sperm issues

[GMB08]

just a random thought...was wondering if a woman gets preg.....than miscarries.....and the couple is not conceiving right away...is there a possibilty that there could be sperm issues even when a couple has made a child before?

[steph9803]

Brandy- I know what you mean. I would have been delivering this coming Monday :(  I was 18 when I had my daughter, but that is what I wanted. I graduated h/s when I was 16 and got married when I was eighteen. I thank God everyday for my daughter. I wouldn't be the person I am today without her. I never once asked for a handout b/c that was what I wanted, maybe not at that moment. It happened though and she was my resposibility. That was almost 11 years ago...now I want to be pregnant more than anything and can't seem to make it happen. It kills me to see these babies having babies though. I see it all of the time now, and it makes me so sad. There was a baby found at the door of a church last Saturday night here. Two brothers happened to be leaving a part and hear a baby at about 1 in the morning. They ran over there and found a baby layed out on a blanket with a onsie and one sock! It was 30 degrees outside! The baby is okay, but weighs less than 8lbs and is 9-10weeks old! Okay...I'm done with my rant now.

[BP0629]

There was something on tv last night that made me a little irritated & even got to DH. I don't even remember the show, but it was talking about how cruel it is taht grown married men & women w/jobs & mortgages in there 30's are working so hard at TTC & you have 13 & 14 y-olds out there everyday just going around 'oops I got pregnant' no effort & sometimes no clue who that dad is.... I try REALLY hard not to judge, I have family members that were teen mothers & did a great job at it. I do think sometimes however, since my losses, i've become a little more sensitive to some of those types of things. Todays been rough for me. A lot of pregnant gals around me & my 1st due date is rapidly approaching. (Its not til April 17), but time is flying this year...probably because wer're so busy TTC & every month we get BFN just makes the days pass & I feel older & more dried up....harsh to say, but its how I feel at times....grr....sorry. Like I said, just a bad day.

[steph9803]

I just read this after I wrote your note about the young girls getting pregnant. How weird is that?

[GMB08]

thank you for all your responses......i appreciate all your feedback....and im sorry for all your losses as well....this is so hard....i mean i teach at highschool...and i may see one or two teens pregnant a year...and i just wonder how? i mean i know all the obvious....but i guess the better question is why? why them...and not us????????? i would love to rush right to the ob/gyn and ask for a complete workup...but #1..we have only been trying for 4 months since m/c....#2 doctor said after 2 normal periods....and even though im on time...every 28....jans period was my first one without clots...tissue...etc....so....ugh...i am just lost....as i believe af will make her way into my life today!

[BP0629]

After our 2nd loss in October DH & I asked the dr if it could be him & not me. He said right now I am getting pregnant which means DH is releasing swimmers strong enough to 'do the trick'. However, until MC #3 they are hesitant on testing us being there are so many possible things that can cause MC. Sorry for your loss & best of luck if trying again.

[ArmyPrincess819]

You bring up an interesting point. My dh and I have 3 kids and you know what he has been on and off medicine and it seems the times that he is off my pgs go full term. When he is on it I m/c. Although it has just as much to do with sperm quality as egg quality and the uterine evironment. I have had some sever reoccuring urinary tract infecitons that have been diagnosed at the time I'm having a m/c so far 3 m/cs I had a severe uti. There is so much that goes into becoming pg and having a child that is why they call it the miracle of life. Good question. Food for thought!
Hugs,
AP

[kgokgo]

Gina-my sister has been trying for a baby for 5 years now with no luck. Her dh has a 9 year old so he just assumed that my sister was the one with a problem until tests showed that he had a low sperm count and my sister had no problems. My other sister also told me that she read an article which said there there is new research to show that men's fertility is significantly reduced once they hit 35.

[bam1014]

Gina, all the man has to do is "do his thing" in a cup.  It can either be done at home (after you get the cup from the dr's) and has to be back to the clinic in aprx 30 mins.  Or it can be done at the clinic.  In our case, my OB/GYN can't analyze it at their facitilty, DH basically has to do it/drop it off at my RE's office.  After the sample is turned in they study it for motility and morphology.  I think there's a third thing, but I can't remember what.  I was told once he did it, we would get the results back in about a week.

Do you have your DH taking any vitamins at all?  Even a regular multi-vit would be good as they contain selenium, zinc and folic acid.  It can take up to 3 months for any vitamin to build up in your system.

[GMB08]

oh im not blaming him, just curious....being only 4 months ttc ill give it more time...what does a s/a entail?

[Latrice414]

The best thing to do is to get a sperm analaysis, bcuz even though a woman has had a sucessful pregnancy in the past doesnt mean she cant have fertility issues later. There are a lot of reasons women m/c, it could be that the woman and man both had a faulty gene among a lot of other things. Just get the test if you have any doubts. (Its common for the spouses to want to blame one another for why they are not getting preggo)

[GMB08]

ok..thank you..no laptop...he has never fathered a child....my 9 year old is from my first marriage..he has just fathered our angel baby...yes...i hear you steph...it makes me wonder.....when we got pregnant...we tried once...and we were...now...well you know that story

[steph9803]

Don't forget that your man shouldn't be sitting with a laptop on his lap either :D
Me and DH have 3 healthy children whom we had no problem getting pregnant with. Now since the m/c that sure has changed.

[bam1014]

The other thing dr's will ask is if the man has sustained any injuries to the groin area or has had surgeries.  I can't remember off hand all the questions the RE asked me about DH on my first visit.  She did ask if he had sucessfully impregnated a woman before and if so, did they carry to term and about any injuries or surgeries.

[bam1014]

I have actually done quite a bit of research on sperm quality, although my research may or may not necessarily relate to a couple who have a child (i'm just not sure).  If a man's sperm is damaged (i.e. bad morphology) this can cause a m/c.  If he (just like a woman and her eggs) is a smoker or drinks too much alcohol this can have an impact on the quality of the sperm.  Some men just naturally have bad morphology.  The best way to determine this is through an s/a.  Also, just like women, men's sperm can decrease in quality the older they get, however for men, they have to be pretty old - closer to 60's or 70's.

That being said, I've also read about vitamins that can help motility and morphology.  Those being vitamin C, L-Carnintine, folic acid, selenium and zinc.

As stated before men TTC should stay away from hot tubs, saunas and hot baths as these all decrease sperm count.  The jury is still out on whether boxers actually have an impact or not.