libido dropped

[neava]

i know this is a touchy subject for some people, but since i have been getting worse, i find that it is very difficult to get my body working for sexual intercoarse with my husband,

i feel mean to him, but unsure how to make this work in the bedroom. organisms are decreased in sensation, and i am unable to stay moist, i dry out within minutes,

I am a female, I am interestes im what other people have to stay or weather they are experiencing the same issues

[Ufrustrated2]

i'm a male and i've experienced libido, sexual, intimacy and social decreases with this disease. some meds help, some meds make it worse, an understanding partner makes things SO much better!

and some days, when this disease takes some time off, all gears seem to be working just fine. there is no way to predict this though -- which keeps me on a vicious cycle so to speak.

[HVAC]

I realize loss of sensation is an MS symptom. Some drugs can cause problems with sensation or libido. I took Paxil for years before someone told me that was the problem. The Doctor sure didn't.

I have dryness with age and use lube. I went and bought some self help books in the area of sex and now I look at it as play. I know it is not easy, but i guess it is like every part of this disease you try to make the best of it.

Alex

[neava]

thankyou everyone for your comments, i find this very frastrating

[Lulu54]

A wonderful community member, Lori Bradley, wrote a health page on this subject -

http://www.medhelp.org/health_pages/Multiple%20Sclerosis/Sexuality-and-Multiple-Sclerosis-/show/609?cid=36

There are also tons of references to sexuality and loss of libido with MS on the web - google the topic and you will find a lot of useful information.  If   I can find it, there are also several webcasts, sponsored by MS organizations, that talk through the problems of intimate relations for people with MS.

Also, please talk with your doctor - there may be other ideas that your neurologist or family doctor can suggest that would be of use.

Please know that you are not alone in this problem; the concerns about pleasing your partner; or overall disinterest in sex.  It is all very common, and one of the neglected topics about MS symptoms.

Be well,
Lulu

[poker247]

I agree with Bliard about the lubricant.... but spend the extra money and get the good lubricants.

Also there are numerous other ways of pleasing yourself and your partner other than intercourse that you can explore. Also try extended foreplay to improve your chances of staying "excited".

Also communication with your partner is key! I know you feel mean, which doesn't help the situation, but your husband may also feel guilt with the inability to keep you "excited" Once you open the lines of communication with himand the addition of lubricants, I am confident the situation will improve.

Best of Luck!
~Scottie

[Bliarg]

My mother had MS and experienced this.  The ability to feel sexual pleasure disappeared over time.  But, long as you're feeling something good...ya?!  You might need to buy some personal lubricant, if you aren't happy purchasing it in person, you can mail order it.