Hello, I am sorry for your loss! I had to missed miscarriages last year also one in July and one in December and it was heartbreaking, neither pregnancies went over 8 weeks, I am happy to say that I am now pregnant for the 3rd time and I am now 19 weeks and so far everything is going GREAT so don't give up hope! Best of luck to you all!!!
Thank You guys for all your replies.It does give me some hope. im going for a follow up appt the coming tuesday.Lets see hat all tests the DR might suggest and hopefully the results from the pathology would have come..
Once again thanks for all your kind words i really appreciate it.
I am like you guys....part of the 4%....I had my first m/c in Sept. 2007 at 9 weeks....I passed the tissue and they found no cause of m/c......
Then last month I had my second m/c (pre-term birth, by definition) at 22 weeks.....I had just been inb for my u/s on Monday and the baby girl was moving, had a great heartbeat and all looked fine. Then on Friday, I started having severe uteral pains in the afternoon and five hours later i delivered a little girl at home.....she lived for 2 hours...at 22 weeks i was right on the verge of wether it was to be classified as a pre-term birth or miscarriage......one doctor said one thing another said another.....
still though after all the testing on the baby, the cord and the placenta....they found no cause for the m/c....then my dh and i both got genetic screening and again no cause for anything is found.....
thus i am like you left with answers......I have been on this site and am ina support group from the hospital.....from all that i have found many, and i do mean many women who went through similiar situations as us, and never got answers as to why they m/c'ed more than once.....lots of these women have gone on to have more thaan one healthy child later......
I am not giving up hope...and i hope you don't....keep hoping and praying for your little miracle....it is okay to question what happened before but please do not let what happened to you or me, stop you from believing.....
I do hope that if you need a cuase, they find one, but also that if there is no found cause, you move on....
I am praying for you and sending lots of wishes.....
I too have had 2 losses... one in June of 2009 I had an ectopic and removed my right tube. so I only have one tube now.... we waited a few months and started trying again.. luckily i got pregnant right away in October. the first month we tried. I went for 4 ultrasounds with my baby boy, all came out good, our first IPS test came out perfect. no layering in the back of the head. Then on January 27th I found out by baby boy had no heart beat. I don't know what to make of this.....I justified my ectopic loss, because the baby was in the wrong place. what do I say for this loss.... NOTHING... i can't think of anything. I am really sorry for you guys... I know it's tough, i'm praying everyday for one day to have another healthy baby. I really want to and hope the same for you guys.. .keep us posted!
Baby Dust!!!!
Im sorry to hear abt your story songinmind. I can compltely understand your feelings.Im feeling the same thing exactly.When i had the miscarriage for the first time it was hard but i kept reminding myself what the dr said that 1 in 5 end up having miscarriage the first time..but this time the fact that i had only 4% chance to have a 2nd misccariage and that i was one among the 4% is not making me my life easy. and the sad part is I had no signs of miscarriage at all until the Dr dropped the bomb shell the growth stopped.
I really dont know what to expect from the results..should i be expecting everything to be normal or should i expect they find the cause.I do hope if they find the cause they should be able to treat me so that i can try again.I Wish you ALL THE BEST.I pray that we both get pregnant the same time and this time carry it to full term and give birth to healthy babies.
Wow- we both got pregnant the exact same months (June 09 and Nov 09) and we both have had miscarriages. I'm SO sorry for your losses and I understand your fears and concerns about trying again.
1. I hope the pathology does come back with some clues- actually, from what I understand you are hoping that the tissue comes back with some chromosomal issues or trisomy. This indicates that there was some genetic error during the baby's development and there's really no underlying issue to 'treat'. If the genetic profile does come back normal, that does prompt the MD to look towards other potential 'causes' (such as blood clotting issues).
2. From what I've read, our overall individual chances for the next pregnancy attempt do go up after having two miscarriages. Of course, all other factors are still going to play a role such as age, health, other factors known to contribute to miscarriage. Basically, the increase for the 3rd pregnancy attempt nears 30% (rather than 20% for the first two).
I have a hard time trying to play out the odds/ratios... What I keep trying to hold onto is that <1% of couples will have three miscarriages or more. So if you look at the cumulative probability of three miscarriages in a row, it does get less likely that you would have three. (.2*.2*.3= .012 so there's that 1% chance this will happen three times). (although I come back to the fact that I only had a 4% chance that I would have two miscarriages in a row- it still happened :-(
I personally am undergoing the testing for 'causes' right now. My blood work just came back all normal (karyotype, antibodies, clotting, all of it). We're going to do an HSG and then there's really nothing left to check. I have to assume and pray that I'll have a successful pregnancy. I know, it's not so easy, but I figure that I want a baby so badly that I'll continue to go through this again and again till things work for us.
I wish you all the best!