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Compulsive Toenail Picking

I am looking for information on compulsive toenail picking, I am not finding much information anywhere on this disorder. I remember it starting when I was in my early teens, which is when my parents got divorced, my mom got sick and I started doing drugs and drinking alcohol.

I am 44 now and it is worse than ever. I have had some major trauma in the past few years, but can't stop and I feel helpless and out of control and like there is something really wrong with me. I can't wear sandals or anything that shows my toenails. I am so depressed after I do this.

HELP!
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Onychotillomania:           https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Onychotillomania
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It’s called onychotillomania and I’ve had it since elementary school. It’s in the same family of disorders as trichotillomania where people pull out their hair. I only have a few toenails now and the ones that I do have are severely deformed. If anyone has any tips on how to stop the habbit I am completely open to suggestions.
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I’ve been doing the same thing for months now. I constantly pick at my toenails, and rip chunks off. Right now I have literally no nails, and each time they start to grow back, I rip them back off. If I can’t pick at them, then I go to biting my lip until it bleeds. I’m so embarrassed by it. I’ve been embarrassed of my feet since I was a kid too. I had ingrown toenails on 8 of my toes, and I was terrified to tell my mom. I would literally come home with the tips of my socks soaked in blood, and then hide them. My mom finally found them and came over and grabbed my foot to see them. I had to have surgery to have them removed because they were that bad. Since then my toenails have been disfigured, and now I can’t stop mutilating what little nail I have on them.
How does anyone stop this????
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Same, I'm doing that since I can remember, right now, one of my toenails is completely ripped off. I never knew it was an actual disorder, anyways, there's 2 specific toenails I never tried to get rid of for some reason, it's weird.

Never had a real trauma, one of my toenails was just ugly and I ripped it off
when I was around 4, then the thing continued.
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I do that since I can remember, I just ripped off completely one of my toenails. Never knew this was an actual problem.

Never had a real trauma, one of my toenails was just ugly and I ripped it off
when I was around 4, then, the thing continued.
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I am 43 years old and my "Toe Picking" started when I was a child. I suffered and survived a lot of trauma and abuse even into my adulthood I dealt with much loss. My toe picking habit has caused me so much embarressment over my feet. I hate when people look at them. I have spent many years in therapy and councling over my past traumas and was diagnoised with PTSD, sever depression, agoraphobia, panic disorder and anxiety. All though as I get older I have found ways to cope through meditation and light exercise such as Yoga, along with breathing techniques to calm my nerves. I still have that ugly bad habit, i noticed I usually do it when I let my mind wander. If I stay focused and do my breathing and meditation it helps me to not pick at my toes. Also another big help for me was buying False Toe Nails from the store, i file down the rough parts of my toe nails caused from my picking. Then just glue on the fake toe nails. You can also have them done in a salon but I have not been brave enough to go to the salon to have someone touch my feet. The fake toenails usually last a couple weeks on if you glue them on right. I wont wear sandles unless I have the fakies on.
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having just completed pulled off two toenails this afternoon and one last week   I think we are on to something... I know  I have OCD issues  but never realized it covered this too.  I also pull skin off my fingers and feet.   I know I should stop   and I put things in place (plasters) but the moment they are off   I am at it again.
Gewelznz
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Understand
Me too my left big toenail, or lack thereof, is scary. I cannot stop.
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Im so glad to know that I'm not alone in this, my toes hurt and bleed but I continually do this. I'm so ashamed to wear sandals or go bare foot.  I sit down and bam I'm doing it.. they are so bad now that when I walk they hurt.  I also am on anti depressant meds. I pick the skin around my fingernails also.  Use to bite my nails, stopped that now just pick them to death.  GRRRRR!! it's so frustrating.
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My 11 year old daughter is constantly either biting or cutting her nails. Toe nails and finger nails. The other day there was nothing left of her nails so she chopped off all of her hair. She is in counseling and has been since her father passed in January 2015. The finger/toe nail thing started just before she turned 6 when we got divorced. I'm so scared and don't know what else to do for her. I have been praying to God and crying myself to sleep every night. After this, she will probably have to go back to twice weekly at counseling..  I'm so afraid she will start cutting herself...???
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OMG.. I read all the comments and I am in the same boat..I am peeling my nails off as I type. I pick scabs, peel nails and literally rip off my baby toe nails...and I can't stop it..  I have been doing this since I was a little girl..  and this winter has been the worst in a long time..  I wake up in the night and immediately go to pick at something...  I wish it would stop.... but,.. it feels good to pick.. a relief...  help me.
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I am looking for answers on this subject too... it is quite embarrassing to even acknowledge this
I tear out my big toe nails. I even have a "kit". I ordered a set of tools used to extract blackheads and it came with a tool that has a fine point, like a needle with a slight curve at the very tip. It acts like a tiny hook and i use it to get deep into the nail beds and tear out any skin or nail that is growing with the help of my cuticle clippers and several different types of tweezers and peroxide. I have been doing this for so long, my nail bed has changed to the point of ingrowns are inevitable if I'd ever let them grow. The irony is, thats how this all started. I cant stop. I dont want to, but i really do... I have no nail on my left big toe other than a  horrid looking thing in the middle because I've pulled everything else around the sides and under the  cuticle. What is wrong WITH ME?!
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Hi, folks,

Since this thread is old and the original participants are no longer taking part, we'll close it now.  If you'd like to ask a question or start a new thread about depression, please click the "Post a Question" button near the top of this page.

