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Gay, homosexual, I'm starting to think I'm alone...

Okay I just found this site, and I'm noticing that gay men aren't normally MS patients.  I've tried other sites and found the same thing.  I am involved in a LGBT organization.  I just find this interesting, if I'm wrong say "Hi" it would be nice to know I'm not the only gay man with MS.
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I have MS and am gay.  I believe that living in fear has harmed me and MS occurred.  The night before last I had the worst spacicity episode of my life. I would like to talk to someone like me.
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20325124 tn?1524322590
I'm a straight woman but MS does not discriminate based in sexuality. MS is most prominent in white females in the ages 30- 50 but they are diagnosing it at younger ages. MS lifelines offers great support for all people. If you are interested
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I can totally understand Adam, I’m a gay man with progressive MS and it’s a struggle daily, there is a lot of stigma and shallowness in our culture, try to find people you can feel good enough to open up to about your MS, MS is very isolating and lonely but there’s always 1 or maybe 5 people who will love you for opening up about your illness! Good luck friend
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Hi Adam,
I understand where you are coming from in fact just recently I started a group on Facebook called Gay Mser's. I noticed when I was first diagnosed that I could not find a place where I could guarantee that I could be open about who I was I did thankfully find a group, but I wanted to make sure that everyone had the chance to find a place quickly, and started that group. You are not alone stay strong.
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667078 tn?1316000935
There are not as many men on the site. Less men get MS. Gays are certainly welcome. The same issue has been brought up before. Some of those folks have moved on. People mostly are members when they are new and have lots of questions. I have been around since 2008. I am a woman my name confuses people. MS is an equal opportunity employer.
Alex
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I feel alone Love to meet and or chat with other men about ms and sex. I know sex has changed I still enjoy nude cuddling touches and hugs
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Nice to read your comment. I found out I had MS and I thought my sex life was over. It just changed. Cuddling, touches and hugs are very important but I take advantage of the times I can!
1831849 tn?1383228392
Hi Bobru - Welcome to the group.

What Lulu said a year ago is still true. MS does not care if you are gay or straight and neither do we :-) As with any segment of society, there are very likely gay men among us. It's just not something we really talk about because it doesn't matter.

In your thinking, does being gay alter the course of you life with MS?

Kyle
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667078 tn?1316000935
I am not Gay but welcome.

Alex (female)
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I am a gay man with MS. I would like to meet other gay men with MS. Not for sex but for friendship and support. Having MS and being gay is lonely.
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6881121 tn?1392830788
You are most certainly NOT the only one.  In fact, over in the UK, Benjamin Cohen, the editor of Pink News and a former TV reporter is out and proud, both of his MS, and being Gay.  Find him on Twitter.
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Looking for a guy with MS in my area  to share figure things out with no pressure
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I,m a very passionate  man but I think I,ll be alone forever I would like to meet another and just work things out in our own way
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Thank you for your post.
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572651 tn?1530999357
Hi, Pete.  Welcome to the crowd here.  You have found a very old discussion and you might want to start a new conversation and introduce yourself.  This is a very diverse and accepting community and everyone is welcome to participate.  MS doesn't seem to care about sexual orientation and neither do we.  You are welcome to discuss or not discuss your personal life as you se fit and are comfortable.

This is a great  place to hang out and I hope we see you around more.
Laura
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4967364 tn?1361701085
Hi Adam

I dont really like talking on forums but my name is Pete im 33 years old have had MS for 5 years now but had my first relapse at 22. I lost the sight in my eye for 15 weeks back in 2002. To look at me i am fine and mobile. I would love to hear from you and share your story.

Ps i am also a gay man that lives in the south of England.
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1382889 tn?1505071193
Welcome!  You posted on a thread that is years old so the original poster may not be here.

If you want to properly introduce yourself, start a thread of your own and give us a few details about yourself other than your sexual orientation. I don't mean that in any offensive way but we don't care who you are attracted to and it would be nice to know a bit more about you.

Age? When diagnosed? How diagnosed?  How MS is effecting you? How you found us?

Julie
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2063887 tn?1337829746
Welcome to our forum.  I hope that you can find support and answers to some of your questions here.  There are lots of great people which I am sure you can see from reading previous posts.  

