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599170 tn?1300973893

19 Years after misscariage

Im writting this for those of you who have lost a baby recently, I wish someone had done this for me when my heart was aching 19 years ago,   I was 41/2 months knew it was a girl and really out of the blue just started hemmorging , it was like turning on a water faucet only it was all blood, husband speed to hospital   by the time I go there my blood pressure was 90/50 they took me back right away, got an IV, and they told me (after an ultrsound) that I had had an incomplete misscarriage, so I was given a d an c,

The emotional aspect was so hard for me , I couldnt walk through a store and see baby items with out feeling like crying, A close friend had a baby shower 7 months after my misscarriage and it was so very hard for me to go, I definatley faked happy that day,

My point is I know how your hearts ache, time does help, I now have 3 healthy sons, but you never forget all these years, I still wonder what my girl woulda been like, my heart doesnt ache any more its more a curiosity, I do believe someday I will know,

So dont deny your selfs grieving just thought it might help from someone who went through it to know that as hard as it is to believe, it does get easier.
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663562 tn?1291131883
Thank you.  You made me cry (in a good way). :)
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599170 tn?1300973893
I havent forgoten its rare a day that I dont think of her atleast once, it just hurts less, and I have faith that I will know her in heaven.
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thank you Cherie762 It's been 2 years since my first miscarriage, and 2 months since my second. I was 18 weeks with both. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about the babies I lost. Still, I am searching for answers .It has become an obsession and I will not stop until I find out why this keeps happening after having succesful pregnancies in the past. I know that time does heal old wounds, but it will not make me ever forget.
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Thank you for your story, you are a symbol of hope for all of us. I had my first miscarriage 10 years ago and I recently had 2 successive miscarriages. They`ve brought back all the memories from 10 years ago. I hope 19 years from now I will be telling my story like you have. God bless.
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cherie

im so sad for your loss as i know how great a mother you are, but you have the boys and they are so lucky to have you.
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599170 tn?1300973893
no matter how many children you havem you will never forget, it just stops hurting.
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589816 tn?1332976771
Thanks again for sharing with us. I always wonder how I am going to feel down the road. There is almost a fear that one day I'll forget...
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628735 tn?1273875777
like all the others said Thank you for sharing your story. its always nice to hear about someone who has been through the same as us and then went on to have healthy babies.
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623156 tn?1322865851
That was so kind of you to share your story. Thank you so much.
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552389 tn?1280546208
Thank you for sharing.  It has been a blessing for other women in my life to share their triumphant stories of courage and perseverance.  You are an inspiration.
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That was very beautiful of you to share your story.  Thank you for the post.
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650416 tn?1274711495
thank you for sharing your story....it is hard...but thank you for giving us hope...now that u have 3 sons!
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