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1529131 tn?1360206541

Trying to be happy

The hardest thing bout multiple miscarriages is seeing someone else pregnant. One of my BFF is pg, my cousin is pg, a co-worker is pg, and I miscarried two last year, and pg now but to scared to even admit it. How do you get over the envy and jealously towards them? And I can't stop looking at baby stuff.
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i kno exactly hw u feel. i found out on December 2 that my bby didnt hv a heartbeat i was 8wks!!! i hv a cousin that is exactly a month ahead of me, two friends that are due next month, and an aunt that is due next month!!! i hv skipped all babyshowers!!! i hv many moments were i still cry and just wanna b alone because of the lose! at times i even dream about what if i wouldve had the baby! i was told that it takes alot of time for some ppl but i pray alot and will pray for all of u!!! i am so scared 2 get pg again 2 the point of i really dont wanna have sex most nights!!! but i hope u get betta sweetie just let go and let God!!!
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658499 tn?1394896411
I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know EXACTLY how you feel :-( as I am currently in the grieving stage now.  It has been 5 weeks and 2 days since I delivered my daughter.  It was just awful.  I was 22 weeks along...1st pregnancy, via IVF...just horrible.  Let's not even talk about the natural raw emotions that overcome you during this time.  I also feel that no one understands.  I feel ppl try to be encouraging but some of their words are just not what you want or need to hear during this difficult time, although they are coming from a good place.  Some days are better than other but all you can do is take things one day at a time.  If u feel like crying, cry, yelling, yell, whatever you need...

I start therapy on Monday.  I just don't know what to do with myself and I'm very anxious and haven't been sleeping...Its all just awful yet trying to stay faithful thru it all, although sometimes I don't know how to do that...

Anyways, sorry for the long message...just know you have another mommy praying for you

xoxo
marline
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1695391 tn?1372191651
think the replys to this post are spot on .. ive had 4 losses now from 6 to the 9 week stage, ive had all the tests i can have and been told theres no explanation for any of them :(
In a way i can see thats a good thing as i will just have to try again when im strong enuf yet i feel if they had found a problem then i would of had a reason for the losses and could of tried to fix it..
As for the jealousy i still have it bad .. cant stand to see ppl with bumps even tho its not there fault but ive just found out my sister in law is trying again and thats the last thing i need at the moment as she no's how bad i am .. what if it just keeps happening and i never carry full term .. :( im coming up 30 in june and wont be trying again until after may nxt yr as im getting married then so al be nearly 31 .. a guess we will just see what happens and wish all you ladies all the luck in the world xxxx
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Oh do I know how you feel. I miscarried just before Christmas at 16 weeks. My sister was 6 weeks further along then I was. So I had to go through Christmas, New year, the baby shower is soon. It is crazy hard to participate in these things knowing that she'll get to hold her baby. It's been just over a month and the jealousy hasn't subsided at all. I think when the due date passes it may be easier. We all just have to hang in there and believe everything happened for a reason (mind you, it's really hard to think of any reason good enough to take my baby) So, hang in there Hun, it will happen for us one day. Take care of yourself,
Hugs from Montreal
Melanie
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Hey.  I'm sorry about your losses.  I've had 3 m/c's and I so get what you are saying.  I don't really know how you get over it because I'm still there.  Maybe it just takes a lot of time, idk.  I sure hope you have a little sticky bean in there this time.  And hopefully as you get further along with this one, you'll be able to be happy and excited. good luck
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