waiting to m/c for the 5th time, dont know what to do after this is over

[angelbabies]

hi,
i had 3 m/c's before i had my dd in feb 09, then i went on to have my 4th in nov'10 and now im waiting to m/c agen, i was ment to be 7.5 weeks last thursday i went for a u/s and it showed that baby had not rele grown and didnt have a hb, i was given the choice to wait and m/c at home or have a DnC i picked to go home and hope things happend on its own but if still not had any bleeding or pain, still feel sick, brest hurt, tired, bloated ect.... im worried iv made the right choice to do this at home but i didnt want anouther DnC and i had the most horried experance last time, also iv never had any tests as to why i m/c, i was told after my 3rd loss to take 75mg of asprin so i took that along with pregnancy vits and my dh also took vits aswell and we managed to have my dd but this time the baby wasnt planned so i only started the asprin when i found out i was pregnant, do you think that because i didnt take it before conception i lost the baby? although it wasnt planned it was very very wanted when i found out and im heartbroken that its happend agen, dh wants to try agen with asprin and vits like we did when i had our dd but im so scared about m/c that i dont think i could take the pain of it agen, i dont know if i sould give it anought shot and do things like before or have some test done to see if there is a problem with me, i just feel like i dont want to wait to ttc agen and if i have the tests i know there will be a wait before we can ttc, i just dont know what to do! im still in shock its happend aagen and scared to death about bleeding because it means its all over if that makes any sense!

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

Am so sorry you have lost another pregnancy.  I know how hard that is.  I am just starting another treatment cycle following 3 losses.\

You should now have blood tests to check for clotting and other possible treatable causes of miscarriage.  I just had a heap of those and everything tested came back negative.  So no answers for me.  However, if it is a clotting disorder it is very easy to treat and chances of going on to have a healthy baby are excellent.

Aspirin should be started in advance of TTC - probably should be taken all the time if you do have a clotting disorder as it prevents complications.   It it quite safe at such a low dose.  

[retta483]

Im  so sorry for your loss :(  

[Shellie1980]

If you have any questions please feel free to ask me:) good luck on your journey sweetie! Hugs n baby dust ifyiur wanting to ever try again!
I know myself I'm nit site if i want to just yet being that this Is all still fresh in my mind and body.
Hugs to ya!!

[Shellie1980]

Hi there. I have went thru what you have almost to a T I had three m/c's before I had my first child. I had my dr to test me in every way possible when I found out i was preggers wit my son.. He found out that I have what is called a lupus anticoagulant disorder mean my blood clots and don't go thru the placenta and embelical cord causing a m/c. I had to take lovenox shots daily to have my son and then two years later we wanted another baby and tried one time nit thinking I would get pregnant right away but I did and I had to take those shots again but I also had to take a bab aspirin as well. I now have two beautiful healthy babies. They are 6and3. I recently found out that I was preggers again on the 19th and the following Friday I m/c'd again I was on the lovenox shots at the time but I
Have been under a tremendous amount of stress. I was laso being treated for a UTI  with meds that wasn't good for pregnancy so to my opinion that is why I miscarried..   I hope I have helped you in some way and if you have any questions you would l

[angelbabies]

iv not had any tests, after the 3rd loss i was just told to try to take aspin and c if it worked, i dont know if it did but i had my dd, i feel that theres something wrong with me to only manage to carry 1 of my 6 pregnacys all the way though.

[ku111]

It does make sense and everyone handles these situation in their own way.  There is no right or wrong way to feel.  Does the dr. know why you are miscarrying?  Have they done any hormone level tests?  Have they done genetic testing on the baby after?  Aspirin thins the blood-do you have a clotting disorder?  Try to get your body in optimal health and take prenatal vitamins before getting pregnant again if this is what you want to do.  Maybe your body is just so confused by hormones up and down so soon after last loss.  I am so sorry this has happened.  My heart breaks for you.  I would want answers (if there are answers-sometimes there isn't) before I try again to see what can be done for a better outcome.  I wish you the very best and will be thinking of you.  Again, so sorry for your loss.