you both All The Best Life Has To Offer!!
hes not on pills im ith him all the time and hes into our relationship cuz i do get it but just not as often as i would like but hes not on for sex could it be that b4 me that he was single for too long and didnt get any and just got over it? he has been like this since i have been with him and apparently b4 that! well him and i did it like 5 years ago but he was a horn dog then? but im starting to wonder if itss cuz he was single for too long b4 me? i have asked him and he says i donno i just dont like sex anymore..... and his ex gf and i talk and she thinks the same thing i do to... maybe it was too long in between! my ex his sex drive went from good to down and down and down and 3 years later i found out b4 i left that he had been cheating on me! that i have seen but my bf now is different like i have mentioned above in this paragraph. he doesnt like sex he straight up tells me he doesnt..... that hes been over it for some time now! i try to spice things up some times it happens and some times it doesnt! i noe hes not cheating on me cuz i go all oer the place with him and he doesnt really like getting out of the house and that and he tells me when he is working wut time and he will even show me his schedual for work and all that sooo.... no suspicion there.... i donno i think that its just weird that hes not into sex for his age 23 is still young and he doesnt have any medical problems!
When a guy that age has no sex drive it means one of a few things:
1. He's on some sort of medication or has some kind of health issue that's causing him to lose sexual interest or causing some side effect he's embarassed about being seen
2. He's getting it somewhere else
3. He's just done with the relationship. No longer interested.
For me, it was number 3. I was done with the relationship and I just kept shrugging off sex, "not in the mood" I'd say until she got the hint. But, before you jump to any conclusions like this let me ask you a few questions:
Was he always like this or has his sex drive changed over the course of the relationship? Not all guys are sex crazy horn dogs and sometimes a few times a week or month is all they "need" or are really into. If he's always been like this then it may just be his speed and no reason to worry. Of course, you can always just ask him why he doesn't want it as much as you do.
If, however, his sex drive has changed then clearly something has happened and that could be any number of things that could shut him down sexally. You said he "doesn't like sex" is that true or are you just saying he's not all that into it as much as you?
Also, its not uncommon for couples that have been in a relationship for a good amount of time to settle into a rhythm of sorts and tone back the amount of sex they used to have. There's always things you can do to try and spice things up if things are cooling off in the bedroom.
I wouldn't jump to any conclusiosn but probably the best way to go about this is to try and think back to when his sex drive changed and see if anything happened at that time. Also, try just having a calm, polite, no pressure convo with him. See what he says.
1. He's on some sort of medication or has some kind of health issue that's causing him to lose sexual interest or causing some side effect he's embarassed about being seen
2. He's getting it somewhere else
3. He's just done with the relationship. No longer interested.
For me, it was number 3. I was done with the relationship and I just kept shrugging off sex, "not in the mood" I'd say until she got the hint. But, before you jump to any conclusions like this let me ask you a few questions:
Was he always like this or has his sex drive changed over the course of the relationship? Not all guys are sex crazy horn dogs and sometimes a few times a week or month is all they "need" or are really into. If he's always been like this then it may just be his speed and no reason to worry. Of course, you can always just ask him why he doesn't want it as much as you do.
If, however, his sex drive has changed then clearly something has happened and that could be any number of things that could shut him down sexally. You said he "doesn't like sex" is that true or are you just saying he's not all that into it as much as you?
Also, its not uncommon for couples that have been in a relationship for a good amount of time to settle into a rhythm of sorts and tone back the amount of sex they used to have. There's always things you can do to try and spice things up if things are cooling off in the bedroom.
I wouldn't jump to any conclusiosn but probably the best way to go about this is to try and think back to when his sex drive changed and see if anything happened at that time. Also, try just having a calm, polite, no pressure convo with him. See what he says.
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If this is how he is then the possibility is just that this is how he is and he's gotten over it. I mean, unless there's something he's not telling you or something he's embarassed about or otherwise just doesnt' want to talk about I would think this is just the way he is.
Is he depressed or stressed over something? Depression can shut a guy down sexually.