no heartbeat already

[gunblade_06]

Im new here, my wife is 13th week prenant for the1st time. were 14years married then after a check up and ultrasound yesterday, doctor said that our baby has no heartbeat already. what are we going to do now. were very offset about that..doctor said we can wait for my wife to bleed or miscarry. or to admit in a hospital to wait for the baby to come out.
we need help...please.... we don't know what to do...

[gunblade_06]

as of 10:30 this morning my wife successfully finished D/C.. thank god. nothings bad happen to my wife. and for all the info's that i have read, we have opened up our mind that is one of our trial that we have faced....
as of now...were eating our dinner, here sting in a hospital

thanks to alll... god bless...

[My_blessing2011]

I, too, have experienced loss, I just lost my son on July 31st 2010, I was 15w4d pregnant, My water had broke at 13 weeks. I had to go to labor and delivery and give birth, I, too, got a memory box, and pictures, and feet/hand prints etc. They told me because I was over 13 weeks pregnant, I was to far a long to have a D&C. But I ended up having a D&C anyway, because after I delivered my son, the placenta would not come out. I, myself, if I were in  your wife's situation, (which I have been) would opt for the D&C since she is still within range of being able to get one. I don't know if they will want her to deliver naturally like I had to do or not? Depending upon gestational age and so forth. I do not think I could handle waiting it out. (well, actually I know I would not have been able too). Please let us know how she is doing, and how things go. If you want to E-mail me I can. P.s I also had a miscarriage kinda of like your wife is having, I had this one in July 2009 I was also, 13 weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 9/12 weeks. The medical term for that is "missed miscarriage" is that what they deemed your wife as?

[gunblade_06]

thank you very much for that information you shared....
god bless....

[LisaL18]

Go to the hospital and have the d&c done.  It will be easier in the long run.  I started having trouble with my pregnancy and went to ER and they came to a nonclusive decision about what was happening with my pregnancy, they did not feel positive after testing, yet sent me home to with plans to wait and see until Mon when I could f/u with OB (was a sat).  Late that night I went into labor and had a difficult time with delivery of my baby at 17 weeks.  A lot of pain and bleeding and we ended up back at the hospital, where they had to perform a d&c.    I would much rather that they did the d&c without all that I went through.  
good luck with your decision.

[megancannon]

first of all, i am so sorry for your loss. i have lost 3 babies, 2 of them in my second trimester and even though my two late losses weren't really a miscarriage i know the pain all too well and i wouldn't wish it on anyone.

i was admitted into the hospital for both because i went into active labor. i delivered my son, who was my 1st, when i was 20 weeks pregnant. I was very lucky i was at the hospital because i hemorrhaged and also had a severe infection and if we were at home, i could have lost my life. our son lived for 22 minutes and they let us hold him and bond with him for as long as we wanted. the also offered the services of a chaplin, who came in, prayed with us, took pictures of us with our baby, they did his foot prints and gave us a memory box. With my 3rd pregnancy, i had an ultrasound just days before and everything was perfect, my daughter was healthy. then out of nowhere, i went into labor. i was admitted into the hospital with her as well. i miscarried at 5 weeks in between the two, and was at home for that.

being in the hospital was a feeling of safety during such a tragic event. At 13 weeks you will have the option to have your baby cremated or buried, whatever you may choose and the hospital can help you with that. They found me a wonderful funeral home who cremated all infants for free. Everyone is different but i would not have wanted to be at home for my late losses. Best wishes to you and your wife.

If you haven't heard this, you should.. it's a song called my name by george canyon. it will grab your heart. it seems like it was written for people like us.

[Higgins1107]

Im sorry for your loss... I had a mc in july i was 18wks baby had no heart beat.. Waiting for your wife to mc could take up to weeks if shes not having any sign...Going in and del the baby is not easy I can tell u that for sure but its a lot faster than waiting wks to have the baby on your own...And u and your wife will b able to start to heal... again sorry for your loss..