missed miscarriage

[polo1998]

I went for my 12 week scan yesterday and found that my baby stopped growin at 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I am still feelin sick and cravin certain foods. I am due to go back to talk over my options of removin the baby next week, However, I am wonderin, if I decide to wait for nature to take its cause, how much longer would I have to wait???? Its been 6 weeks weeks since my baby died and there is still no sign of me miscarryin.... I would appreciate any help you could give me, as the idea of takin the abortion pill or havin a d&c are killin me...

[mjmom69]

I'm so sorry. I'm going thru the same thing right now also, should be 11w but babies HB stopped around 7w. I'm having the same struggles deciding what to do. I wanted to do it naturally but it's been a month and I can't move on or even go anywhere without worrying if I'll miscarry in public so I think I'm going to go thru with a d&c on thurs. morning. My doc doesn't offer any meds to miscarry. I don't know if I'm making the right decision but I know that I can't go on not knowing when it's going to end and I need to move on. As long as I'm carrying the baby around, I can't do that. I wish you luck and know you'll make the right decision for you. Try to rest and not read too much on the internet, it will drive you crazy!

[cinni3]

I had the same experience as you and many others on this site. I found out I was pregnant the end of March, on April 15th went for OB check had a u/s the 27th of April which I should have been approxametly 9 weeks but I was measuring at 7 weeks 2 days, Dr wanted to redo u/s to see if maybe  we were off on our dates but the same no changes he decided to redo u/s one more time 3 days later because he has experienced a few times that the fetus grew and found a hb so I redone u/s but still no change by this time I should of been 10 weeks, at that time we made appt for a D&C which I had done yesterday I wanted to miscarry natural but after lots of research and talking with my husband we decided a D&C would be best for us. It was a very smooth procedure and my Dr is absolutely so understanding took time to talk and comfort me I have read so many postings and the Drs seem so short and cold and for us to be going through such an emotional time you would think they would be more comforting. I have stopped bleeding and my bleeding was very light. I talked to my Dr about TTC right away he did advise us to wait for my next cycle but also said if we or I feel up to TTC then continue my prenatal vitamins and folic acid and in approx 12-14 days try he did warn me of the possibilities of another miscarriage because it is very soon and the body needs to heal but he said its up to us he only recomends to wait at least one cycle. I actually was diagnosed with a blightend ovum and have not done to much reading about that yet he did say chances of another one is unlikely. So I am confused as to weather TTC now or wait a cycle. I think its totally up to you if you want to try and miscarry natural or have a D&C I think you have to worry about your health and safety and that makes it a little hard to decide. I did wait a little long to have a D&C the only problem I had was swelling and spotting here and there my Dr did monitor me untill the procedure and if anything else went wrong he would perform an emergency D&C but I do feel relieved Im not worried I am very emotional but this site has helped me through those rough 3 weeks I know Im babbling on but I just hope I can comfort some as some did for me. Reading riley10s post made me tickle inside to know your expecting actually 6 days past due I AM SO EXCITED for you and I dont even know you :) but reading posts like that helps so much I feel like im obsessed with this site im hoping theres others out there that feel the same :) well girls I think I have written enough for now if any of you would like to add me thats finen we can gothrough our experiences and emotions together and hopefully soon our pregnancies too we have one ahead of us :) good luck riley10 let me know when precious is born when you feel up to it and huggs and baby kisses to the rest :)

[riley10]

I am very sorry for your loss.  I also had a missed mc.  Miscarried end of Oct and finally started bleeding around Thanksgiving.  Ended up having a D&C in March.  Yes it dragged out for about 5 months.  The worse time in my life.  Everyone's body is different.  If I were to do it all over I'd go in and have the D&C, but thats just me.  5 months after my D&C I got pregnant again and am currently 6 days past my due date - go in Thursday to be induced.  Good luck to you and again I'm sorry for your loss, I know it *****.

[jrobertson20]

First of all let me start by saying I am so sorry you have to go through this.  Nobody should ever have to do it.  It is hard to say when your body will decide to "let go" of the baby.  There is no definite answer.  Your body has yet to acknowledge the baby is no longer alive.  The doctor will probably go over the risks and side effects of all your options.  My advice to you is to write questions down that you have to take with you.  When you are there you may just be so overwhelmed you will forget your questions.  Ask as many questions as you can think of so that you feel as comfortable as you can with you decision.  You need to do what's best for you and what you feel is right.  Again I am so sorry you have to go through this.  Best of luck.

[lil_lady25]

First off, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I completely feel for you as in December I went in at 11 weeks to hear the babies heartbeat for the first time and there was none. My baby had stopped developing at 9 weeks. I decided that day to get a D&C because I wanted it to be over with and that I could move on quicker. It is the most devastating news a woman can get and I think that by waiting for you to m/c naturally it would take a toll on your emotions which will be harder to heal. Considering your baby had stopped developing 6 weeks ago I would suggest to have the D&C. It has been said that by not disposing of the products of conception it can cause infections which can lead to more problems. In my experience the D&C was completely painless and I was in and out of the hospital in about 3 hours. I hope you make the best choice for you and keep us updated on how things are going. Hope you are holding up okay. {Hugs}