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How do I deal
Having a hard time right now I would have been giving birth in a few weeks and my friend just had her baby today and my other friend is due any day it's making me depressed that I'm
Not having my baby anybody know how to get threw this
Not having my baby anybody know how to get threw this
You need progesterone to cycle so I am concerned that your progesterone is 0. You may want to see your health care provider to see if medication will help jump start your cycle.
They checked my hcg and progesterone.. both are a 0. Next week will be 12 weeks since my d&c.. still no period. Getting worried.
My sister and I has the same due date, april 21... I was at the birth or her baby but I think I was only there in body. She is younger than I am and this is her second baby and the only time I have ever gotten pregnant (after thinking for so long that I couldnt) I miscarried. I just moved forward one day at a time... When it starts to creep into my head I just push it away.
Update:
Levels are now down to 0. So now what? Does that mean a cycle should come soon? I may sound crazy but I can't wait for my period. I haven't had a normal one since Feb. Hopefully if they start coming pretty regular again, we have better luck ttc.
Levels are now down to 0. So now what? Does that mean a cycle should come soon? I may sound crazy but I can't wait for my period. I haven't had a normal one since Feb. Hopefully if they start coming pretty regular again, we have better luck ttc.
Thank You for all of you thoughts and good lucks! We are still waiting. I have to get another blood test today after work to see if my levels have gotten to "0" yet. I really hope they do.
Jamiexoxo, I am so happy to hear you haven't given up on trying. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted. We may not be family or friends but we still care and are here for you!
Jamiexoxo, I am so happy to hear you haven't given up on trying. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted. We may not be family or friends but we still care and are here for you!
I hope your cycle comes soon and am glad it was not another miscarriage for you.
Glad to hear you didn't have to go threw that again Delbert 81 Good luck ttc!! Thanks to all of the ladies who responded to my post I got the confidence to try again life is to short and we want a family so god willing we will have one soon! Baby dust to you all
Well, I got the 2nd blood test results today. They said my levels are now hcg 17 prog 0.
Said I should start my "normal" cycle soon... which means we can ttc again in a few weeks. Turns out the pregn was a false positive left from my m/c.
I am so sad to say I am releaved that this wasn't another m/c as the doc office thought it could be since I haven't had a cycle in 9 weeks.
I hope you ladies are doing well, you are still in my thoughts and prayers!
On a good note, my nephew was born today at a healthy 7lb 10oz.
Said I should start my "normal" cycle soon... which means we can ttc again in a few weeks. Turns out the pregn was a false positive left from my m/c.
I am so sad to say I am releaved that this wasn't another m/c as the doc office thought it could be since I haven't had a cycle in 9 weeks.
I hope you ladies are doing well, you are still in my thoughts and prayers!
On a good note, my nephew was born today at a healthy 7lb 10oz.
i am truly sorry for your loss... i understand cuz i lost my baby back in april & it was me & my husband's first & my lord it's been a nightmare..... my sister in law is pregnant & due anyday now & it's been so hard to not get depressed even more... i AM happy for her & my brother in law it's just hard..... i think time will be the main thing to help you heal... it's natural for us to feel broken over this & seein other babies bein born & other pregnant women can easily remind us of what we lost... idk if you're religious at all but God has def help give me strength to get through each day... He's brought peace to me in my lowest moments. i pray you & all women dealin with the loss will be comforted.
I completely understand your fears. I too started having bad panic attacks. I had one so bad my arm and fingers went numb. I thought I was having a stroke (I'm only 29) and went to the ER. My blood pressure was 220/100, when normally I'm around 120/80. After my M/C my OB put me on Xanax, which has been really helping.
More bad news, my blood work came back yesterday and doc says he can't tell if my levels (hcg 144 progst 0.7) is from my m/c or from a new early preg. So, I am to repeat my blood work in a week. The really bad news is that even with progst supplm, they said I will most likely miscarry again in a week or two. So I am left to wait. I am still cramping and nothing. I hate this waiting game.
