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No idea what.'s next

almost 6am and have to be at hospital in a couple of hours for d&c. No idea what just happened. Went for my 12 week scan, happy as larry, pregnant, feeling on top of the world.... was told baby was a bit small, sorry there is no heart beat, app stopped at 10w 6d Just devastated. I have an 8 year old son, a loving husband. Couldn't wish for better support. I just don't want to do this. Still feel pregnant, no signs of any bleeding, cramping. I cried for 2 days and the last 3 days I have just turned into this "anger ball" - honestly feels like smashing everything breakable I can find
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1351078 tn?1416313146
I hear you I miscarried my 11 week 5 day baby last week :( and was 1st devestated now im angry just like you im so sorry that you have to go threw this i went the route of a d&c because I have kids at home and I was heavy bleeding .  I wanted to be able to try again soon because im going to be 36 at the end of the month  . Praying for you guys (hugs ) Loretta
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719902 tn?1334165183
I'm so sorry sweetie.  I guess it's all over now, and I hope you are recovering (physically) and that all went well.  I went thru a loss almost exactly like yours in Dec.  Went to my 12w appt and found no heartbeat; baby measured 10 w 3d.  Devastated barely begins to describe it.  
It is perfectly normal to be angry; feel free to vent away here; we all understand!!  My hubby was supportive but after a week or so he didn't understand why I was still sad. :(  Still AM sad.  Men sometimes just can't understand how we love our babies so much from the moment of conception (or before!)
Hugs and prayers to you.  Time does help, I promise.  Also writing, venting, crying...  I put my baby's sono pics in a little album, along with a list of baby names I had written.  Also made a bracelet with an angel wing charm in memory of my angels (I've lost 3), and that helped me feel better.  I am considering a tiny angel wing tattoo; I just wanna feel some connection to them, you know??  Some people plant a tree or something like that.  Anything that can help you feel better in any way, and remind you -- in a positive way -- of your little one.  
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San,

I can feel you. I was in happy mood heading to hospital thinking it's early labor. I was already 35wk 2days then. After doctor did an ultrasound, I was told that my son does not have heartbeat anymore. I wish I can have my baby inside me a bit longer but the contraction getting intense and I deliver my stillborn baby naturally 7hours later without inducement. Same like you, I do not have any bleeding nor cramp. Doctor says that my baby has been dead for 4-5days. Only the contraction triggers me to go to hospital. Do not get into depression and take care of your health to recover asap so that you can TTC again. God loves our babies more!
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