why am i going through this alone??

[jessieN1230]

I was told I lost my baby at 7wks and my husband seems like everything is ok, he says why am I acting the way I am . I feel like I am the only one feeling this pain and its not fair why does he not care?? Anyone??

[udbe2]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.  My husband is the same way.  I know deep down it does bother him but for some reason men just don't show the emotion like we do.  I am sure it does bother him but he might just not know how to show the support that you are needing right now.  Have you talked to him about the way you are feeling?   I know mine didn't realize just how bad it hurt me to lose 8 pregnancies until I talked to him about it now he is more supportive.

[kortnieg]

My husband reacted totally different I think he took it harder then me. He really wanted a baby.

[jessieN1230]

Thank all of you, I thought maybe it was me and maybe I was losing it, bt reading all of your stories makes me feel not so alone. I still dnt understand my husband and he completely shuts down when its brought up, bt now I'm needing to get myself through this and try and move forward

[m0mmywannabe]

My husband admitted it just didn't affect him as much as it did me. He was still upset but I was devastated. I've never felt so broken. But especially that early I guess it's hard for them because they don't have the connection we have. That's why we have each other, we understand xo

[rach301]

Hi

I am sorry for your loss and I understand your pain as I experienced a missed miswcarriage in Jan 2012.

In a mans mind if they don't see it then it was never there anyway, so they don't connect or feel the emotional part of a miscarriage.

When they see us cry, it's like god what is she crying about??? They don't get it. A man will oh don't worry better luck next time and that's ur support. Some men are much more supportive than others, mine was pretty good 50/50, not amazing, but good.

Please be strong. If you need anyone to talk too, we are all here 4 you.

Any questions just ask

[jamie4321]

i know what you are saying men dont get m/c like we do i think its because the baby was not inside them and he dint half to go throw all the pain of losen it like you did so he was not yet close to the baby as you are even thow its his and yours and its both your lost i dont know why but men dont really get it my husband dint get it here i was lost are baby girl at 20 weeks and haven are still born at hospital and he was on the hospital couch with his uncle maken jokes not about the m/c but just jokes i never told him how much that hurt me that he could be doing that while i was in pain from labor early the next morn i gave bith to a lil girl its been 3years and it still hurts.i just dont understand men but so sorry for your lost i know how it feels if u need someone to talk to am here

[Ellenhall85]

It's affects men in a different way hun... I remember saying that to my doctor, he did cry at the beginning but was able to move on quicker . My doctor told me men are from Mars and are not afftected like us women. However four weeks after it happened my husband broke down ...I think he was being strong for me but now he can see I'm coping he has let it all out.