hi all, i have a sex problem with my guy who is 47,im 39, we get on very well except he never wants sex , it was good at first but i noticed over a good few months it was always me making the move on him, we spoke about it but he just said he was tired. i let it go but months went in until we had a huge argument and he said he would go to a doctor. as he can get an erection himself the doc said he couldnt help but would refer him to a therapist. if i give him oral sex he doesnt even touch me at all. it makes me feel so unwanted, he isnt having an affair or is he gay. my friends say i should dump him but i dont want to. i think this problem has been ongoing with him for years, he just doesnt have a sex drive, its like his libido has vanished. friends tell me he was a bit of a ladies man years ago. he has 2 kids who are grown up, he smokes, plays golf bout 4 times a week, so he isnt totally unfit. but why doesnt he want me? please help as its so upsetting. we are still waiting on therapist appointment.