If you want to discuss compulsive nail/skin picking, hair-pulling, or other compulsions, please feel free to start a discussion in our OCD community here:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-OCD-/show/231

Thanks!

Claire
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i love it i though i was the only one but thank the Lord im not so toe picking is not just me i dont have any toes nails atm..lol and im about to go on a cruise wont i look good with no toe nails...well ill try the socks..b4 i go to the dr. he is just gonna give me a pill that i dont want so socks it is..
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I have had this habit for years. I am very embarrassed by my feet. My toenail picking is so bad that my toenails don't grow properly. In the summer time I will apply fake toenails just so I can wear sandals. I can't stop at times and it bugs me that I do it. I would like to know if there is a way to stop doing it. The urge to pick at my toenails is so bad at times. I never thought for a minute that there was anyone out there with the same problem. I now see that I am not alone.
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Mine grow all messed up. It actually hurts. I have such adorable shoes that i cannot wear because of this.
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SOLUTION:  Take a photo of your feet with your cell phone and upload it as a Screensaver.  
Within two weeks, I stopped compulsively picking off my entire nails.  No more bandaids or visits to the nurse's office at work.  
The Screensaver constantly reminds me that toenail picking is abnormal
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It's called Dermatillomania and I have it too. I'm 20 and unable to wear sandals or cute heels. I haven't had this condition very long but I've always been a nail biter. Nobody knows I have this and all I want desperately is to stop... I have a history of generalized anxiety, panic disorder and questionable OCD, perhaps this is related to it. I think it's the body's way of "releasing" nervous energy... I just can't stop

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If you have the condition that a limb (toe nails) offend you then you need to see a therapist. There is help out there.
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I don't think it is the meds, too many people said they started as young children.
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I just don't like my toenails.

There is a similar however much more severe complex where people don't feel comfortable with a limb. They try and succeed in removing the offending appendage.

Well for me it's the same BUT with my toenails go figure??
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It is usually an anxiety response to something.  I did something similar for quite awhile.  When I began antidepressants I found that helped.  A doctor can help you figure out what might be helpful.  There are also some anxiety meds out there.  I no longer have those tics as often and they are more easily controlled.
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Helpful solutions:
1. Reduce caffeine intake until you can stop it all together.
2. Stop smoking if you do; it gives you more anxiety
3. Wear socks, house slippers or shoes if you are home or anywhere, anytime you tend to pick your toes.
4. Wear gloves when driving if you bite your nails when driving.
5. Wear light gloves in bed if you tend to bite nails late at night.
6. Cover scabs with bandaids and neosporin
until they heal.
7. For the face, invest in a skin regimine that will give you results and help you not want to pick your face. Also wear gloves at time you pick your face.
8. If you bite your nails invest in store bought nails you can glue on. They are not as heavy on the nail and allow your natural nail to grow stronger.
9. Most important for all compulsive pickers: write down or keep notes in your phone of when you pick and what thoughts go through your head at the time. There are usually patterns and this will help address your issues you're ignoring. Also, when you are picking, ask yourself what you're thinking about? Something is making you anxious. Sounds kind of funny, but talk to yourself the way a friend would. And calm yourself down. Some things are out of your control and these are the things that give us anxiety. Care about the things you can control. Change your thoughts. "pick out your thoughts like you pick out your clothes." with intention.
Hope these help :) Im working on them myself but after failing, I just try again. My face picking has reduced tremendously.
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I also find it interesting that many of us are on some sort of medication for depression or anxiety..... Maybe it's got soothing to do with that?? Who knows!!!
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Well now I feel a bit more normal with my quarter toenails that are always sore and bleeding! Thank you all for having this crazy habit! I just wish I knew how to stop! And I would like to know why do the nails hurt if you don't pick them!
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Wow-what a relief to know that I'm not the only freak who picks till I bleed, tear off toenails completely, and am just plain embarressed about my toes. Does anyone know of a support group, or something to that extent to help with this compulsive disorder? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

PS-I live on the Treasure Coast in Florida. Thanks again.
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nope I do it too,   anxiety/  depression ect is the cause
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Hi All, I agree with all of you to find such relief to find I'm not the only revolting person doing this.  I am so ashamed and embarrassed about the problem but I honestly cant stop doing it.  I have bitten my fingernails til there is nothing there - the only way I stopped that was acrylics - I havent cured the problem but at least there's a barrier to it. I pick at pimples, sores, scabs, anything and everything really.  But my most embarrassing thing is that I cant stop picking my toenails.  People ask me what happened to them and I make up completely unbelievable excuses which I'm sure nobody ever believes but at least they stop asking.  My partner must find it revolting but pretends to not notice.  I was having acrylic nails on my toes which again provided the barrier I needed but right now, they are picked so badly that there is not even anything to stick a nail tip to.  I live in Australia so it's hot, so wearing socks is not much of a help.  Besides the compulsion is so strong i just take them off anyway. I have been doing it as long as I can remember and I'm now 42. I am on meds for depression but it doesnt change this habit.  Has anyone tried therapy, hypnotherapy etc for the problem and was it successful?  I really need to stop and there must be a way.  The thought of even telling a therapist about it makes me incredibly embarrassed but if it has worked for anyone, it would be worth trying
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