need to vent....

[greatexpectations_4_2012]

I am so angry right now. Going through a miscarriage is enough but when you have a doctor and doctor's office staff that are fully incompetent, it makes it worse. I just want to tell my story so other women won't get done like this.

My doctor is part of a family owned business. His wife and son work with him. Weird, I know. They are odd people but everyone used (past tense being the key) to talk so highly of them. Anywho, I have pcos so I was having trouble ttc. On November 2nd, I had a d&c to regulate my periods to get me ready for chlomid. I went back for my follow up and get my prescription on Dec 26th. Just so happened, he done a per test and found out I was pregnant with no need of chlomid. The first thing his wife came in and said that day was..... "Don't get too excited and tell a lot of people. You may lose it." What kind of doc dooms you from the beginning? Since that day I worried and stressed. I never had not one chance to be happy.

I went for my first ultrasound and everything seemed fine. I wasn't far enough along to see a baby but they did see a gestational sac and a till sac. My hcg levels were good but I was spotting. He put me on pelvic rest. I was still worrying because of the warning.

I went back for my second ultrasound at 7weeks and the gestational sac was showing empty. The tech is a twit anyway and her idea of doing an ultrasound is a 3 minute snap shot session. She never takes her time to measure or mark much of anything. They stuck me in a room and his son came in and said, "well, we will send you for blood work but you need to just get ready. You are probably going to miscarry. Either your egg was poor or (looking at my df) you was shooting blanks." How rude? Plus, we already feel bad so make us feel worse by telling us that it was one fault or the other. I bawled my eyes out. When I left, their stupid receptionist, who has a bad attitude and texts instead of doing her job, wanted to question me and try to make me say in front of a packed waiting room that I was miscarrying. She wanted to know why I had to come back so soon and how come I seen the doc when I was only supposed to have an ultrasound. It took all I had not to tell her it wasn't any of her darn business and she ought to know better than to ask a crying woman so many personal questions in front of all those people. When I get home he calls and say that the blood work came back great but not to take it as a good sign.

So I go back a week later to see my doc and he says that he still believes I am pregnant and sends me to another place to get an ultrasound.     The receptionist yet again tries the same stunt.  The tech there found the baby and thought she found a heart beat. This is the part that confuses me. She even showed my mom the rhythm of it beating. I got hopeful then. What else was there to do? The office tech had found nothing but an empty sac a week ago but this woman had found a baby and a heart beat?  So, then I go home and his wife calls me to tell me the next day that my hormones dropped and there was no fetal heart beat. I explain I am bleeding again and she tells me to wait it out and to only come back if I am bleeding badly. She was impersonal and cold.

I am so angry the way they all have treated me. They act like they are inconvenienced by everything. They all tell you something different. Their staff is incompetent and rude. If you do not trust your doc, you should honestly find a new one. No woman should feel the pain of losing a child but they should also never have to know what it is like to be jerked around by idiots who you are supposed to trust. My mother and DF

[greatexpectations_4_2012]

Thank you. I just hope that other women can use this story to help them. At the first sign of distrust a woman should find a different doc. They first said I had a blighted ovum. Then they said I was ok. Now it is, sorry it was neither....  It is just disheartening.

[trying43]

I can't stand it when drs act like that!  When I have issues with a dr or even their staff I let them know!  Then I find another dr.  When we were ttc #3 I went through 4 drs!  I am sorry u had to deal with this and best of luck to u.

[greatexpectations_4_2012]

have both went with me to the doc and they both feel the same. It is like riding a yoyo. Up. Down. Up. Down. I hope none of you women have to experience this.