We decided last night that if I miscarry, we will use protection every time till have at least 2 regular cycles.. to give my body time to heal. Then, we will try again. I pray at that time we can be successful. If not, I think I may stop trying for awhile. A person can only handle so much loss and disappointment at a time. Not only do our bodys need time to heal, but so do our minds and hearts. I agree with ChristineMp- I would look into a support group, since those are actual people going thru what your going thru.
I will keep you in my prayers, and best of luck to you!
More bad news, my blood work came back yesterday and doc says he can't tell if my levels (hcg 144 progst 0.7) is from my m/c or from a new early preg. So, I am to repeat my blood work in a week. The really bad news is that even with progst supplm, they said I will most likely miscarry again in a week or two. So I am left to wait. I am still cramping and nothing. I hate this waiting game.
We decided last night that if I miscarry, we will use protection every time till have at least 2 regular cycles.. to give my body time to heal. Then, we will try again. I pray at that time we can be successful. If not, I think I may stop trying for awhile. A person can only handle so much loss and disappointment at a time. Not only do our bodys need time to heal, but so do our minds and hearts. I agree with ChristineMp- I would look into a support group, since those are actual people going thru what your going thru.
I will keep you in my prayers, and best of luck to you!
You may want to find a support group. They are free and I know from experience they can often be even more helpful than individual counseling. If you post or private message me your general location I would be happy to help you find a support group in your area.
Thank you all for your responses it's comforting to know I am not alone. I did want to go to therapy but my ins only pays for 4 visits and I know that will not be enough even with the love and support of my husband and family I have lost my strength. I used to be a strong person and have so much faith in things but I have
Lost it. The two times I became preg I lost both of them and Also alot of family Memembers I have start suffering panic attacks I have such a fear of loosing people now and even becoming preg again because I fear another mc I wish all my friends who are having babies the best because I know hoe hard it is to become preg and to have a healthy baby and I wish all of you luck !! Xoxo
Lost it. The two times I became preg I lost both of them and Also alot of family Memembers I have start suffering panic attacks I have such a fear of loosing people now and even becoming preg again because I fear another mc I wish all my friends who are having babies the best because I know hoe hard it is to become preg and to have a healthy baby and I wish all of you luck !! Xoxo
I am writing this to you with tears in my eyes for both of you.
Please don't loose faith, or hope.
I am 29, and I lost my mother on 4/8. I was 8 weeks pregnant, my second child. When I went for my normanl 12w check up on 5/4, doc decided to do an ultra sound so we could see our baby. He knew it would cheer me up to see my baby. Only to find our baby had no heartbeat. The lab work indicated our baby passed within a day or two of my moms death. I was very angry and horribly depressed for weeks. I couldn't and still have trouble understanding how my mother and baby could be taken from me at the same time.
My doc said the lab work came back that there was a chromosome (spelling?) issue. I have accepted the facts and trying to heal. I know and understand now that our child may not have been healthy. It may not have had a brain, or worse, it could have died later after birth, or as a toddler. I couldn't not have gone thru that fate. Not that I am happy I miscarried, bec I'm not, however I am thankful that I only miscarried and not have to watch my child possibly die later.
My next door neighbor and good friend is pregnant and we were both due around the same time. Come November I know it will be hard to see her bring her baby home, and I don't. Also, a family member just found out she is pregnant with twins. I am so happy for all of them with healthy pregnancy's, but its hard for me too...
On a brighter note, here I am 8 weeks after the d&c and still no period. I took a test last night just bec I was curious and it was positive. Today I am cramping, but the doc still ordered a blood test. I am soo happy, but sooo scared. I'm afraid that I will miscarry again.
Like I said, please don't loose faith or hope. And when your due dates come around, do something for yourselves, that makes you happy. And if it doesn't, remember its ok to be sad, its ok to cry. Things will get better for you, and the pain of losing your child will never go away but hopefully it won't hurt so bad.
I even went and got a tattoo of my mother "an angel" holding our baby. Its beautiful and I get to see them everyday.
Good luck to you both!
