Finally told the doc what I think

[Dagun]

Hi all, I just want to share with you all what I just did. It just got to that point, that I was thinking I can't let her go around thinking that she is doing a good job. I am that type, that is always polite never say a bad word or get angry (just inside). Last week I needed to call her and ask if I could get some bloodworks done, just to check if anything had changed. She said (without me finishing) "there is nothing wrong with you" I said "how do you know?". "I have not told you anything for a long time" so I told her a little, and as usually she did not even listen and just said that I was just having so much anxiety. So I said "No you are so wrong, my neuro totally believes me and listens to me". Ok she did send me to do bloodwork, but like she thinks I am a fool, she just did some totally unessasery tests.

So at that point my husband said I should stop talking to her. And that is what I am finally doing. Few weeks ago I was meeting my friends, and one of them told us about the rudest doctor she had met. Said she treated her like she where a child (even though she is never sick), and ofcourse that was my doctor!! But I've not been going to her for a long time now until I made that call.

So I decided to write her a letter, and I did. There I told her about my only anxiety, that is when I am going to meet or call her, I never get to say anything and she gives me the look "ohhh one of those". I told her how I could feel it when my husband got sick two years ago, and we started seeing her to get help to figure out his problem. He was fainting (or something like that, with staring eyes) getting very high heat for just one day afterwards. Then all fine. This was really strange and my husband was never sick before. This went on regularly for a year and now twice this year ( so it is much better) but she did not find anything wrong and said "oh it's just nothing, you are just panickin when you are getting sick". He thought she was stupid, but said nothing.

So in the letter I told her how awful I felt when I had to go see her, shortly after this, telling her about my problems then starting. But I waited as long as I could to go see her, because I knew what she would think. I also told her in the letter about my friend experience of her. Then I just said that I am sorry for beeing mean, but sometimes folks have to hear how they are treading peoble, or they will never learn. But I was very polite trough all the letter. I am so proud of myself to have finally tell her. Just wanted to tell you all, because so many of us are dealing with awful doctors. Hope you understood my English :)

My best,
Dagun

[Dagun]

Thank's to you all, for all your support! :)

My best,
Dagun

[debgen]

Congratulations! I am so proud of you! It took a lot of courage to not let this doctor intimidate you. You really inspire all of us eho have to deal with doctors like that!
Xxxxx Deb

[maxthecat9196]

Hooray!!!  I'm so proud of you!  I hope it will inspire me to do the same thing...  I've only been brave enough to do something like that a few times in my life, and I need to do it again- but it is very difficult.  

Tammy

[doublevision1]

In Canada we call it Family Physician, General Practitioner (GP) or Primary Care Physician.

[Dagun]

Thank you both, and yeah Lulu I think it is bad to leave without words. It is better to give them a chance to think if they would like to do their job better. At least I finally had the nerve to "say" something, witch I never could because she scared me so.

And it was respectful, I even told her that I had always beleived in her, thought she was clever and just beeing tough. But now I had just given up on her helping me, when she cannot even listen. Do you call it primary doctor in English? Or is it GP? The doctor that is "taking care of your family" and sending them forward if they need to. I'm not sure of the English here.

My best,
Dagun

[Lulu54]

Good for you, Dagun.  It sounds like you did this respectfully which is important, otherwise we come off like another crazy patient.

  It makes me think of when I fired my GP of over 15 years , three years ago.  I did take the time to write him a letter explaining why I left his practice and the problems that I found in his care.  It was complicated but I felt he needed to hear why I chose to move on to someone else.  I never heard a reply.  

Lulu

[firebaum06]

Good for you! Some doctors need to be reminded that they are NOT God & not all knowing!! Sometimes I wonder why some people decide to become doctors? When clearly they are not in it to really help people!
Amy