grannyhotwheels and everyone

[LLWB]

Just need a friendly shoulder to cry on. I have talked to you before, don't have MS, "just" fibro, degenerative osteoarthritis, diabetes type 2, rapid heart rate. widow for 1 year  AND today, my son, 17years old, who lives with his Dad, in same town, ran away. He isn't answering his cell phone. His girlfriend "says" she doesn't know anything. Why don't I believe her?  Now my BP is up, and fibro is in full flare. This week is the Pendleton Round-Up, which means an extra approx 15,000 people in town. Kids are out of school this week. The sad part is he's a great, polite, well mannered kid, and very smart. I don't think it's drugs. He just wants to be a typical teen-ager, and stay out late, not clean his room, etc. We have always gotton along so well. I can't believe he wouldn't turn to me if there was this big a problem at home. His Dad is a Captain at a Correctional Facility, and a bit of a control freak ( well a lot, really), but he's been a good dad. He doesn't get along with his step-mother. My ex left me after 28 years for her when our son was 5, but insisted on our son staying with him, and they have given him everything he could need or want, which is probably part of the problem.  If we don't hear from him by tomorrow afternoon, he will report him to the police as a run-a-way. What do I do. I'm going crazy!! If it wasn't during the rodeo I wouldn't be so worried, but too many strangers in town. Im' sure he's here in town, as he only had about $10.00. He didn't take any money from his house, and he didn't come to my house and take any either, I checked.  What causes kids to do something this crazy? Anyway, just needed a shoulder to cry on. I have become very isolated since my husband passed away, and my only good friend moved to Wyoming. My daughter lives in Florida. Please pray for David, and for me.

[Ramraji]

I understand what you going through LL. I'm a dad of three and my youngest is 17 years old also. She has put me through an emotional ringer in the past year. She not a "bad" kid but I think 17 is a really tough age for both boy or girls. They are realizing the High School years are almost up and soon they will be thrust into the world of College or finding work. They are faced with staring down the barrel of adulthood. Unfourtunately they don't take advice from really adults on dealing with adulthood, instead, they listen to other knucklehead teens for direction. I would try not to worry about him because you know he is being sheltered and fed, but sooner or later he will come home. Other people will only put up with a non working teen but so long and besides that who will ever be able to love him like you do! Answer; nobody!

Not to worry you can notify the Police and file a report but I'm sure you will hear from him soon when he regains his clarity of mind. Kids don't have a clue of how much they put us through. Hang tough and take care of yourself.

God bless, Rick

[Quixotic1]

I just read your post.  How painful to be worrying about your son.  I hope one of his friends is "hiding him out" and all is truly well.  Yes, call the police.  We will all send all of our best.  Raising teenagers is truly a little bit like trying to nail JELLO to a tree.

We'll be praying for you and David.

Quix

[frann]

Still praying for you, just a thought... Is David still in high school school? Has he been going? you can check with his guidance counselor. If he is there, they may be able to intervene and help out. It is worth the try.... keep the faith.

God bless,
Frann

[T-lynn]

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your son.

I have a 16 year old son and boy I wish they came with instructions.His older sisters were great to raise ,my sons a good kid but theres days he just walks out and I have no idea where he's at and he doesn't answer his cell phone.

I'd really be talking to the girl friend and her parents,plus the police.I can't imagine what your going through.Its scary not knowing where a child is.

Please keep your faith,he will come home

[Momzilla]

You know, LL~

Kids know how we feel about them.  He knows you love him.  Even when you say things you don't mean sometimes, like we all do.  Even when you don't say things you should say, like we all mean to say.

He knows you love him.  He'll be back.  Maybe he just needs time to sort things out.  Try to stay in touch with the girl's parents, so they know you need to hear how he is.

In my prayers,

Chris* Mother of five, three of whom are teens*

[grannyhotwheels]

I am so sorry for what you are going through.  I'm also sorry I was'nt here sooner.  I have'nt felt well today and I stayed in bed.

