Third Miscarriage

[Sosaddened]

Last week I had my third DNC after another mis-miscarriage.  That simply means that your body doesn't naturally miscarry so I endured walking around with three pregnancies back to back not knowing wether or not I'd see a heart beat.  Unfortunately I lost each pregnancy right around 6 weeks and never saw a heart beat.  My husband and I began fertility counseling and treatment before our last pregnancy.  They found Ashermans Syndrome (which was operated on) and found that I have such a high immune system that my body was rejecting the placenta.  Therefore I was on every hormone known to man.  We of course had very high hopes with this pregnancy.  I'm just at a loss and don't know if it's time to give up and look at other options or what the hell to do.  Not to mention I lost my job almost two years ago two weeks before the first miscarriage and had to carry the fetus for three weeks before Cobra would kick in for a DNC.  (Sorry for that last part, needed to vent a bit.)

Has anyone else experienced heartbeats not starting at a specific time or heard of anything like this?  

Please help!!!

[kellie2003]

Im so sorry for your lost. I know and understand what your going through. I know right now its seems so hard to get threw this but you will. My prayers are with you hun. Yes the same thing happens to me. The heartbeat was there at 8 weeks and then after that it stopped and i never found out till I was supposely 12 weeks. But everything happens for a reason. Just try to be postive i know its hard and the pain cant even be explain but your strong. it will be okay at the end. God will soon answer your prayer for a little one.

[rejoyce]

I'm new to this website and this forum. I just found out yesterday that I miscarried again. 1st m/c and this 2nd m/c, both times, DH and I saw heartbeat at 7 weeks, only to find out (last time) at about 11 or 12 weeks u/s heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks and then I miscarried naturally the following day or so. This time they scheduled me for an earlier 2nd u/s and again baby's heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks or so (we saw heartbeat at 7 weeks this time too), I should've been 9 weeks along. So now I'm waiting for the bleeding, etc. to start. It's emotionally draining and devastating to go through it the 1st time (end of November), and now to go through it a second time. It's just too much. I don't know how to find the courage to try again and I know I don't have to decide on that now, but I don't even know how to carry on (go back to work and act 'normal' till I pass all the stuff out) since I probably have a week or 2 at least to wait to pass. Thank you for your encouragement, it's just too raw right now, DH sees me falling apart and just says, "let's not try again."

[kellie2003]

Don't give up hun! I had two past miscarriage also. The pain is unbearable of losing my baby. I had my first miscarriage, and then 3 months later I got pregnant again and had another miscarriage. I know how it feel hun. But honestly don't give up on hope. These miscarriage happen about 2 years ago. But after my second miscarriage I never thought I could get pregnant. I had loss hope. After a year went by without using any protection or anything I finally got pregnant again. I was scare to death that I was going to have another miscarriage. But god finally bless me with my baby girl. And my baby girl is my life my everything my angel. && now my husband and i are excepting a boy. So to me God had a different plan for my first two and god had bless me with my two baby now.

[Sheaby]

Getting the strength to keep trying isn't easy.  Hopefully you have a loving supportive DH that is empathetic to what is going on.  I used to get so upset with my DH because he just doesn't get it - he tries to be supportive, but I forget that he doesn't know what it's like to want to carry a child, know that that's what women are built for, and then see so many people around you get pregnant at the drop of a hat.  I finally realized that as much as he cares, he is a man, and he really doesn't truly understand; and I can't fault him for that.  You can both survive, and once it happens, going through it all will make the two of you that much closer.  I honestly don't know anything about Asherman's, so I can't give any input on that - but since you did mention that you got pregnant shortly after beginning the hormone treatment to combat your high immune system, I can only hope that your body hadn't fully accepted the new treatment yet, and that now your body is getting used to it.  I will say that before attempting to get pregnant again, take some time off.  Continue the hormones to balance your immune, but go have fun.  Let your body and mind heal before trying again.  Your mental state, as well as your physical state, can have a big impact on your pregnancies as well.  If you are always sad, feeling defeated, and upset - then your body will react to that.  Again, I know it's easier said than done - but as much as you push yourself to get pregnant, push yourself to be happy and at peace.  I wish you nothing but the  best babe :)

[mhv]

That is Great news!
I just know from personal experience, and from being on the ashermans. org site that sometimes the scarring can still be there, even if it "looks"s like it has all been removed.  But, I am assuming, you had a hysteroscopy to show your uterus had healed 100%.
I only had scarring in 20% of my uterus, and had to 2 surgeries with 2 diff RE's and both said scarring was gone.   They both showed me with a saline sonohystogram that my "scarring was gone"... well, I wasn't convienced, so I started emailing a Dr. Charles March in LA.  He is the leading Ashermans surgeon in pretty much the world.  He reviewed my history, and without even seeing me in person, knew I had scarring that had re-grown, that the other doctors didn't see (he did all of the emailing/assessing for free.  No charge to me, until I became a patient).  I am just a big advocate now for Ashermans, and know first hand if you do not get treated by an ashermans specialist, you could have trouble down the line.  
I just wanted to make sure you had covered every base possible for your m/c's.   You can also have a little bit higher rate of m/c due to having ashermans in the past also.   also, just another FYI, if you go to the ashermans. org site, they will tell you on there to avoid another dnc if possible.  There are a couple of meds they can give you to help you m/c.  I am not trying to sound like a know it all.... I just have your best interest at heart.  
I pray that you get preggers soon, and that it is a healthy happy pregnancy!!!!!!!

[Sosaddened]

I also wanted to add that I have mis-miscarriages and I have to get DNC's to make sure everything passes due to me not miscarring myself.

[Sosaddened]

I've had so many surgeries that unfortunately the scar tissue grew.  Asherman's was all over my uterus.  It literally looked like a septum from your nose.  So essentialy, I had 2 openings to my uterus.  I of course had a follow up after the surgery and saw w/ my own eyes that all of the scar tissue had been removed and my uterus looked perfect.

[Sosaddened]

Thank you Sheaby for the post.  I hear ya that if you don't put yourself out there how can you expect anything.  Simply put, where in the hell am I supposed to come up with the strength to keep going.  It's easy to say, ah just get pregnant again, and again, and again and maybe it'll work.  Maybe my marriage will survive this.  Maybe I'll survive this.

[mhv]

It kinda scares me also that they keep doing dnc's when they know you are prone to ashermans....

[mhv]

I am sorry to hear about your m/c's. It can be so disheartening.
I am actually more interested in your Ashermans.  May I ask where your scarring was?  This may still be playing  a part in your m/c's if it was not completely/correctly removed.  I have been battling w/ Ashermans since my m/c in Aug 09.  I would love to hear more information on your backround if you would be willing to share.

Hugs,
Melissa

[Sheaby]

Don't give up!!  I had a m/c last year, and finally am able (mentally and emotionally) to ttc again.  My advice is more about my mother.  She had me when she was 24 years old, decided to wait until I was 8 to try again and had 3 m/c back to back, all planned pregnancies.  She accidentally got pregnant a 5th time when I was 11, and seriously thought about terminating because she didn't think she could go through another loss.  My father convinced her to try one last time because she had decided to go with a tubal ligation - well, fast forward 15 years later, and my brother is 6' 2" and a star athlete who is about to get his drivers' license.  Fertility issues and m/c weren't talked about as much then as they are now, so no one ever knew why should couldn't get passed 10 weeks, all 3 we were all there to see the heartbeat and everything at the 8 week checkup.  Just know that if you keep trying, it's bound to happen.  If you give up, then you don't have a chance at all.  Good luck to you and lots of sticky baby dust!