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[sakers1985]

Like I said before I went into preterm labor and had baby braegan 1-26-09... you know the doctor always says wait 6 weeks before having "fun" with your husband.... so my thoughts are.. do i have to wait that long?? Yes we are trying again.. and no we are not going to use protection... what are your thoughts??

[kimndonnie]

I was 30 weeks or 7 1/2 months and lost my daughter. I delivered her on Jan 23rd. I too want to ttc again, and was wondering do we really need to wait the 6 weeks. I just stopped bleeding and I feel okay physically, but I know my body still needs time. I think 4 weeks is reasonable. Then again I am scared. I am 39 yrs old and our daughter had Trisomy 21, and other anomolies. I know she will never be replaced. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage and within 3 months I was pregnant with my now 18yr old son. My next was another miscarriage and then 3 months later I was pregnant with my now 16 yr old daughter. I also have a 10 yr old daughter and our angel. You never forget, you never replace, somehow it seems to help the pain if that makes any sense. My previous miscarriages were very ealry on, Delivering a baby that never takes a breathe was devestating. I would wait as long as you can because what was said about the cervix makes sense. The last thing anyone ttc again would need is an infection. Not only that but our body needs to be strong enough to carry the pregnancy to term. I recently read that when one ttc to soon after a loss it increases the risk of preterm labor. Guess I sorta answered my own thoughts on this just reading everyones posts. Thanks... I wish you the best and feel your pain.

[7preg3b]

You really need to wait at least 4 weeks..  Your body needs to heal.  I too lost my baby Cooper on 10/07/08 He weighed 8.6 ounces and was 9.5 inches long..  I was 18 weeks also.  I have yet to pick out an urn..  I am now trying but if you don;t wait your m/c rate goes up..  My baby was healthy and life does get easier but only if you deal with your loss..  I know the pain..  But you Need to heal..  Believe me I know you want to fill that hole..  But he can't be replaced.  You have an angel now..Bless YOu..  

[peterjl]

I lost my baby at 16 weeks.  I was induced to deliver him and then had a D&C because I was not able to deliver the placenta.  My doctor wanted me to wait 6 weeks because I did go through labor and delivery.  I also got an infection after.  It was the most difficult thing I've ever gone through and give yourself time to heal.  We've been trying for almost a year now and have had no luck.  Our little boy was perfect- no chromosome abnormalities- so we never knew why we lost him.  Good luck with everything and give yourself some  time to heal emotionally.  

[ArmyPrincess819]

I agree with Bam and Erica. Ttc after a m/c is a very personal choice. I was told by my dr at the time to wait at least 3 cycles but I chose not to. The dr's say that to make sure not only physically but mentally you are ready. I have had a late term m/s and if I lose this baby I'am done with ttc. My husband will have a vasectomy. I can't go through the grief ever again. Again that is my personal choice. In your heart you will know when you are strong enough to handle whatever life throws you. I wish you the best and good luck..
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[smr08]

I just left a comment on your other post. When I delivered my son I had to wait to get the ok at my 4 week checkup, the dr said that everything was fine and he saw no reason why we couldn't ttc again. I also had a m/c in 1995 and an ectopic in 1996. I hope that my info was helpful. My best to you and keep me posted.

               Lori

[mikaleen]

I'm sorry for your loss.  With a loss that late the Dr.'s say 6 weeks because like with a full term birth the cervix has had much more trauma than with an early m/c.  The cervix needs time to heal in order to sustain a new pregnancy, and it also gives you time to heal some emotionally.  I know it's difficult to be patient, but with a later loss like that it's also not as likely for you to ovulate so soon as with an early m/c, so you really probably won't be missing an opportunity if you follow your Dr's advice.  You also want to make sure you are no longer bleeding, which can take much longer, then your cervix won't be open anymore and you won't be so susceptable to infection.  I wish you the best with whatever you decide, and a quick recovery.

[Dani711]

I wrote to you on the June babies forum...it just broke my heart to know what you have gone through.  I really admire you for knowing what you want and starting again.  I really wish you the best.  I would listen to your dr if they think to wait, but that has to be your decesion.  Best of luck!

[bam1014]

I agree with Erica.  I know how anxious you must be to start TTC again, but making sure that your body and mind are healed is very important.  Definitely talk with your dr about the waiting the 6 weeks and maybe they'll tell you it's safe to start earlier.

[EricaB28]

I am so sorry for your loss. TTC again is such a personal choice. I think that in your case, you were far enough along that you should be waiting. Your body has gone through something very traumatic. When I had my daughter, we were told no sex for 6 weeks, so it sounds like that's what they're telling you. I really think you should talk to your Dr. and explain that you really want to ttc again and that if there's any way to shorten that 6 weeks, can you?  I've been told that it's ok to ttc again right away with an early m/c, but I really don't know much about later m/c. I really hope you find the answers you are looking for. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Good luck.