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diet plan- weight

I'm obease and I need a diet plan.
Iv tried and iv tried but nothing works I'm really worried about my weight. I dont go out cause I'm really subconscious .I really need help.
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i am different from those who commented above.  Because I am more like YOU.
(And unlike them I don't have an agenda  to promote a particular diet program like Atkins) etc...

I can only tell you about my life---   And, for me---
I tried and tried for years to lose weight on my own.  
I grew up Hating the word diet cause I saw my mom struggle with what she thought was a problem, and I can  honestly say she was never over weight more than 5-10 lbs in her life.  (As an adult who has lived over 30 years of her life in a world of obesity). I can tell you my mom never did---and obesity wasn't a problem back the late 70's. (My mom  passed in 80's. Breast cancer)
Anyways,
I went over 200 lbs with my first child 23 years ago.  And the Closest I have gotten to getting Under it is 203 one time. And 212 another time.  My average weight was in 220's for years.   Then 4 years ago when I went back to work/school my weight started to escalate.  Got up to 265.
Last year I joined a walking and weight training class at the college and lost 8 lbs.  Beginning of May I started swimming.  Spent average of 4-6 hrs a day in pool for 6 weeks and lost 20 lbs. Then I Went on VACATION LOST & 9 more.  (Now tell me --who loses weight on vacation??? But I did!! --at 50 years old, my metabolism had started working again!!) and By the end of summer I was down 40 lbs.  ;)
BUT SADLY, they closed the pool for 6 months for deck repairs and I went back to stressful college, working on my degreie. and I regained 20 of what I lost over the last 2 semesters.   (Oh did I mention I am 51 years old) with 3 kids, (one is still at home in high school)
Well, ... On top of everything else going on (and I left out a lot) back in nov. My doc diagnosis me with a fatty liver (dietary) and gall stones---which is bad enough he wants to remove it---but I won't let him.  HE CHEWS ME OUT --in front of my Daughter who is 30 lbs over weight.  16 years old, has a mild form of cerebral palsy, so she has a slight paralyzation in the right side, (she has fine motor skill limitations with her hand) surgery has corrected the toe walking. But has some limitations physically.  
Won't ever run a marathon or play volleyball, basketball etc.  But she can swim!
So he tells me I need to be an example for her!   She will never be the athlete I used to be, or that  my other 2 children are.  She is what I am now, and starting to already have the same kind of problems I am having (that took me 30 years  to develop as an over weight) and she is already experiencing some of the problems at 16.  He said she would die young or at the very least have a very painful and uncomfortable life because of the extra weight.  

Course that didn't make me feel good -- and I know he is right.  So We talked then about diet pills--- I refused.  Still thinking I could manage on my own.
So I Started to cleanse liver and gallbladder on my own.  Did that for 3 months.  Realized I wasn't doing well with it

So ... I finally asked for help. I made a choice to heal myself using meds,... --- Which is hard for me---first I hate the idea that I  am not In control, or strong enough to do it without intervention.   AND secondly---I really Hate taking pills by the way ( not because I can't, but because I am busy, and I forget to take them consistently) so IT usually does me no good to take meds). But if I wanted to heal my gallbladder and liver and live, and be around to help my daughter I knew I must.  So I started to take MEDS for those reasons.  Best decision I have made in a long long time!

So After doing that for several months. (Fairly consistently--yes, I missed a few afternoon doses) but very proud of myself overall.  Done real good taking my
Meds!
So late April I talked to Doc about the weight loss pills again.   I had refused them in Nov because I thought they would be a crutch. Make me jittery, do me more harm than good--side cause effects, etc.   Fluttery heart, edgy, moody, cause me to regain weight once I quit taking them--- so what would be the point.  
BUT NOW------ I told him, if he could give me something that would not make me moody, or jittery I would take it as long as it wouldn't interfere with my galbladder medication.  
So He asked me if I have cravings, and feel like I am going to eat myself out of house and home.  I said yes all the time.  
So he gave me a medication called..  topiramate

It has helped me .... I no longer have the roller coaster ride of cravings.  It really does keep me from feeling hungry all the time.  I can actually tell when I am hungry now.  I get  actual hunger pains now.  Not sugar mood swing got to eat something or I am going to kill somebody anymore.  No more jitters.  

