Dear Jadensmom,
I understand your concern as a mother, and I am sure you want to find answers as soon as possible. I am not a specialist in child neurology or behavioral medicine but I will do my best to provide some help.
I can't speak for other physicians or medical institutions but unfortunately it sometimes takes a long time to get in to see a specialist due to the limitations of the schedule and the number of patients who want to get in. I am not sure what are your options given the other factors like insurance...etc. but I would suggest looking around in other medical facilities or institutions. another thing to do is to use the internet as a portal to gather more information and may be join online groups who have shared interest in the same issues.
You can start here at medhelp, there is a Child Behavioral Health Forum that is moderated by a specialist and is located at:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/132
There is also a new Autism forum located at:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/85 and is meant to focus on issues involving Autism. Please note, this one is unmoderated
Good luck, I hope you find more answers soon.