Chris
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Hello, I am gay. I live in Poland and had been diagnose with MS
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1045086 tn?1332126422
Basically, we all ask questions or start a topic because of something that is important to us as individuals, hoping to find someone who can relate or offer support.    That's exactly what Adam James did, and in concise words he told us why.  I hope he is feeling less alone now.  I really hope he returns here to let us know how he's doing and how we can best help.

Otherwise, I am surprised there have been so many comments and explanations swirling around claims that sexual orientation has no bearing on living with MS (or life in general).  If true, then why so many passionate opinions?  

It seems Adam James, that your topic served as a portal for the feelings of many members to spill through.  There's always a reason behind so many responses to one topic during our usually quiet-on-the-weekends forum.  As so often happens, people who come seeking help end up helping others as well.  Thank you for being yourself.

Mary
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1312898 tn?1314568133
To everyone.

When I saw the title to this thread and the other one he started I avoided it like the plague.  I didn't even read it because I was afraid.  But, last night when I saw all the responses that he received I just couldn't help myself.

I saw others here that I didn't know about and decided to follow suit.  It seems so funny now to have labored over responses here, and I can't tell you how hard it is to talk about someone without using pronouns:-).  

My wonderful family of origin (insert sarcasm) helped tear us apart, mostly by shunning me.  It's ironic that I left love to attempt to regain their love.  We finished each others sentences and knew what the other was thinking.  

I knew I found a special group here and didn't want to mess it up.  I should have realized that because you are all special you wouldn't care about this.  

I do hope you come back Adam if not, thank you for helping us see how very loving we are!

love and hugs

Red
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1253197 tn?1331209110
Hi guys

I just want to acknowledge the honesty and trust that has been shown in this great post. Each and every one of us has our own individual vulnerabilities and what we choose to share with each other is a personal choice. But I really embrace the openness and non judgmental support that is offered and I hope that AJ25 can come back to this forum just as himself.

You are all wonderful people and this forum is a blessing which I feel extremely lucky to have discovered.

Love and hugs to you all

Sarah x
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1421489 tn?1285525635
Yey!

This forum rocks - there are so many people who would benefit from such a supportive community...we're not lucky to have MS, but we are lucky to be a part of this group.  I guess this is another example of every cloud having a silver lining.

To live the cliche, here we can be just as Gloria intended (except I might have got her words a bit wrong, and you'll have to remove the bit about giving the hook as that doesn't happen here...)

"I am what I am,
I am my own special creation,
so come take a look,
give me the hook,
or the ovation.

It's my world that I want to have a little pride in,
my world, and it's not a place I have to hide in.
Life's not worth a damn
till I can say
I am what I am"


Jep
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1466984 tn?1310560608

Thanks to all who support and lift up anyone who comes to this site and needs a boost.  I hope that AdamJames lets us know how he is getting on and knows that he's not alone - gay, straight, black, white, rich, poor - we have the common bond of some crazy things going on in our bodies - and in this posting, the common thread is that we understand (or try to understand) and care and we're all part of something that is so much bigger than we are-no matter what your beliefs are - We can't do it alone.

There are some pretty great people here.  Thanks all.  And thanks AdamJames for stopping by.  
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1312898 tn?1314568133
I sure hope you come back, I noticed that there has been no response,perhaps you are busy at work. You have received such wonderful feedback and support!

I think everyone here has supported you and have opened up to you as well as the group.  I think of us as a close-knit group that cares for each other through thick and thin.  We can be as transparent as needed and you will always be welcome to let us know what is happening and of course that would include your sexuality, partner et al.  

Being concerned about the possibility of HIV+ could be added to your status is very important.

I know how uncomfortable it is to try to explain my past to people without using pronouns that would give me away.  My family is very religious, so the past 11 years of my life is a subject that they don't want to hear about.  As far as sharing here, I haven't because I was afraid of rejection.  I have avoided certain conversations lest I give myself away.  Obviously, it was a needless fear.

So, I really hope that you come back, we would really love to get to know you and offer our support to you whole-heartedly.  

You're safe here!!

Red
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