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Early Pregnancy Miscarriage? Please Help.

i'm new to this site, i just don't know what to do.  this will probably be too much information but i don't know how else to full describe what happened.

my fiance and i have unprotected sex. although he doesn't ejaculate inside of me, i know that precum can still cause pregnancy. in addition, at the end of my period we had sex and he actually did ejaculate. this was the end of december. 2 weeks later, i woke up with a terrible nosebleed. i was also noticing a change in my eating habits and random aversions to food. a week after the nosebleed, i woke up with nausea and stomach pains and had sore breasts throughout this time. at the end of january, though, upon waking up i felt the onset of period cramps, so i didnt think much of it. i always get them pretty bad, though, but never like this. immediately after getting out of bed i felt like i was experiencing what i could only imagine to be labor pain, and i was in so much pain that i could not get off the floor. i also vomited (from the pain?) i tried to stand but immediately fell twice. i was hospitalized and had very low blood pressure and needed an IV, although they didn't do any tests besides a blood pressure & EKG. i was bleeding very very heavily, but the discharge is brownish even though i have to change my pad/tampon after only about an hour. this stopped after 2 days. i'm not sure if a pregnancy test would work, as my friend who had a confirmed miscarriage was given one just after and tested negative.  at this point, it's also too late for me...i just want help understanding what happened. again, i'm sorry if this is too much information.
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623156 tn?1322869451
How are you feeling now? If you were having a m/c depending on how far along you were and how long you waited to go to the hosp if it was a m/c it would have shown up in your blood. It could have been a chemical pregnancy but usually there are not m/c symptoms which is heavy clotting or sever abdominal pain. It may or may have not been. I would def get checked out in the next few weeks to make sure you are okay and for now I would try to rest and stay hydrated. Most likely a hpt would not work. Did they test you in the hosp if not why? If you have anymore questions please feel free to ask. I really wish I could tell you it's hard to say. Some women have a m/c and never know they are having one. I hope you feel better soon...Best wishes to you.
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thank you for responding so quickly! i've been feeling ok, incredibly lethargic but mostly just preoccupied with not knowing what happened.  they didn't do a blood test because i told the doctor that it was my period, i was completely out of it & wasn't putting all of the symptoms i had been experiencing together, because this occured around when i should have normally gotten my period. also, since i was in the ER i understandably wasn't exactly top priority.  i'm just confused.  there is probably nothing a doctor could do, i just hate not having an answer.
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I don't know if you'll ever know if it was a m/c or not.  But I really do think you should go to your dr and at least tell them what happened and get checked out.  I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

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i'm going to the doctor. i know i'll probably never get an answer, but it was nice to have some feedback.  thank you both very much.
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I'm glad you are going.  Please let us know if you find anything out.
623156 tn?1322869451
No need to thank me. I know what it's like wanting answers and not knowing if you will ever get them. It's times like this everyone needs support. Best wishes to you. Let me know what happens...
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i appreciate the support. i haven't gotten to go to the doctor because of insurance issues, and also i don't think that anything could be done at this point. but i have another question...my chest has been sore since my possible m/c at the end of january, and i've been experiencing slight cramping during excercise.  is this normal? and how long, if it was a m/c, until my cycle will go back to normal? thanks for the help & for understanding. it means a lot.
663562 tn?1291135483
live_love-- I am so sorry you're going through this. I am glad that you're going to the Dr. Hopefully they'll be able to help you to understand what happened (although, like Bam said, you might never know). I had a m/c at 6 weeks, just 2 days after I found out I was indeed pregnant. It's hard to have an early m/c, you don't have time to fully absorb what's going on. I do know, from experience, I did cramp mildly during exercise for a couple of months after the m/c. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you get the answers that you are looking for. Again, I'm sorry for what you are going through. Keep us updated on what the Dr. says.  
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Please just make sure to look after yourself until you get to the dr.  If it was a m/c and you didn't expel everything than you are at risk of an infection.  If you notice that you get a fever, please see a dr or go to the ER ASAP!  I wish you all the best.
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erica---that is exactly what is so difficult! i just wish i knew & was able to understand, i feel like i got pregnant and miscarried at the same time because it hit me all at once...there is little doubt left in my mind that i was indeed pregnant.  i will be careful though, & i'll definitely go to the doctor if i get sicker.  i'm so happy that i found this site as a resource.
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I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I know that horrible feeing you have when you just have to wait for some sort of answer to ease your mind a little. You could have very wel benn pregnant. And you may very well still be pregnant. If you have not gotten to a doctor yet, I think you should take a home pregnanc test. If it is positive you should treat this as being actually pregnant. You could also look for a womens clinic such as planned parent hood for a free pregnancy test and they also have counselors you can talk to. I have had 3 miscarriages so i know how you must feel. I hope everything turns out ok for you.
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