I talked to him just enough to tell him so that he would leave me alone and I told him that I felt that they were horrible to me and it was probably a good thing that a baby didn't have to be raised in all of that drama because it was extremely unhealthy since then I haven't talked to him at all. Its so bad because when he wants to be he can be the absolute most amazing and supportive guy but when he doesn't this happens I guess I am so done with him
BTW...I just looked at your profile. I live in the same city you do. I have been where you are several times now and do understand. There are a 2 of us from Calgary that get together who have been through this. If you want to join us for a coffee (we usually get together at the Starbucks on 17th ave.) and to have someone to talk to, just pm me. Sounds strange I guess to reach out to a stranger on the internet, but miscarriage can feel so lonely, and it bothers me that he is not supporting you. Take care, Amanda
In all truthfulness, this guy is an ***. So are his family members. He obviously is not going to be supportive and what you need right now is support and love. I would cut off all communication with him and his family. Why on earth would they want to talk to your mother? It sounds to me like its a good thing he is an ex and not a current.
What you have been through with your loss is more then enough pain for anyone. Don't allow anyone in your life who is going to make it worse. I am so sorry you had to go through this, and especially with the added stress. I wish you peace and healing.
I broke my phone so when I got a new one all of the numbers were erased so I sent him an email and I told him that if he had any questions of comments that he could ask me or call me because I still had the same number but I didn't have his number and I said if he had anything insulting, degrading or rude to say that he better keep it to himself this was not about trying to make me cry. He sent me back a message saying about how sorry he is and hoping that I am doing ok and everything else. So he ended up making me cry by being really nice. But that doesn't matter it is over and done with now
I am soo sorry for your loss. You sound like a very caring person who wears their heart on their sleeve. You don't have to prove anything to anybody and you shouldn't worry about what they think because you and your family know who you are. You tell them when you feel the time is right and you should not tolerate any of their verbal abuse. Just tell them you miscarried, your not there to convince them you were indeed pregnant and you don't care if they believe you or not. and the conversation shouldn't go further thatn that as you do not owe them an explanation. You have you and your family to worry about and you don't need people in your life maker you feel anything less than who you are especially at a time like this and good ridince.
You sound like a great person and please never change! I tell my oldest son you will probably have some heart breaks, may meet some girls you just don't click with, may see some as friends more than a life long partner, and so on... I really think that is how you ultimately find your soulmate. You may not date these people but might watch them and observe. Life lessons and meeting different people helps you to decide what you can and want to put up with for a lifetime. Then, all of a sudden, you meet someone and say this person makes up all the things (or most-everyone has some faults! lol) I deserve. You must love yourself because you deserve to be treated good and respected. You deserve the best! You sound very sweet, hang in there and wait for the person who will be loving and supportive of you and just pray for the others!
You cannot change how they think or feel. People handle stress in different ways and sometimes not very nicely. It really doesn't matter what think. You only need to take care of you! You know the truth and the people around you know the truth. Might want to break ties completely. If they ever really want to know you will have a hospital bill to prove it. Surround yourself with people who are positive and support you. You say your family is great - that is all you need! Just take care of you and your family. How sad for you-sorry and how sad for them that they could not support you during this. No need to have them be negative to you. You did nothing wrong! Sometimes bad things happen to really good people. Take care of you!
I just want the last two weeks to go back and not happen I never thought I could be so excited to have a baby that wasn't planned and to be so ready to do it alone but I really was and I had figured out almost everything just hadn't told everyone yet, and I mean now I am so incredibly upset and I have my finals for school on thursday and saturday so I don't even have time to go through it all in my head. I know I need to tell them before they start calling and everything I just don't know how to make them believe that I had a miscarriage I mean they didn't even believe I was pregnant :'(
I know it doesn't say anything much about me but I mean our family is a very christian family, I don't smoke, I don't drink (if anything I have one like every 2 months or more) I volunteer through our church and on the ambulance and several other places in my town I never do anything dishonest or rude to people and then the one person that I needed to trust me made me almost believe that I had just made up the whole pregnancy. I mean it has been such a whirlwind couple weeks and I am yet again left heart broken and he is so rude about it everything already hurt it just hurts so much more dealing with them
Honey I am so sorry for you loss...
You owe NOONE anything..just remember that..take your time and grieve your loss and do not worry about them..