I am new at this and sharing my experience online or anything. I am hoping for some honest, kind, helpful suggestions and thoughts. I beg you not to be judgmental and critical. My daughter is 21. She is a dramatic, compassionate, person who is either very happy, very angry, very depressed, very low self esteem. Rarely a happy medium. She has seen a psychologist thru her 6-9 grade yrs. It has been determined that she is borderline bypolar/adhd. Her focus and attention span in class was hard. She would get thru the day and let her frustrations out at home.she stopped all help, medical or counselor in 10 grade. By 11 grade had started to 'self med' herself, along with the help of her friends :( with maruaguana, then tried spice, always 'trying or attempting' what friends tried. She is a hard worker, very compassionate person when things are good. But has grown very down on herself, not happy at all. As of late had begun dabbling in hard drug that she had come clean to us about and wanted help for. She was trying to better her life but kept taking one step back, not caring, then trying, then messing up again. Vicious cycle..recently she was involved in a head on collision that had put her into icu then to pshycal therapy.she has come home a wk ago and now we are working on in house therapy, counseling, drug and head. She has neck brace on and broken hip which has her even more down and feeling 'stuck'. I love my daughter more than I can ever express. Her and I are a lot a like and tend to butt heads. She has never liked counseling but I am determined since she is in our house under our help and care she will get it! But she has fallen to staying in her room,in dark since her serious concussion hurts. All the signs of depression are things I am seeing. Face full of pimples which she is not use to and has battled this yr has her hating herself more if that's possible. I try to let her know I am there to always talk and help. I realize I need to back off and nag less, but I also don't want her to just stay in her room in depression. I feel like I am walking on egg shells around her anger. I am in charge of her med and recovery at home but we have resorted to not talking much these past couple days :( I guess what I am looking for here is someone that has either been there or has knowledge in this type of stuff that can help me deal with this and help her the best way here at home. She has her first counselor, psychiatric, since accident today.hopefully all goes wel:((
I'm sorry to say I don't have any experience helping with people overcome drug addiction/use but I do have experience with counselors and parents wanting to get their child help (I was the child) so I thought I might be able to give you a new perspective. When I was in middle school I wanted to self harm and often considered suicide but I didn't want to tell my parents because I thought I would be locked up in an asylum. However one day I ended up telling them and to my relief I wasn't locked up, but they made me see a counselor. Unfortunately, she wasn't very nice to me and made me feel worse than I already did so I never liked going to see her. For me going to a counselor was humiliating and embarassing because I thought I was crazy and thought people would treat me differently because I had these "crazy" thoughts and needed helo for it. Whether or not this is the case for your daughter, and this is to my speculation don't take my words for her feelings, but if she went to a counselor for three years then she might have felt like it wasn't working and so she tried to use other means. What caught my attention in your post was that