waiting to miscarry naturally blighted ovm

[Dawn37718]

my last period started July 30th, on Aug.28th 1 day late on my cycle i got a positive test. I then went in and had it confirmed on Aug. 31st. I got set up to have a ultrasound Sept. 21st that made me 7 weeks three days. They saw no baby just a sak so i went in one week later to have another ultrasound and they saw no change! So there you go I am going to miscarry but when? I haven't bleed or spotted. The only thing that has happened is that my breast dont hurt as much anymore and i don't feel pregnant if that makes sense . I don't want to have a dnc but how long is too long to wait? I feel fine, I have my energy back and smells aren't making me sick anymore. I have no fever and no issues other than my heart is breaking and i don't feel i can move on or grieve until this miscarriage takes place. I am now 10 weeks and don't know what to do next!

[hope4lilbaby]

I too had a blighted ovum (empty sac).  I had a D&C on 9/9 because I didn't want to bother knowing there was an empty sac inside of me and wait till it comes out.  I wanted to get it over with.  My hubby was also worried I'd be hemorraging as well so he also wanted the D&C too.  Now after a month since my D&C I've already gotten my first AF.  Waiting for another cycle and we can ttc again.

[loopyju]

I have just been waiting for my miscarriage to happen naturally and it took a week from starting to spot to starting to bleed heavily.  I have just spent a few days in hospital as I couldnt contain the bleeding on a pad for more than 5 minutes and had to have some product removed from the neck of my womb.  The whole thing is quite painful and it is distressing to loose so much blood and pass large clots.  I think if I had known how much pain there would be and how long it would take I may have opted for the D&C.  But I'd had a D&C before for a blighted ovum and thought it was very clinical.

I hope that you find strength to get through the next few weeks.  Just put your feet up and try to take it easy.

Best of wishes.

[flippert]

I personally did find that once I had had the d&c that I was able to begin to move on. I took a week off work after I'd found out about the m/c but then had no time off after the d&c, which was on a friday, went back to work on Monday. I remember almost clinging onto my tummy willing it to be ok, when I knew it wasn't and found that very hard, so once I'd had the opp and it was gone I felt that I could move on. I grieved for a long time, and to an extent, still am.

In some respects I wish I had waited for it to happen naturally as maybe my body would have got back to normal more quickly, as it is I had my first period 4 months after the opp!

I hope that you are ok now that your m/c has now started, and hope that you start to feel able to move on to grieve. Take care

[Dawn37718]

I wanted to update everyone. I started spotting today so my miscarrage has begun.

I want to say thank you to all of you who shared your stories with me and gave such sweet words of encouragement! I don't know where I would be without this.

FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART THANK YOU ALL!!

[Dawn37718]

Thank you...I feel for you too. I know how you felt thank you for sharing with me! This has been so hard for me....It's like an alarm clock that won't shut off going off in my head.  I don't blame you for opting for a d&c I may do the same thing. I am 10 weeks right now and this coming Monday will be three weeks from the first ultrasound that I found out my baby has stopped growing. I really don't know how much more I can take of this waiting for my body to let go!  Did you feel like me that you couldn't let go until you actually passed everything or at least started to? I feel like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, like I can't truly grieve until this miscarriage takes place. Did you feel like that and did the D&C help with that for you?

[flippert]

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I too had a blighted ovum diagnosed in April. It was my first pregnancy. I was 13 weeks 1 day when I had my scan and had had pregnancy syptoms for all of that time, although they had started to feel less severe at 12 weeks. I then waited for two weeks to hopefully have a natural mc, but at 15 wks I still hadn't had any signs that this was about to happen, infact I was still putting on weight and my tummy was still growing! I found this so hard to deal with that I opted for a D&C.

Each body is different and it may take some time for your body to realise that there is no fetus there, despite the sack and placenta being present.

I really feel for you, and hope you don't have to wait too long.

Take care

[Dawn37718]

My last ultrasound was a week and four days ago. There was no change from the first one. They didn't tell me what the mess. were so I don't know when the baby stopped growing. I just know what a saw and how I feel. I knew something was wrong before I had the first ultrasound and yes it was internal, both of them were. I don't feel pregnant anymore except my breast are still swollen and a little sore. I can't seem to hold on to hope even when I try to!  I have two boys 13 and 7 and I thank God for them everyday! I'm trying so hard to take comfort in the fact that God knows better than I do and he has this baby safely in his hands. I do plan to have another ultrasound done if I don't start soon just to be sure. I can't have a dnc done unless I know 100 percent that the baby is gone. I have thought about getting the dnc done to gain closer but I just can't seem to do it!