I'm certainly glady you don't have MS but that is no reason to leave your friends here.  I know that we can't reach out and give you a hug, which I would love to do right now, but I know I'm here for you.  You can e-mail me privately if you would like.  ***@****  

I am praying very hard for David.  Lord, do I know what it's like to have teenagers.  I'm sure he is alright and I know until you can put your arms around him nothing I say will help, but the Lord will take care of him.  He will also take care of you.  Please honey, put your faith in him.  Turn everything over to God and you will be comforted.

Please keep me posted on what's going on.  I'll worry with you.
Love and Prayers,
Carol

[doni54]

I am so sorry you are going thru this.  You and David are in my prayers and I am sure you will hear from him soon.  Teenagers are hard to understand sometimes, but he sounds like a really nice young man so I am sure he will come to his senses.

Take care of yourself and keep the faith.

Doni

[LLWB]

Thank you so much for your thoughts prayers and words. No word so far this am 9:32. I called his girlfriends' father, who said David was there last night, but left telling them he was going home. I'm sure the girl knows, maybe her parents can get her to tell them. But, kids loyalty to kids. Keep praying, I am.Love

[Momzilla]

Hi, LLWB

I'm at work right now and just have a second.  I'm thinking of you and so sorry for what you and David are going through.  I will keep you both in my prayers.  

Chris*

[fishyfish]

Hi LLWB - so sorry to hear about your son.  I'd definately follow up with the police, as well as calling all his friends and their parents to put the word out.  Is he active on the internet?  You might check things like his facebook account and see if there is any clue.  Good luck - you're in my thoughts.

[angela5674]

Sorry, LLWB, it might be nice if I sent the positive thoughts to the right person! Not that I'm not sending them your way to Frann :)  Angela

[angela5674]

Hi Frann, I was so sad to hear about what you're dealing with, and on top of everything else!  I am a therapist at a residential facility for adolescence, so many of my kids have run away at one point or another.  There are many different reasons why kids run away.  Sometimes it's drugs, often it's just because they feel so "out of control" in their environment and they are trying to find a way to "take control."  I had a girl who ran from California to New York at 15.  It wasn't due to drugs, but because of the lack of control she felt.  Because the frontal lobe of the brain isn't fully developed in a teenager, they tend to make choices that aren't very well thought out. The frontal lobe controls the decision making impulses of the brain.  I'm sending positive thoughts your way, though.  I hope you can feel them!  Angela

[sllowe]

Hi there,
I'm so sorry, you must be so scared.  Please go and talk to the police.  It's okay if it's reported as a run away.  What they should do, and this is standard protocol, is check with his friends and his friend's families, and then patrol the areas that he was in last. One scenario is that he could tell one of his friends that his parents are aware of where he is and they have no clue that he's run away from home.

He's 17, so he's still a juvenile, they have to look for him.

I will pray for his safety.
SL

[moeck]

You are in my prayers as well.  I'd call the girlfriend back and ask her that if she see's david to tell him to call home and let everyone know he's all right and if he needs anything he can come to you.
moeck

[floridamom2]

I cannot even imagine what you are going through!!  It sounds like you and your husband have done an excellent job raising your son and now you just need to trust that God will keep him safe and bring him home very soon!  I will be praying for you and David!
Take care and God Bless you all!
Kristin

[LLWB]

Thank you so much for the prayers and hugs. Right now my faith is the only thing keeping me strong. I keep trying to just trust God but I can't help worrying about where he is, and wanted to strangle him at the same time.David, not God. Trying to relax and take deep breathes but keep getting pain in my chest and horrible headache. I'm sure my BP must be skyhigh. At David's age, they won't even take a missing report for 24hrs. Please keep praying. God Bless, and hope you can get to sleep soon.

[frann]

  I couldn't sleep so i got up at 3 am, decided to check the posts, feel God sent me here to pray for you and your son David. I am asking the Lord to keep David safe and bring him home quickly and send His angels around him. I am also asking the Lord to give you HIS peace and reassurance.
Please let us know what is happening, I am sure everyone will be praying for you too.

God bless, be strong and feel the power of prayers and lots of (((Hugs)))
Frann