Stress?

[usuk]

anyone here whose doc told them stress causes a miscarriage. my doc says no and my best friend who is an ob/gyn says no too but i saw another post here saying otherwise. i had 3 mc's. 1st was at 14 weeks right after i was told my house needed to be rebuilt because of water damage - $$$$; the 2nd was about 9 weeks right after my boss had a huge 3 hour long fight (attack is more like it) after he started reading my personal email. and the 3rd i think was just a bad egg - never had a heartbeat like #1 and #2 did. anyway in this same period of time my DH and I got laid off and had to move, we had to sue the people who sold me that crappy house, and i now paying mortgage and rent until the lawsuit settles and i can sell. i think this could be considered stress, but i do not want to make an excuse for bad luck or bad eggs. thanks :)

[ArmyPrincess819]

I have to agree with your dr. Usually the only time stress affects a pg is later on when the fetus is older it can feel the adrenaline and his or her hb can race just like ours etc. There are so many reasons a m/c can happen. Sometimes we don't know why they just happen. It could be just a coincidence all of these things that were negative were happening at the time you lost your pregnancies. It is unfortunate but you may never know why they happened. You can't blame yourself for something you have no control over and a m/c is one of them. Best wishes to you. I'm here if you need to talk.

AP

[usuk]

thank you. maybe friends think that to tell you it's stress takes the burden/guilt off me. but in the end it just makes me angrier to think that people have wronged me, caused me major stress and that has also taken away the life of those babies. thanks again.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I know it's such a brutal time honestly! The not knowing is enough to drive anyone nuts. Don't beat yourself I know easier said than done. In time it will lessen the dispair and anger and defeat. The pain will become easier to manage and will not control you. For now try to relax and take a deep breath and look ahead to the future no need to look back to the sadness! I'm here if you need to talk. Best wishes to you and good luck with everything!

AP