I'm very glad I found this site It has helped me so much I need all these stories and well wishes! So thank you so much and please continue to share your stories with me.

[Jack36]

I am new too, I had a dnc this morning- I wanna say I think it was a little bit of an easier decision for me only because I saw everything, and even heard a hb, The day I heard him- I went home and started to bleed and pass things,a week later the hb stopped and I saw the now disfugured sac- and even then trust me I still kept the hope that they were mistaken, heck even started doubting what I saw with my own eyes!!! You don't have that closure, which can lead to all kinds of emotions... even anger.. I truly from my heart wish you the best.. And not to give you false hope... but when did you have the last u/s and was it a internal u/s? I have read a ton of stories that start off not so good, but end up full term!!

[sue68]

Hi Dawn,

My first m/c was a blighted ovum.  I had a 8-9 week sac but the embryo had stopped growing about 5-6 weeks.  It takes the body a while to realize the pregnancy has terminated and to produce a hormone that helps the body expel it.  It took me another 3 weeks after the diagnosis for the natural miscarriage.  It starts out with spotting ( brownish and then red after ) and then the cramping which is mild and gets stronger.  The average bleed time after the sac has expelled is about two weeks although, I've learned that some women bleed longer.  Keep a lookout for signs of infection : fever, excessive bleeding (over a pad an hour ) , etc.. etc..   Be sure to make a follow up with your doctor to make sure nothing was left behind.  
It is painful experience but, I think the emotional part took longer to get over.  You found the best forum ever to get emotional support. We're all here for you whenever you need to chat or vent.  And no question is ever dumb or "too much information" - you can feel free to ask anything.  I wish you luck and strength to get through this - my thoughts are with you.  

[Dawn37718]

thank you for your thought and insight. I will keep in touch as I am new to this posting thing....lol

It helps to know that someone else has been in my shoes.

[kristine625]

As far as how long it could take you to start bleeing, I think it could be a day or two. But there really is no exact "set time". I do believe the general guideline is you will bleed for two weeks from a natural miscarriage.

It totally stinks that you are going through this. After having four m/c myself I would say the best way to deal with it (at least I comforted myself this way) is to remember that however you feel is normal.  If you are upset and moody, sad and angry... normal.  If you wake up in two or three days and feel ready to get started trying to conceive as soon as you body is ready... normal.

Let yourself feel the whole range of emotions.  Just know that the more you recognize them and allow yourself to go through them, you will come out on the other side just fine.  You will.  But for now, punch a pillow, cry a whole bunch, take a long long walk, perhaps try yoga, or all of the above in any given day.  Keep moving forward.  Forward is the only way you can go.  Good luck.

[annaleesmom]

i don't want to make you feel worse, but.....
I don't get all the b.s. that there was no baby.  you were pregnant.  you had all the hormones & symptoms.  You had all the right cells & stuff, they just didn't form right.  You have EVERY right to morn the loss of a child.  

I was 13 weeks 2 days when I  actually lost the baby.  I only measured 7 weeks on ultra sound, so it took some time for my body to realize the baby wasn't developing.  it was painful (actually physically) to miscarry naturally, but i'm glad it happened that way.  I feel like I got to actually experience and morn my loss.  it is probably different for everyone.  It may be better for some women to have a d&c.  Only you can decide which experience you would rather have, as neither is a winner.  
    I hated still wearing maternity pants last week.  I was still kind of swolen.  it seemed like some kind of cruel joke.  I was still puffy, but without the beautiful prize of a child.  Yesterday I was able to get my normal jeans on.  they are a little tight, but oh well.  

best wishes to you.

[Dawn37718]

I read your post and I too feel mad at the world! everyone keeps telling me that the baby never formed so its not that bad...Well it is that bad ! I lost a child and don't know how to cope. I hate my boyfriend and blame him for getting my pregnant in the first place...lol I know its silly but I hate him.
So I understand your feelings and think that maybe we aren't that different and its normal to be mad.
I keep praying that my anger will stop and that I can learn to understand that everyone grieves differently but I feel like he can't grieve like me he doesn't love the lost baby the way i do, how could he or anyone?

[annaleesmom]

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  All I can say is that it may take time.  We are here when you need us.  If you feel anything like I did/do, I really needed the support of this community.  Sharing and venting feelings really helped me a lot.  feel free to express whatever you need to.  The responses you will get is unbelievable.

best wishes to you.