MISCARRIAGE AT 41 WEEKS OF PREGNANCY

[MAZET]

HALLOW I FEEL SO DEPRESSED RIGHT NOW I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I GOT PREGNANT LAST YEAR APRIL, AND WHEN I WAS ABOUT TO DELIVER IN JANUARY, THE DOCTOR TOLD THAT MY CHILD HAS DIED INSIDE MY WOMB AND I DID DELIVER AFTERWARDS AND HE WAS BURIED, I THOUGHT I GOT OVER BUT I HAVEN'T I STILL MISS HIM A LOT AND I WISH TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN, I HAVE HAD MY FULL MENSTRUAL PERIOD AGAIN LAST MONTH AND I HAD SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH MY PARTNER LAST WEEK, I THOUGHT I MIGHT GET PREGNANT BUT I HAVEN'T BECAUSE I STARTED MY PERIODS TODAY, AND TOMMORROW MY BABY WILL BE TURNING 3 MONTHS AFTER I LOST HIM AND I ALWAYS FEEL BAD ON THAT DAY, I WANNA HAVE ANOTHER BABY WHAT SHOULD I DO... I DID WENT TO THE DOCTOR AFTER MY MISCARRIAGE AND HE SAID THERE IS NO DAMAGE AND I SHOULD TRY AGAIN AFTER 2 MONTHS BUT IT HAS NOT HAPPENED AS YET...I STILL DO NOT KNOW WHAT WENT WRONG WITH MY BABY, WHY DID HE DIED..I WAS ATTENDING CLINIC REGULARLY..I JUST DO NOT KNOW WHAT WENT WRONG, PLEASE HELP ME..

[racinmom]

Im sorry for your loss... let me begin to say that my first pregnancy was 9 years ago I had my son at 6 months he weighed 1 pound 8.6 oz.. 14 in..  I thank god every day that my son is fine and healthy.. my husband and I wanted to have another baby so I found out I was pregnant in feb 09 everything was going fine and I was so careful because I wanted to carry this baby full term.. when I got up to 5 months I was getting worried and prayed everyday that I would make it passed 6 months.. I woke up saturday morning with alittle brown discharged then nothing for 2 days so I thought maybe it was old blood. monday morning I woke up and there was alot of it so I went to the hospital to do a scan to make sure my baby was ok.. at first they hooked the monitor to my belly and then with saying nothing they got another thing to listen to her heartbeat, the nurse left the room and a doctor came in with a mini ultra sound machine and said there was no movement and no heartbeat but he wanted to go get a regular ultrasound before he said anything else. it was the same results she was gone - they took me right to surgery and took her because I was about to start hemorraging my little girl weighed 6.1 ounces and was 8 inches long.  my husband and I got to hold her and spend time with her before they took her. we too buried her and I think that was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I stopped my life I didnt get out of bed couldnt go anywhere by myself and cried all the time... I still cry..I take 150mg of zoloft everyday and it helps!!  .it is very hard to lose a child because you honestly feel alone - no one knows what your going through but they tell you to straighten up and do this but it isnt that easy. its been 8 months now and we have been trying to get pregnant for 2 months im not giving up and neither should you. if you would like to talk to me some more please email me at ***@**** because I know what its like and what your going through Im still going through it now....I wish you lots of luck....melissa

[MAZET]

I JUST WANNA THANK YOU SO MUCH, IT MEANS A LOT TO ME TO KNOW THAT YOU GUYS CARE, I WILL TAKE YOUR ADVICES AND GO FOR COUNSELLING AND TO ANSWER YOU, ABOUT WHETHER I KNEW WHAT WENT WRONG, I DO NOT KNOW THE DOCTOR DID NOT TELL ME, THEY JUST SAID THEY SUSPECTED IT WAS HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE.. BUT I HOPE I WILL GET PREGNANT SOON BECAUSE I DID A CHECK UP AFTER THE MISCARRAIGE AND THE DR SAID THERE NOTHING WRONG I CAN STILL CONCIEVE AGAIN.. I HOPE IN TIME I WILL BE ALRIGHT I JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TOO..

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I could jump through the pc and give you a big hug. I had a d and e at 19 wks in 05. My baby had no hb. It was a nightmare. It took my body forever to recover I had complications from the d and e and ended up with a d and c etc. It took my body about 5 mos to get back on track. Then a few mos after that I eneded up with ovarian surgery. Yikes. I never got a reason as to why my baby died. I pushed my pain aside for 3 yrs until having 4 m/cs last yr and then it all came to the surface. I was so desperated to understand why it was so hard for me to have another child. I didn't get any answers. I did not wait after my last m/c in sept and decided to ttc right away. I also put myself in counseling. I needed someone to listen to me about my pain. It affected alot of things incuding my marriage. So we are in marital counseling as well. If your dr gave you the green light to ttc then if your heart and mind are ready go for it. Your cycle may be affected that happens after having a m/c especially with how far along you were. Have you tried opk's or talked to your dr about clomid etc? It may just be your body getting back on track that may be why you are not pg yet. I'm here if you need to talk. Best wishes to you and I hope you feel better soon.....

AP

[Juana824]

Mazet, I am so sorry for your loss, but I would also suggest grief counseling. I pray that you will gain strength in the midst of your heartache. I had a miscarriage in September of last year so I can relate to what you are going through. Be blessed!

Left Coast Chick...she is in the miscarriages forum!!

[smr08]

Mazet, I'm so sorry for your loss. I delivered my son in October at 5 months, I got the ok from my Dr. in November to start ttc again. I waited until December when I was sure that I was emotionally ready, I've yet to become pregnant, but I refuse to give up. Did your Dr do any test to see what happened to your baby? It's such a tragic event and takes time to heal, you can always talk to your Dr. and see where he/she thinks you should go from here. I wish you peace.

[LeftCoastChick]

You might get more support in the Miscarriage Support Forum - did your OB tell you what may have happened? I also suggest you go to grief counselling, they're held all over the world. Speak with your family doctor as well, s/he might have some better info.


Here's the link for that community:

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Miscarriages/show/283

[therese83]

You need to go back to your Doctor and he/she should help you to find proper support and maybe a counselling or help group.  This is a very specific problem and many other women have been where you are and can understand your feelings.  Try to find the right support.