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[aad1228]

Hi everyone, i am only 21 years old and my boyfriend and i just found out i was pregnant. It wasnt planned but we were both very excited and couldnt wait for it, it brought us closer than ever. Just recently i was around 6 weeks and i started bleeding and cramping. I went to the er and found out i was miscarying. I am so depressed about it. Im just so sad i feel like its my fault or there is something wrong with me. I feel like a disapointment to my partner and its the worst feeling i have ever experienced. Because of the fact that im so young i dont feel like its normal that i miscarried i should be at the prime of child bearing age. There isnt clear information on this but because of the fact that i am so young i feel like its for the best so i can finish school. It is just causing me anxiety because i know i should wait but i have so many questions, i feel like im never going to be able to carry a child. This is just so horrible and i wasnt prepared for it at all. any help is appreciated right now.

[Brandywine01]

I too am sorry about your loss. I found out last Monday that my baby had no heartbeat and it was the most devastating words to hear. I am 31 and this was my fourth pregnancy with my husband. I have been naturally miscarrying because I was terrified of being put to sleep. However, doing it naturally is hard and very painful for me also. I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that I am praying for you. Take the time with your boyfriend to grieve and please know that nothing is wrong with you. Life is filled with alot of trials and many times we want to know "why me"...I know I ask all the time. I am praying that God will give you comfort and strength during your time of need.

[Steph_b]

Hi,
Sorry to hear of your loss.  I am 22 and had a m/c at 9ish weeks.  The baby stoped growing at 7 weeks.  I felt the same as you.  It was unplanned but me and my fiance were thrilled. I was such a mix of emotions between getting all excited and then having such a huge let down.  Don't let this ruin you!  keep your head up and slowly things will get better.  It helped me to talk to my doctor after I was feeling better and discuss what could have been wrong.  Please let me know if you need to talk.