still unhappy

[angie2854]

I everyone,My mc was almost 2 months ago and im still Not taking it right,i feel depressed..do u think i should get profesional help?

[lisha1201]

seeing a professional cant hurt. i know i didnt want to talk to freinds & family bc alot of them didnt understand. they have never been through a loss such as mine so they didnt get it. i say go for it if its gone to help u start the process of healing. i think we will grieve/mourn forever but talking about it with an unbias person can give u insight & encouragement. also i found a church that does an annual pregnancy & infant loss ceremony to honor angel babies. it has been great for me & my husband. we get to acknowledge our little babies & you get to see how many ppl are goin thru the same thing and u are not alone. the main thing to remember is, this is not your fault & u did nothing wrong. try not to beat yourself up. (((hugs)))

[scarter83]

I had a miscarriage last fall. It hurts. Bottom line. I struggled with depression.  My body took a while to heal. I did seek help. I felt so much better. Take it one day at a time. You are not alone. My ob was wonderfully supportive.  If yours is not, get a new one. No one can tell you what is not normal. It is all OK. Grief strikes everyone differently. Get help and support. Know that you are not alone.

[having_twins]

Sorry my spell check on my phone changes works sometimes.  Makes it sound like i can't speak simple English. Lol

[having_twins]

It's always a good idea to seek professional help or join a support group. I wish i would have been able to talk about my still birth so i could have gotten help but it has take a year to be able for me to feel comfortable talking about it and my pain. I couldn't talk to friends and family a whole lot. Maybe you have better support then me. I actually lost most of my friends because of it.  They didn't know what to do or how to act around me so they just disappeared from my life. I will never forgive that because all I wanted and needed from them was them all to be normal. I'm pregnant again and lost more friends over that because some people thought i shouldn't have children since I lost the 1st one. They couldn't understand why i would try again. I wanted a child. I needed it more then ever after going through what i did and I know I made the right choice for me. I'm due to that twin boys any day now and I couldn't be happier. I understand the depression.  I understand the pain but don't give up on what you want. Keep trying. You won't be happy intill you are holding your very own baby. Good luck to you.

[angie2854]

Thank u all, I just feel depressed, not to a point of hurting myself..

[InGodstime]

I know how you are feeling.  I have had a total of 5 miscarriages.  I had my first 4 and then when I gave up was surprised with my daughter who is now 4 years old.  I recently had another.  Losing a baby, no matter how far along you are is devastating.  It is heartbreaking and you wonder if you did anything to cause it and if you ever do get pregnant again live in fear that it will happen again.  These are normal feelings.  You are devastated over the loss and on top of that your hormones are still out of whack.  The best way to deal with loss is talk about it.  Another good way, is to find a way to honor your baby.  For example, make a small scrapbooked page in a frame with an ultrasound photo with your feelings for the baby written on the page and put it by your bed so you still feel connected.  Write in a diary to let your feelings out as a way to "talk" to the baby.  I would also talk to the father or a close friend about your feelings.  If however you are having feelings like wanting to die, etc, find help fast.  I wish you the best of luck and don't give up.  It can still happen.  My little girl is proof of that.  And I have 5 other little angels waiting for me in heaven!

[ChristiansMommy04]

It makes sense to be depressed.. Even after a m/c we have a rollercoaster homone thing goin on.. If you feel you are a danger to yourself please contact a mental health professional or even your ob/gyn they can and will prescribe medication if thats the best route. Sorry for your loss im a firm believer that things happen for a reason.
Jenn mommy of 2 and victim of m/c

[tommisina]

Getting over a loss is never easy... just talk with friends n family. And help ease over the pain. I know when I had my first it was so very difficult. Me n my other half talked about it and we kept trying. N I'm now pregnant with my baby