starting again

[miracleofasingleflower]

i have just miscarried my first little angel 3 days ago. i was 6 weeks.  i had to have a D&C and i saw my little baby in the toilet for the only time we would meet face to face. i think the only thing that could possibly start to heal this wound is to have another baby.
when do you think it is safe to start trying again?

and if anyone has anything that helped them get through this i would appreciate the advise too.
thank you

[shannonboyce317]

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and it was my first time being pregnant. It was the worst feeling in the world being so excited and then losing what you've longed for. Then not long after the miscarriage I found out I was pregnant again, only to find out that I had another miscarriage at 7 weeks this time, and it didn't get any easier. The best advice I got to help heal the pain was to buy a plant that would continuously grow and just to take care of it as if it were the life of your child...sounds weird but believe me it helps. Another thing is to get a helium balloon and write a message to your baby and let it go knowing that your baby will see the message. Another thing is to name your baby, even though its passed it helps to give it a name.  I feel your pain and you will ALWAYS have a place in your heart for your baby and NOTHING will fill that space for that baby.  I'm sorry for your loss and try and stay positive..Take care of yourself

[miracleofasingleflower]

thank you for all the comments and encouraging words. i am just so broken. i still cant believe this could happen. i did everything right. i just want my baby back. everyone says it will be fine and that i will have another baby. and i am sure that will help but i just cant see how replacing my baby will fully heal this. my husband acts like i am a kid who lost my ice cream and he can just get me a new one and i will forget the first. but i loved THAT baby, MY baby. and i just feel so alone. i can't get out of bed. food tastes like ash in my mouth. nothing is the same without my little angel with me.

[pinkycaz7]

Wow reading your post made me cry. Hun I am totally with u,I had the same feeling when it happened to me not long ago and yes the only thing we feel is having a baby to replace the pain we are feeling. I never thought I could get over it,I was in pieces,broken. Time will help you deal with your loss but will also make u feel wanting to full again more.

I am sorry for your loss hun.
Read all posts on here,it helped me and there is such a lovely bunch of women that offer there support. I have made some lovely friends on here and I am thankful for that.

Chin up,think positive and it will happen.

Caroline x x

[poppy21]

i am also so sorry for you loss. After i had a m/c my Dr said try when you feel you are ready. So we tired asap and after 5 months we got preggie. The best thing i can tell you is that after i had a m/c all i wanted was to be preggie. I stressed myself out so much that one month before i feel preggie i gave up and boom BFP. so just relaxe and take time out for you and your partner. And for getting though your loss.....time huni. Time wll heal you xxxxx

[frank_noahsmommy]

I am so sorry for your loss. My Dr said to wait 3 cycles, but honestly there has been some studies that say you don't need to. I tried right away, although it dod not work. I let my heart let me know when it was ready. Good luck..HUGS><

[Higgins1107]

Im sorry for your loss... I mc when i was 18wks.. The dr told me after a d&c u should wait 3 normal cycles...

[tasmith]

Hi, I went through a natural miscarriage and passed everything on Oct. 15th.  My doctor said as soon as my HCG levels went back to 0 we could start trying again.  Well I had my first ovulation on Nov. 1st so we tried but didnt succeed.  Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

[Destani214]

I am sorry for your loss..although it was crazy that all the medhelp members support was what got me through this..my friends at work their sorries I just didn't want to hear...the best thing was prayer and these wonderful ladies on here! Also as soon as I stopped bleeding which was on sat we bd on sun and I plan on every other day until I think I o'd thats just me though.. take as much or as little time as you need