feel empty

[septmomma827]

I feel so empty. They say there is nothing I could've done, but I can't handle the grief, the loss. I had the d&c 2 days ago, and physically I'm fine, but emotionally I am drowning. I'm trying to stay strong but I don't know what to do. My depression and anxiety is seriously stressing my relationship and I'm scared of doing anything, that it will be wrong. I cry and I cry but I feel like the hole is only getting deeper. I know grieving takes time. But I'm just starting to go numb, I can't eat and I'm taking apart.  He doesn't understand, says we can try again, but I'm just trying to get thru the day.

[shannon2]

We had our first dnc over a year ago we do have 2 older children with no problems. I went in for my first ultrasound at 12 weeks and found out baby's heart stopped a little over 9. I was so depressed and the only thing I thought would make it better was to fill the void but it took us a year to conceive and we followed Dr orders wait 3 months. I got pregnant and was so worried but so happy first time in over a year feeling happy and the Dr said it was bad luck the first time and the next should be fine yet it wasn't. We had first ultrasound at 7 weeks and string heartbeat then 2 weeks later some spotting and then another ultrasound showed no heartbeat so we just had our second dnc last Thursday. They believe I may have a clotting problem but I'm going to ask them about progestorne levels as well both are treatable. This time around I'm trying to be as normal as possible like getting out and not spending too much time alone to let my mind wander and get depressed. I would look forward to trying again after one cycle. I shut people out last time which made it worse now I'm allowing support and it does help along with time.

[gemgem1234]

I know this feeling! My ex told me it must have been something i did ive felt so guilty ever since wishin there was something i cud have done ive never felt so alone feel like i cant talk to my family they jus call me dramatic i didnt have a dnc and ive had complications so been in n out of hospital since dec n still goin now jus seems im fightin a losin battle if u ever jus need to vent feel free to message me i kno how important it is to jus get things off ur chest it jus builds up till u break down x

[lulu0282]

I can't tell you how much I know exactly how you feel...... I lost my baby at almost 8 weeks when I went in and saw that the heartbeat had stopped.  I had a D&C and afterwards was a mess.  It was my first pregnancy and I'd go in my closet and cry and cry.  My husband was understanding at first but he took the attitude that we'd try again.  We had tried for YEARS and nothing....and then finally got pregnant only to loose him/her.  It was awful.  i spent my nights reading through forums of women who had been successful with pregnancies after a miscarriage.

SOO....after my D&C I got pregnant 6 weeks later (my first cycle) and had a healthy happy pregnancy.  My son is now 2 years old and I have shared my story with many many women as there are lots of us who have to go through this.  People who have never miscarried have NO idea what it feels like.  It's like loosing a part of your and it's awful.

I'm not pregnant with my 3rd pregnancy (1st miscarriage/2nd is my two year old) and possibly loosing this one.  It's not any easier the second time around but hoping for a positive outcome.  Good luck to you and stay positive knowing you can get pregnant and that when you do you'll be more grateful than the rest.  I hope it happens quickly for you!!

[rach301]

I recently had miscarriage in Jan 2012... It was my 1st Miscarriage & I only found out on my 12 week scan ( silent miscarriage).

My heart feels like it's been torn out and the pain I still feel is raw. It's really effected me more than i ever thought was possible.

I am very sorry for your loss... I understand your pain, but your still young, am  30 and am seriously getting worried. You have time...but that does not ease the pain or make u feel any better. I get that too.

Until I have a child and being honest I don't know if I will, who knows, my body will decide that not me, am powerless here.

Right now I have to be strong and so do u too. We have to do our best and do whatever is possible to have a child. If am not meant to have a child or if my body is not capable at all, then i must accept  my fate. I will simply adopt which is just as amazing too. Of course I want my own, but it's just as rewarding.

Saying that I might be ok and it's very possible that I will be ok next time, who knows :-)

We have to stay postive, don't let it totally destroy ur life, otherwise u will have lost everything.

TRY AND REMAIN CALM AND AS POSITIVE :-)

Your still very young..... time is totally on ur side.

Rachel x

[hotmama78]

Dear.... we are in the same shoes.. i stillbirth my Baby Aidan at 21week last Jan 15 and i can say that was the worst thing i ever been thru in my entire life.. Still i cry on and off till now, just somehow i agree with above post its get better day by day.. how better i not really sure cos i still crying badly.. i hardly talk about it without tears in my eyes.. but i finally can eat again.. sleep again.. have fun with friends.. is just that, i not really get over it and i guess above post say it right we will never forget about it but life moves on..!! Our angel is save now and watch over us day by day... i know its really empty in our heart and feel the hole will never go away.. i can only say be strong and let the time heals.. hugs all your way... Rachel...

[Dani469x]

I can totally understand how your feeling right now, i lost my angel in november and had to have a d&c. I was 14 weeks. They are right there is nothing you could have done to prevent it.You never think something like that will ever happen to you until it happens, but trust me on this it does get better each day. I am still off work now due to depression and anxiety attacks but every day i find it a little bit easy to cope with. You will never ever get over your loss, but just remember you have gained a gaurdian angel that is looking over you, and will want you to stay strong. I wear my scan pictures in a locket around my neck now, so ino my angel is always with me. You need time to grieve, and it is okay to be sad,but i promise you it does get easier. Its now been 4 months since my miscarriage and not a day doesnt go by that i dont think *what if*. But i look at it and think to myself now that it just wasnt meant to be.And am sure you have had loads of people tell you the same thing. But at the time i just pushed people away and wouldnt move outside the door. I hope you can be able to move foward in time, and if you ever need to talk more i am here for you. xxx  Lots ov love xxxx