Why did my babys heart stop beating?

[kdroq]

Hello there,
I now have a little angel in heaven. Back on June 23, 2014 was my first appointment to see my baby. This was my first baby if I may add. I was supposed to have been 9 weeks according to my lmp, however I know that's not always correct. I had a vaginal sonogram and as the doctor was looking everything looked fine baby was surrounded with fluid and everything and doctor said I was measuring 7w3d. But, you could hear it in the doctors voice like he knew something was wrong. He further explained what we where looking at and then came, " however I am not seeing a heartbeat."  The room became silent and the smile on my face was gone. He then sent me to an ultrasound tech who told the doctor I was measuring 8w and also couldn't find a heartbeat. Doctor then sat me down and said it was a miscarriage. The most devastating words I remember. Not the way I wanted my first check up to be, being that it was my first pregnancy. However, leaving that doctor I didn't feel confident that it was true, for I was not having any sings or symptoms of a miscarriage. So I decided to look for another doctor to get a second opinion. July 1st was the earliest the new doctor could get me in to check. Went July 1st another vaginal ultrasound and the same thing my baby hadn't grown measuring 8w and no heart beat. Trying to stay hopeful during the week waiting for my second opinion had gone down the drain. My fiance and I were devastated. I had a d&c done July 3 and each day is getting a tad bit easier, but it breaks my heart to see other women pregnant or to see babies. I wonder why my baby was taken? Doctor said it was nothing I did, but I can't help but feel like it was my fault. Because I was carrying the baby. I am having mixed emotions towards all of it, I'm mad one day,sad and just heart broken. I was so excited to be having a baby and then I go to my first appointment not knowing it would be my last for this pregnancy. Its not fair. If anyone has been through this and has any words feel free to let me know. I'm just having so many different emotions and can't help but ask why my baby? When you have unfit parents or women who are druggies popping out kids left and right. It ***** and doesn't seem fair. But, I know the man above does everything for a reason, a reason I wish I knew.

[snance24]

Reading your post made me have a flashback as though this were me posting this. Last year April 2013 we found out at 11 weeks along that our baby stopped growing at 10 weeks, my doctor couldn't detect their heart beat. Devestation....that's all I STILL feel. I had to get a D&C, my body wasn't passing our baby. I feared going to the bathroom each time because I had been spotting for over a week at this point. I wish we knew the reasons as to WHY things happen the way they do. A lot of the times they don't seem right or fair. A lot of people take things for granted. We have to work ten times harder to get what we deserve. In the end, it will make it that much more of a miracle/blessing. It's hard to see past the hurt right now, but I do promise you, it WILL get a little easier and your hope and faith will be restored slowly but surely. It's been over a year, a surgery later and we still aren't able to conceive. I feel defeated often but I always try to remind myself to stay positive and be hopeful. I hate feeling bitter when I see others with babies, or pregnant women at my doctors visits. It STILL stings. Not sure if that will ever go away, but at least now, I have accepted that I have a little angel in heaven and hopefully when my baby is ready for ME, we will be blessed with one of our own. Until then, I send you positive thoughts, strength and prayers!

[Misbah811]

Sorry to hear about the loss u ladies have faced.... I too lost my baby in march this year due to ectopic..... I had lost hope for a month but with gods grace and my family's support m pregnant again....... god loves his children and he will always bless us with the best. Keep pray I g and do not loose hope..... u all will be remembered my prayers......

[muchinfo]

i am so sorry for your loss xx
i found out i was pregnant at 6 weeks i had scan could see strong heartbeat and was seen at the EPAS unit as i had been having pain i went again at 8 weeks all was fine still looking strong however at 10 weeks i felt ill went back and told my babys heartbeat had stopped at 9 weeks no pain no bleeding nothing i was heartbroken cryed for days on end worst part was still feeling pregnant :( after 11 days still no sign of passing fetas   and i chose to go to hospital to have medical management and givin tablets to take to make womb contract to pass foetus and sent home later that night the pain started and i passed a tiny thum size fetuse and blood clot that my other half placed into a tub provided by hospital , i could not flush my tiny baby angle away and the co-op funiral people came and took it away we both cried all night my baby angle was placed in moral garden so i can go and i have kept two little scan pics of my tiny image and had a memory bottle made that sits in my living room  with a tiny white feather in it , that was April the 6th 2014 and i am still tore by the loss it took 3 weeks for the pregnancy symptoms to leave my body sickness and sore cheast what i was told is every one in 4 pregnancy end this way and for you and me they call it a missed miscarriage  :( due to no bleeding  i am coping and still look at my little scan every day but i know that there must have been something wrong why my baby would not grow as its little heart was strong  and i do wonder is she had been stronger and lived may have been born with disability as not forming correct xx i do hope you find peace and i am now trying to have another child and yes i fear that i may miss again but i shall never give up hope love and hugs sending your way xx be strong and try not to keep thinking why me why my baby it will make you ill as i know it did me x

[Shylapaige]

I don't know*

[Shylapaige]

The exact same thing happened to me today. .:( I'd how to feel or what to think.

[Dragonwings]

I feel your pain. It's not our fault. There is a strong possibilty that there was a chromosome problem. It hurts. But don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe that's our body's way of getting ready for the next pregnancy.