Lori
Please don't loose faith, or hope.
I am 29, and I lost my mother on 4/8. I was 8 weeks pregnant, my second child. When I went for my normanl 12w check up on 5/4, doc decided to do an ultra sound so we could see our baby. He knew it would cheer me up to see my baby. Only to find our baby had no heartbeat. The lab work indicated our baby passed within a day or two of my moms death. I was very angry and horribly depressed for weeks. I couldn't and still have trouble understanding how my mother and baby could be taken from me at the same time.
My doc said the lab work came back that there was a chromosome (spelling?) issue. I have accepted the facts and trying to heal. I know and understand now that our child may not have been healthy. It may not have had a brain, or worse, it could have died later after birth, or as a toddler. I couldn't not have gone thru that fate. Not that I am happy I miscarried, bec I'm not, however I am thankful that I only miscarried and not have to watch my child possibly die later.
My next door neighbor and good friend is pregnant and we were both due around the same time. Come November I know it will be hard to see her bring her baby home, and I don't. Also, a family member just found out she is pregnant with twins. I am so happy for all of them with healthy pregnancy's, but its hard for me too...
On a brighter note, here I am 8 weeks after the d&c and still no period. I took a test last night just bec I was curious and it was positive. Today I am cramping, but the doc still ordered a blood test. I am soo happy, but sooo scared. I'm afraid that I will miscarry again.
Like I said, please don't loose faith or hope. And when your due dates come around, do something for yourselves, that makes you happy. And if it doesn't, remember its ok to be sad, its ok to cry. Things will get better for you, and the pain of losing your child will never go away but hopefully it won't hurt so bad.
I even went and got a tattoo of my mother "an angel" holding our baby. Its beautiful and I get to see them everyday.
Good luck to you both!
Lori
I am going through the same thing right now and it is horrible. My due date is (was) supposed to be June 30th and have multiple friends due around the same time. It is so much more painful for me this week than I expected it to be. It just really hurts. I feel empty and like God has tossed me aside. Watching other women get to experience the joy of what was taken from me just makes the loss that much worse. I have been trying to decide what to do with myself on the due date (Thursday). I have to work in the morning, which is good, and I am going to see my counselor in the afternoon. It will be a hard day. I'm so sorry you are going through this too. It is the worst. Was this your first pregnancy? It was my first, but then after the m/c in December, I got pregnant again in March. Unfortunately, I lost that baby too, so this is doubly hard right now. And this 2nd m/c is taking FOREVER... I have been bleeding for 8 straight weeks now and on Monday my hcg was still at 55. I feel like it will never be over and I'm not sure how to handle it anymore. I feel so done with it all.
What are you doing to help with the sadness? I run, which helps, and read a lot. I also pray, but am struggling with my faith at the moment, so that is not really comforting right now. I just wish God would have some mercy on me and end this bleeding from the 2nd loss, BEFORE my first due date comes, but I don't think that will happen.
Anyway, try to hang in there! You don't have to be happy for your friends right now. If they are truly your friends they will understand that while you love them, it is just too hard to see their perfect babies when you lost yours. You are allowed to feel the negative feelings, and someday they WILL be better. This will get easier. That is what I tell myself, anyway!
What are you doing to help with the sadness? I run, which helps, and read a lot. I also pray, but am struggling with my faith at the moment, so that is not really comforting right now. I just wish God would have some mercy on me and end this bleeding from the 2nd loss, BEFORE my first due date comes, but I don't think that will happen.
Anyway, try to hang in there! You don't have to be happy for your friends right now. If they are truly your friends they will understand that while you love them, it is just too hard to see their perfect babies when you lost yours. You are allowed to feel the negative feelings, and someday they WILL be better. This will get easier. That is what I tell myself, anyway!
Have you seen a counselor? Gone to a support group? The grieving process is different for everyone and it is normal to have symptoms worsen at times. A counselor and/or a support group can really help
(((hug))) Best wishes for you. I will keep you in my prayers.
(((hug))) Best wishes for you. I will keep you in my prayers.
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