How long did/will you wait to try again?

[marymoonu]

I had a m/c 8 days ago, between 7-8 weeks pregnant.  This was my second pregnancy and the m/c was the most terrifying thing I've ever experienced (I had a feeling it was coming, I spotted lightly off and on for almost a month after I found out I was pregnant, but I had no clue what to expect).  My first pregnancy was a very standard, textbook pregnancy with no complications and resulted in my beautiful 11-month-old son.  Since I have experienced a normal pregnancy before, I hope that this was just one of those unlucky fluke things that happens and that I will be able to go on and have more children without problems.  

My husband and I want to start TTC again immediately, but I haven't talked to the doctor about it yet.  I go in tomorrow for a follow-up ultrasound to make sure my uterus is empty (I hope it is... I will be VERY disappointed if I had to go through the trauma of a natural m/c and then STILL have to go through a D&C)... So anyway, I hope to ask the doctor tomorrow for his recommendation on whether we should wait or not.

I seriously hope that he says he can start again at any time, but it seems like most doctors do recommend a period of waiting before trying again.  So I was just wondering how long you waited/will wait before trying again??

[jewel88]

I am very sorry for your loss, and know exactly how you feel.  We lost our baby 12 days ago, I was 13 weeks pregnant, but the baby never developed properly. They estimated it stopped growing 5 weeks ago.

For us, we decided to wait awhile before trying again. The dr said to wait one cycle (when the period returns) before trying again. After the follow-up ultrasound a week after m/c, they saw that everything was gone, so thankfully no d&c.  The next day I got my period but decided to wait until the next one until going on birth control. Like Lena, we believe it was meant to happen especially if the baby was not developing. But we will never forget our second little one, we had a memorial at our local church and it helped us for closure.

Gem

[marymoonu]

That is beautiful, thank you.

We have talked about it, and we'll be taking the exact approach that you mentioned.  I won't be doing anything to track my fertility (I had been using OPK's), and we'll just not try/not prevent.  Whenever it is meant to be, it will be.  :)  I just hope it's meant to be sooner rather than later.  ;)

[Lena0030]

I am sorry for your loss. I know how it feels I have been there. I miscarried on Mothers Day of this year. I was 5 weeks., but what i have learned that no matter how far along you are it still hurts the same. I broke down as if I had carried that baby 9 months and lost it.  I still had my moments of grieving but I prayed and I knew God would heal me physically and emotionally. My Doctor said my body was doing a great job getting rid of it .I had to keep in mind that there might have been something terribly wrong with this child. I had to believe that or I would go insane so alot of support from my husband and God is what got me through. We have already started having sex again.. we have been since a week after I stopped bleeding. We are not trying but just not preventing. I believe if it is ment to be it is gonna happen reguardless of the circumstances. I watch I didnt know I was pregnant and some of them women lift and drink and do things they are not suppose to and still carry full term.. So if it is ment to be that child will come. I wanted to share a bible verse with you ," And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities,that the power of Christ may rest upon me."Meaning dont give up.. God will be with you every step of the way. He will give you the strength and the healing that you need. I hope this has helped.

[rccresswell]

Hi
I am sorry for your loss.  All I can say is what my doctor told me.  When I miscarried my son at 14 weeks, it was a natural miscarriage, every thing came away, I asked the doctor right afterwards and she said you can try when you want.  There is no real time I gues it is when you feel you are physically and emotionally ready.

I think doctors want you to wait so you have a starting point for your next pregnancy and to wait for your body to get back to normal but I believe if you fall pregnant you fall pregnant.  Do what you think is right for you!!!