baby loss at 30 weeks

[Cass_16]

I am 16 yrs old and lost my baby girl two months ago when i was about 7 months pregnant. Has anyone else lost a baby that far along? Please tell me how you deal if you have?

[shelbelle28]

I had a concealed placental abruption at 34 weeks and lost my baby boy on April 24th 2008.  It was the hardest thing ever; I thought I would die from the emotional pain, but I will tell you it gets a little easier each day.  At first I couldn't sleep because I kept reliving it over and over, but with a little Ambien and time, I am doing better. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel or that you should be over your grief.  You will heal slowly and in your own time. Did they give you a reason?  The most common are what I had and "cord accidents".  I will be thinking of you and wish you the best.

[MsQuickFix]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it is always terrible when a mother outlives her child.  I had a mc of my twin girls when they were just over 6 months along.  I had to go to the hospital and push them out stillborn.  It was the most horrifying experience of my life, i didnt even want to look at them when they came out i was so distraught. For a while you feel like you will never get over it, but it does get a little bit better everyday.  Unfortuently though it will never fully go away.  I talk to my girls all the time, i consider them to be my little guardian angels up in heaven watching over me and my husband and our new baby boy.  Its important to honor the baby though, like for my girls we had a funeral mass and the priest blessed there little bodies and sent them along to heaven.  I have thier pictures and there clothes and prayer cards tucked away in a little box at my parents house and there ashes are in little angel urns.  You cant just forgeta bout it bc its a part of your life and it always will be.  Try to think of it like your baby is in heaven waiting for you, looking down on you smiling bc it got to go straight to heaven and didnt have to worry about all the strife in this world.  If you need someone to talk to about you can message me anytime.  I was only 20 when mine happened so i can still understand where u r coming from being so young. Good luck and I hope everything gets better for you.

[babyhope1]

I haven't I was at 11 weeks...I am praying for your loss.  Generallly a baby is viable, able to live outside the womb at that point.  Did something happen, an accident or something?  Not knowing is the worst, for me my baby had died and they called it a missed miscarrage meaning my body thought it was prego and kept the placenta alive until my next appt when I learned of it, my baby measured small, meaning it had died weeks beforehand.  I had to take pills to abort the products of conception.  It was emotionally very painful and more so than physically painful.  I had a friend in her 40s who lost a baby at 7 months, hers had to do with infertility and her age.  I am so sorry for your loss.

[tracy0615]

I have just lost at baby 4weeks ago I wasnt as far gone as you he was born at 21weeks and am finding it very hard to cope cant think of anything I am so angry too as to why this has happened to us and keep constantly crying.  I am trying to put pictures and his things in an album and I have also joined forums to talk to others who also have gone through this.