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I need help.

I have a 1 year old daughter. I recently lost another daughter on march 17th due to edwards syndrome. She was only with us for 3 days. Ever since then i have noticed i get so angry about everything everyday. I cant stand being like this because my daughter and husband see it too. I dont know what to do if i tell my husband he thinks i can work it out and i try but i have no idea what to do. When i feel the anger somete i will isolate myself for a bit till im calm. Then afterwards i begin to torture myself by saying its always my fault. I know i need help cause this aint normal but i have no idea where to even begin. I dont want anyone to think im simply weak. Please where do i begin?
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Wow that must of been one of the most devastating things to have ever happend to you and your family! I think you have every right to be going through some crazy emotions and there is nothing to feel bad about. You should go and see your doctor and try to talk to someone professional about councilling. I am so sorry for your loss i cant even begin to imagine how heart broken you and your family must be :(
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Definitely seek out a counselor or support group. that will help you not feel so alone. What you are feeling is completely normal. It's part of grieving, your family will never recover if all of you don't grieve and learn how to live again. it's definitely not easy but is possible to cope . You are doing well by reaching out but I would suggest finding someone who specializes in this and take it slow. Don't beat yourself up over it you're trying.
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I agree with the others.   I don't want to be technical here,  but you are in the anger stage,  the second stage of grief,  and that's where you should be probably at this point in time.

Can you find a support group - even online - for mothers who lost babies?  In person would be better,  where you would have a facilitator.

Prayers for peace for you.  This is really,  really hard.
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Oh no! So sorry for your loss. Yes don't beat yourself or feel guilty for anything, we have no control of certain things. Seek God and rest kwowing Jesus carried all of our sufferings and He understands more than anybody. And it's ok to cry, scream, shout, let it all out. Ask your family to help you with the little one if possible so you can rest too.
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My sisters daughter was stillborn Mar 23. We were going through our pregnancies together she was due April 13, I'm due Jun 11. This has been devastating for our family, but of course especially for my sister.  I know it's a struggle everyday but her husband and son are a great comfort to her. I'm very sorry for your loss
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Therapy. My brother has ptsd and it has changed him so much for the better.  
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There might be free programs where you can talk to a therapists or counselor about this.  The one in my city is called the Advocacy Center.
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what you are feeling is absolutely normal GRIEF!!!
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