I am not telling you that diet pills work for everyone.  I am telling you that.  For over 30 years.  I played TOUGH. I had the attitude that I can manage this on my own.  With just will power.  
Or When I get time, or I just need to be stronger, or I just need more will power or the right diet plan to follows.  Or I don't want to be co-dependent on drugs.  Or I should be able to do this or handle this on my own.    I

t's crazy to think I let all these years go by, when there were treatments out there that could have helped me-- if only I had asked for help.  
We often think we have to do it on our own.  Or by ourselves. For it to count as real weight loss.  
Which is strange. In light of a world that promotes things like  liposuction, getting tubes tied, using weight watchers prepared meals, which to me is no different than eating fast food.  And  stomach stapled, etc.  
I now know-- there is no shame in getting help from a diet pill.  I also know that for me--- it has been a blessing.  

Because in about  5 weeks I have lost 9 lbs.  My doc is Happy, and so am I.
And happy to report the Pool just opened up for summer, and I am planning on averaging 4 hrs a day this summer.  I started at 245 end of April And I am currently down to 234.

Other things I have changed dietaryly.

I have given up soda in the last year.
I have finally given up fast food.  (Which is what causes me to gain and retain weight)  (occassionally eat it but it's like 1 -2 times a month vs 1-2 times a Day)
Walk when I can, park farther from the doors in parking lots
Drink water.

Basically.  Do what u need to do  for U.  
Ask for help, if you need to, and don't be afraid of asking, or ashamed.   Better to ask for help, get it, and be happy.  (And skinny) Then to do what I did and live being over weight for 30 years thinking that I could do it iny own. !!! And fail, time and time again.
I now know, it was a chemical cycle addiction thing my body was in ... No amount of will power was going to overcome.  I needed the meds to break the cycle (to get rid of the cravings)    I now recognize hunger pains, and only eat when I am hungry.    And I only eat til I feel full.  I am able to know the difference now, so I am eating regular sized portions again, seeing I get full before my plate is empty.  Is and has been amazing, and a great feeling I haven't experienced in YEARS!!!!!
Hope this inspires you and others.  
Deb Cobb
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You know, I basically agree with Gym, but he's given better dietary advice on here than Atkins.  Research shows it doesn't last, and it is lacking in antioxidants, and it was devised as a heart protective diet but Atkins died of -- well, heart disease.  There are just better things out there is all I'm saying, but Gym is right -- anything done with discipline can work as long as you temper it with common sense and make sure you get all your nutrients.
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I know a number of people that did Atkins and did great on it and haven't put the weight back on. look you could try hundreds of different diets they probably would all work it's just that you have to stay committed. Fat or skinny whatever you eat is your diet healthy or not! As for Armstrong, just about all the professionals did one form or another of illegal drugs. That doesn't mean the exercise routines aren't good.  
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Word of caution -- Gymdandee is telling you to try Atkins, a long discredited diet, and livestrong, tied to a guy who lied about doing illegal drugs.  There are better things to try, many suggested by Gymdandee.  Again, be careful what you ask for on the web -- you might just get it!  Again, given your history, I'd see a holistic nutritionist and get a diet you can stay on for life.
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I'm one of the SOME ON HERE!
The first thing you have to do is to BE COMMITTED AND MAKE YOUR MIND UP AND DO IT!! YOU KNOW YOU CAN!!

http://www.livestrong.com/myplate/

http://www.atkins.com/

http://www.smashwords.com/books/download/10813/1/latest/0/0/my-low-carb-story-diet-book-cookbook-and-shopping-list.pdf
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People aren't the same, so we can't really give you a diet plan, though some on here will try.  I mean, the basic stuff is easy to say but hard for you to do, which is to eat less and move more and change what you eat, but it sounds like you've had a problem doing that.  Because of that, I suggest you see a holistic nutritionist who will put you on a plan -- that may be easier for you to follow at the present time than doing it yourself, which has apparently proven hard for you to stick to.  I would also consider seeing a psychologist to see why you've gotten to this place where it's hard for you to do what you know is best for you.  Good luck.
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