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one yr anniversary
hello ladies. just wanted some ideas of what you did on the anniversary of your baby goin to heaven. my one yr mark will be feb.5th which is saturday. i want to do something to acknowledge my baby but dont know what to do exactly. i thought of writing a note & pin it to a ballon and let it go, thought about puttin together a display of some sort dedicated to the baby...jus a few ideas but wanted to know wat you all did to get thru this difficult time??? any feedback would be greatly appreciated!!!!!
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thx for your feedback ladies! it will definitely be something small between me & my husband. this will be a emotional time for both of us so naturally we dont want to involve a whole bunch of ppl. neither of us have a green thumb-even though planting a tree is a wonderful idea, we would mess it up! lol. we have decided to get similar tatoos in memory of the baby. in addition, we will get a hotel room, cut off our phones & just be away from everything & everybody. no where fancy or no where far. just kinda disappear & just be & allow us to cry & comfort one another!
@rccresswell; thats probably why u r sooo emotional. i know i started to fell emotional about the anniversary over a month ago. just anticipating the date & reliving the events-seems like yesterday & can be really difficult.
@rccresswell; thats probably why u r sooo emotional. i know i started to fell emotional about the anniversary over a month ago. just anticipating the date & reliving the events-seems like yesterday & can be really difficult.
This is a very difficult time for you guys and I can’t even begin to imagine what you are feeling right now.
I personally would try and make it a celebration of life, no matter how shorter period it was. Focus on the time you had together, whether it be in the womb or a few days after birth. And just try and remember the good times. Maybe plan an nice dinner for you and your partner because they will be going through the same thing but will be dealing with it differently. So some quality time together, celebrating the life you guys made together.
i would not make too much of a big event for it, as the bigger you make it the more painful it is going to be. make it more of a sacred union of your relationship with your partner and family, saying thank you for what you have.
I personally love the idea of planting a Tree for a loved one that has passed - as you look at the tree grow, you will know that they are being remembered and also loved by all.
Just remember that all our little ones are being loved and taken care of by a great GOD, and that they are safe and happy, and looking down on you with a smile on their faces, waiting patiently for the day that you do get to meet.
I personally would try and make it a celebration of life, no matter how shorter period it was. Focus on the time you had together, whether it be in the womb or a few days after birth. And just try and remember the good times. Maybe plan an nice dinner for you and your partner because they will be going through the same thing but will be dealing with it differently. So some quality time together, celebrating the life you guys made together.
i would not make too much of a big event for it, as the bigger you make it the more painful it is going to be. make it more of a sacred union of your relationship with your partner and family, saying thank you for what you have.
I personally love the idea of planting a Tree for a loved one that has passed - as you look at the tree grow, you will know that they are being remembered and also loved by all.
Just remember that all our little ones are being loved and taken care of by a great GOD, and that they are safe and happy, and looking down on you with a smile on their faces, waiting patiently for the day that you do get to meet.
I was thinking the same thing. My little man's first year in heaven will be april 13th. I wander if that is why I am starting to get emotional all over again????
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Planting a tree or plant is a great idea to help, but only if you have a green thumb. Another idea is getting matching small tattoos with your OH,. it involves a little pain which helps pull away from the emotional pain a bit & is a FOREVER memorial to your lost child. You can complete the day with a small heartfelt poem u read together & if there was a burial service end the day with the poem reading there & leave a small teddybear behind.
Just my ideas. IF you inbox me I have a whole list of poems that were sent to me after I lost my twins & I'd be happy to copy them & send them to you.
Melissa